Thrive

Finding Happiness the Blue Zones Way

Dan Buettner

• Publisher: National Geographic
• Year: 2010
• ISBN:
  9781426206702
• Topic: Persönliche Entwicklung
• Subtopic: Persönlichkeitsentwicklung

What makes us happy? It's not wealth, youth, beauty, or intelligence, says Dan Buettner. In fact, most of us have the keys within our grasp. Circling the globe to study the world's happiest populations, Buettner has spotted several common principles that can unlock the doors to true contentment with our lives.Working with leading researchers, Buettner identifies the happiest region on each of four continents. He explores why these populations say they are happier than anyone else, and what they can teach the rest of us about finding contentment. His conclusions debunk some commonly believed myths: Are people who have children happier than those who don't? Not necessarily—in Western societies, parenthood actually makes the happiness level drop. Is gender equality a factor? Are the world's happiest places to be found on tropical islands with beautiful beaches? You may be surprised at what Buettner's research indicates.Unraveling the story of each "hotspot" like a good mystery, Buettner reveals how he discovered each location and then travels to meet folks who embody each particular brand of happiness. He introduces content, thriving people in Denmark, in Singapore, in northeastern Mexico, and in a composite "happiest place in America." In addition, he interviews economists, psychologists, sociologists, politicians, writers, and other experts to get at what contributes to each region's happiness, from the Danish concept of hygge, which translates to creating a feeling of coziness, to the Mexican love of a good joke.Buettner's findings result in a credible, cross-cultural formula and a practical plan to help us stack the deck for happiness and get more satisfaction out of life. According to Buettner's advisory team, the average person can control about forty percent of his or her individual happiness by optimizing life choices. These aren't unreasonable demands on a person's lifestyle, and they often require only slight changes. They fall into three categories that make up the way we live our lives: the food we eat, the way we exercise, and the social networks we foster. It's all about nourishing the body and the spirit. Heeding the secrets of the world's happiness all-stars can help us make the right choices to find more contentment in our own lives and learn how to thrive.

CHAPTER ONE

The Truth About Happiness

What makes people happy? For many it’s belonging to a club or social group, as 90 percent of Danes do. Rasmus Bjerner trains his champion rabbit outside Århus, Denmark, to compete at his local Rabbit Jumping Association. PHOTO BY DAVID MCLAIN/AURORA

The Truth About Happiness

Before we dig deeper into the nature of happiness, I’d like you to take a short quiz. I’m going to introduce you to three people I met during my travels, and I want you to tell me which one you think is happiest.

The first is Jan Hammer, a 42-year-old father of three girls who lives in Århus, the second largest city in Denmark. Each morning at three o’clock, his alarm clock rings, and he rolls out of the warm bed he shares with his wife of 15 years. He eats two fried eggs and toast, washes it down with a mug of coffee, and slips into a blaze orange jumpsuit. By four o’clock he’s at the wheel of a high-tech garbage truck and is staring at a NASA-like dashboard with flashing buttons and multiple-view video screens. At each of 59 stops he jumps out of the cab and, with marmot-like zeal, trots from Dumpster to Dumpster and heaves fresh refuse into the hopper with the help of a hydraulic lift. “I don’t even smell it anymore,” he huffs, sweat seeping through his jumpsuit.

The second person is Norridah Yusoh, a 43-year-old housewife who lives with her husband and three school-age children in an apartment in Singapore. Each morning she dutifully puts on a head scarf, covering her hair as her religion requires; makes her children breakfast; prepares lunch for her husband, an accountant; and sends her family off for the day. After they’re gone, she does household chores and, at midday, she might walk to a nearby food market, to buy food from various vendors and stop to chat along the way. Some nights after dinner, she goes to the local McDonald’s, where she socializes with other Muslim mothers as her children nibble french fries and do homework. Then, each night before bed, as tradition dictates, she kisses her husband’s hand to show respect.

The third person is Manuel Uribe, a 45-year-old Mexican man who lives in a working-class neighborhood of Monterrey. Manuel has a knack for trading, a soothing facility for conversation, and a sincere compassion. He’s also a big man. In fact, a combination of bad genes and a taste for junk food has ballooned his weight to the point where he’s confined to a bed in the living room of his mother’s house. This doesn’t impede visitors. On any given day, his room is abuzz with people seeking to cut a deal, to get advice, or just to experience a dollop of Manuel’s charm. At noon, Manuel’s mother brings out his lunch—a lean filet of meat and a generous helping of steamed broccoli. “It’s from the Zone Diet,” he says. “I’ve lost 200 pounds in the last year.” Just then the door opens. Claudia Solis, a 30-something secretary, walks in on high heels. She puts a knee on the bed, cranes her lovely neck, and plants a pink-frosted kiss on Manuel’s lips.

