Key #1
POWER UP YOUR TALENT STORY
How do you start to take charge of your talent? Key #1 engages you to power up your talent story. You begin by shifting from victim of your circumstances to hero of your story. The carefully structured Talent Catalyst Conversation provides a proven way to gain a fresh perspective and stimulate new ideas. Youâll learn how an appropriate person from your collection of coworkers, friends, family members, and acquaintances can be your Talent Catalyst.
Chapter 1
BE YOUR OWN HERO
Strive to live the ordinary life in an extraordinary way.
RALPH BLUM
Your talent lives inside a story. Everyone has a story about his or her talentâwhat it is, how he or she has used it, and whatâs gotten in the way. Your story works either for you or against you. Itâs a story of limitation or a story of possibility: the tale of a victim or the tale of a hero. The victim story is one of fear, moving away from new possibilities, being stuck, and staying put. The hero story is one of hope, obstacles overcome, and action. It is a story of new chapters, fresh energy, getting unstuck, and taking charge. At some time or another throughout our lives, we have all probably played both roles, knowingly or not.
Since no one wants to be the victim of his or her story, itâs good news that the hero story can belong to all of us, not just a golden few. Most of us think of heroes as those extraordinary people who have almost magical abilities. Capes and super powers may even come to mind. For this bookâs purposes, when we talk about being the hero of your talent story, we refer to everyday heroesâpeople who take action in the face of their fears and move toward their hopes to enjoy practical results.
RECLAIM THE POWER IN YOUR STORY
It may seem strange to think of your talent as a story. You may be saying to yourself, âMy situation isnât just a story. Itâs the hard and cold reality that I live.â Thatâs true. The facts are what they are. But pause for a moment to consider the idea that your interpretation of those facts is a story. Changing your interpretation can make all the difference.
Between coaching and delivering talent development workshops, we have met thousands of people and have heard their stories. Letâs look at the situations of some typical people who began with some frustration about their circumstances or hunger for change and transformed their stories using the keys in this book:
Fran: âI want to be a supervisor and know Iâm ready, but the supervisory job opportunities require prior managerial experience. Iâm stuck.â
Sheila: âI want to work on bigger projects that will bring more value to our business, but as a financial services manager, my plate is so full and Iâve pushed my team so far that I donât see any way. I canât spend more time at work; my family would really suffer, and so would I.â
Miguel: âI have much more that I could contribute to our IT firm, but rising higher in the leadership would compromise time with my family and require me to be too political. Iâll keep my head down and continue plugging away at my current role. I guess itâs better to be a little bored.â
Nadia: âIâve been given a great opportunity to restructure our health care organization and want to take advantage of it, but Iâm struggling to lead the way I want to.â
Ben: âI really wanted this job and started with lots of energy and ideas, but now Iâm totally at the mercy of the bureaucracy. I want to teach and show the kids that learning is great, but how can I do that with all the regulations and tests?â
Kim: âIâm not sure I have the talent to pull off this presentation. What am I doing on the same stage with these expert scientists and this CEO? I will probably fail and look stupid.â
Tony: âMy problem is that everyone just sees me as a police chief, when I feel ready for broader opportunities in local government. I canât break out to grow.â
Jesse: âMany people envy my position, but the fact is that Iâm a little bored. Unless my boss dies or retires, this is it.â
Do you see something of your situation in any of these stories, or maybe in several? What does your story read like at this time?
Each of these stories is true in the sense that the circumstances are real. In fact, the stories provide some comfort for the people who hold them. They describe circumstancesâsituations, other people, or even requirementsâthat keep these persons from greater fulfillment of their talent. It gets them off the hook for taking responsibility. As a result, they have a ready response to coworkers, friends, and family members who ask, âWhatâs happening with your job?â The answer is simple: âIâm stuck.â In fact, they may even find sympathy from others. They might hear comments like âYeah, the requirements are unfair. How could anyone expect you to move forward?â âBoy, the economic downturn is really hitting your business. Youâre lucky to just hold on to what you have.â âYou do have an overwhelming workload. I donât know how you do it.â
Thus, there are many reasons for people to hold on to their stories and to keep their circumstances fixed, even immutable, in their minds. But is that how these stories must continue or, worse, end? Are the charactersâare youâstuck in a rut without hope for change?
In each of these talent stories, people have given their power to someone or something else. Indeed, they have become merely players in the stories about other people, their organizations, or economic circumstances.
To create new and more fulfilling chapters in your talent story, you need to take back the lead, the power, of your story. You need to be your own hero. In fact, you are the only person who can be the hero of your talent story. If youâre not the hero of your own story, you simply become a player in one you didnât choose.
Now, many of us donât think of ourselves as heroes. The role sounds too big, too risky, or just not us. That might be true in terms of being a hero on the battlefield, in politics, or while attempting some world-saving feat. However, you can be the hero of your talent story. Weâll show you how and give you examples of everyday people who have done just that.
HOW DO HEROES OF TALENT STORIES ACT?
We all love heroes, especially those who rise from being seemingly everyday people. While they may be ordinary folks, something sets them apart. Heroes act differently because they learn to think differently. Heroes are ordinary people who are willing to go beyond their perceived limitations. They see the potential for growth and change in themselves and their circumstances.
Heroes have hopes. Heroes have hopes and are willing to do ethically what it takes to realize them. Every hero has fears too. Heroes confront their fears and act on their hopes. If they are on course and confront obstacles, they use their talents to find a way to deal with them. However, in the end, they keep moving forward.
Heroes recognize opportunities. Heroes look for opportunities. Where others see dead ends, heroes see possibilities. When heroes see inroads, they take them. If they donât see a way in, they enlist others to help create new solutions.
Heroes act. Even when others are afraid to get involved and prefer to play it safe and watch from a distance, heroes find ways to make steady progress toward their objectives.
Itâs important to note that heroes are not rabid risk takers. While they are willing to try new approaches, they (or the people who support them) usually have a keen sense of risk and opportunity. Indeed, some of the biggest risk takers, Silicon Valley venture capitalists, focus on how to wring risk out of new ventures to help them succeed. Therefore, weâre not suggesting that you bet the farm to develop and apply your talent. Itâs your story. Youâll get to write it how you wish. We will help you to explore the healthy stretches that can lead to heroic results for you.
HOW TAKING A HEROâS ROLE CHANGES EVERYTHING
Letâs look at how the people you met before might reframe their talent stories in simple, practical ways to become their own heroes.
What if Fran could communicate her hopes to a boss or friend and find a way to begin acting like the supervisor she wants to be, right from where she is?
What if there were hidden opportunities for Sheila to work with her team and delegate responsibilities so she could branch out into using her talent to create more value for herself and the organization?
What if Miguel could rise in the organization without compromising his personal and family values?
What if Nadia were to discover that she is struggling in her new leadership position only because she is trying to be someone sheâs not?
What if Ben could find a way to stay passionate about his work and remain productive in spite of the bureaucracy?
What if Kim could use her unique abilities and resources instead of comparing herself with others?
What if Tony could document his broader skills and rebrand himself as a leader guiding innovation in tough budget times?
What if Jesse could shift from thinking his career is set to finding new ways to grow?
Do these what-ifs sound plausible to you? Each of them actually happened. Each of them began with an openness to see the current story as something that the person was willing to look at in a new way. Each of them occurred because the person was willing to explore how he or she might become the hero of his or her own talent story.
BE THE HERO OF YOUR TALENT STORY
Maybe you donât want to wait for someone else to come along and make everything right for you. Maybe you donât want to wait for a golden opportunity or to inherit money from an as-yet-unknown source or to be picked by others to move forward or to wait for your boss to retire or die so that you can advance.
Everything we offer in this book is for people who are ready to be the heroes of their talent stories. The hero story can belong to all of us, not just a chosen few. It doesnât matter what your story is or what your circumstances are. If you are seriously stuck and hate your job, or if you are hoping to make more of the satisfying career you already have, the keys are one and the same.
No matter who you are or what your situation is, it all comes down to one point: you always have a choice. You get to decide how you are going to play out your talent story and your role in it. Unless you default and give the power to someone else, itâs yours to decide.
When we make choices that are in accord with our hopes and desires, we generally feel good and get a surge of energy and commitment that comes from being in alignment and taking charge. This is not to say that we wonât have to deal with tough situations along the road. We all do. But when we hold true to our hopes, we can take the bumps. Weâll talk more in depth about that later.
Is your âcurrentâ story ironclad? Can any story be changed for the good? Can you really turn it around and create a story that works for you? Evidence shows that anyone can change his or her story permanently. But youâll have to be willing to open up to possibilities.
As the hero of your own story, you are the singular beginning point.
We realize that it may seem daunting to see your talent as a story you can change and to position yourself as the hero within it. Perhaps you are thinking, âYou donât understand how limiting my situation is. I truly am stuck, and the tradeoffs feel too big.â Or âIâd like to explore these ideas, but this is a whole new way of looking at myself and my career. How do I make this concrete for myself?â Good questions.
The next chapters will make this process clear for you. Youâll learn about a carefully designed conversation that in the span of about an hour will enable you to begin dictating the talent story you want to pursueâone with you in the lead. Weâll guide you to connect with an appropriate friend, coworker, family member, or acquaintance who will be your catalyst for new insights, opportunities, and actions and will help you to identify resources to realize them. These tools started the people in this chapter on their new paths.
TALENT TAKEAWAY
Your talent is a story you can transform. When you position yourself as the hero of your story and follow a clear set of actions to act out that role, your career and life can change and move forward quickly.
TAKE CHARGE
You may feel that you want to change your talent story, but since change can be scary, you might find yourself dragging your feet. If so, try this:
Make two lists on separate pieces of paper, one titled âBenefits I See for Keeping My Current Story,â the other titled âBenefits I Foresee in Becoming the Hero of My Story.â When you are done, read them aloud several times. Then choose which story you want to live by, and post the list in a prominent place. Throw the other list away. The choice is yours.
Chapter 2
EXPLORE A TALENT CATALYST CONVERSATION
The basic difference between human beings and other species is that we live in a world that is created by the stories we tell.
GEORGE GERBNER
We all need fresh perspective at times â but itâs hard to see life in a new light if we are groping around in the dark for the switch. The Talent Catalyst Conversation is the switch to help you to identify new possibilities and shine light on your situation. Amazing things can happen when you decide to engage your talent, and the first step is to recognize that you are the author of a story you can changeâfor good.
Letâs take a look at Benâs story. Ben felt as if his life were set in stone. âI dreamed of being a teacher and helping others get ahead like my teachers helped me years ago. But I had no idea that Iâd be struggling under the administrative details, standardized test pressures, and internal politics that consume so much of my energy and sap my passion for this job. My teaching job pays OK, and if I can stick it out to retirement, Iâll have a decent pension. I guess Iâll just keep my head down and gut it out, but that feels like giving up on myself and my dreams.â
Benâs not alone. We hear stories from people in corporations, government agencies, hospitals, and small businesses who face similar challenges. They are the walking woundedâcapable and motivated people who feel held back from pursuing their hopes and aspirations. They worry that their vigor and spirit is slowly dying in them, but itâs not clear what they can do to halt the process. Many people try to console them: âHey, welcome to the real world.â Loved ones may feel anxious for them and even for themselves: âLook, it keeps a roof over ou...