So what’s the answer to the quiz? Which of these three people is the happiest? You’ve probably already guessed the answer: All three of them are happy—so happy, in fact, that, according to the latest research, they are almost certainly three of the happiest people in three of the happiest places on the planet.

How can that be?

Let’s go back to the garbageman. I met Jan at six o’clock on a gray morning in the alley behind my hotel in Århus. He was emptying Dumpsters into his behemoth garbage truck. He greeted me heartily, and I could instantly tell that he was a nice guy. Pulling off a dirty cotton glove, he offered me his plump hand, which emitted the sweet-sour smell of his profession.

Later, seated in his cab, Jan punched the accelerator, and we sped through the misty Danish dawn. “You can’t find a better job than delivering garbage,” he whispered conspiratorially. “I work only 21 hours a week and make $80,000 a year. I drive a Mercedes and take my family to Greece each year.” I looked over at him. He was wearing red square-rimmed glasses, Nike running shoes, and a bracelet that read “World’s Most Beautiful Garbage Man.” By eight o’clock he’d be done with his route and back at the garbage truck depot, he said. After a shower, he’d hit the gym and spa provided by his workers’ union. Some days, he might go to a second job where he worked as a freelance bricklayer. There he would make another $60,000 a year.

More important than the money, though, was the satisfaction he felt with his life. “I’m like the yolk of the egg!” he said, using a Danish expression for “fat and happy.” In his community, there was no stigma attached to the “garbage delivery” business. On weekends, he’d socialize with the dentists and lawyers who lived on his block. Home by three o’clock every afternoon, he had time to help his three daughters with their homework. Three nights a week he’d go to a local gym, where he’d put on shorts, sneakers, a red sports shirt, and a whistle to coach his daughters’ indoor soccer team. His life was rewarding and full.

As for Norridah, listen to what she said when I asked her to rate her happiness on a scale of 1 to 10: “I’m a 9.5! I have a lot of friends from a wide variety of backgrounds.” This was important for her, living in Singapore, because the government there strongly encourages harmony among the nation’s three major ethnic groups: Chinese, Indians, and Malays such as Norridah. “Ever since my school days, I’ve mixed with Chinese and Indians and learned how to make friends with all of them,” she said. “Maybe I talk most with my Malay friends on the phone, but when I go out—which I do every day—I meet my Indian friends at the market or play cards with Chinese friends. My children are the same way. They don’t see color or race, they see people.”

“How about your tudong?” I asked, using the Malay word for a head scarf. “You live in this modern city, your husband is an accountant, your kids listen to iPods. Your scarf seems so traditional. Do you feel you’re free to take if off and show your hair, if you want?”

“That is my own choice,” she said, gently passing her hand over the scarf. “It’s part of our religion, and it is the way of our leaders. I choose to wear it. My daughter’s generation might have different ideas. But it makes me comfortable, so I wear it.”

“And how about this custom of kissing your husband’s hand?” I asked.

“This is a form of respecting each other,” she said. “It’s part of being a good Muslim. Doing it every day makes sure you’re purged of guilt and grudges. I do it from the bottom of my heart, not that I have necessarily done anything wrong. It’s just a show of respect. My husband reciprocates, but in his own way.”

And Manuel? What was the source of his happiness? Here’s what he told me:

“When I was younger, I saw an ad for an electronics company in Texas looking for technicians who could speak English,” he said. “But by the time I was 35, I’d lost my savings, my auto parts business, and my wife,” he said. “I bought a gun and kept it in my bed, thinking I might use it on myself. Then one night God came to me and told me I had work to do.” Manuel went on a diet and started to lose weight. With his mother’s consent, he had a hole punched through his bedroom wall, installed double-wide glass doors to admit the world, and unleashed his knack for deal making. Today he receives up to 70 visitors a day—clients seeking to trade everything from blue jeans to Thompson helicopters, cousins and friends stopping by for a chat, or people seeking his business advice. He doesn’t have to go looking for social interaction; it comes to him.

As I sat with him one evening, his cell phone rang and he lifted the tiny device to his ear. On the other end, a desperately overweight girl was searching for hope. “If I can turn my life around,” he said tenderly, “you can too, dear.” When he hung up, an old friend stopped by for a visit. Then another phone call. This time it was news that the website Manuel runs had crashed. In his smooth, unflappable voice, he troubleshot the problem with the webmaster. I sat back and watched. “Does this ever end?” I asked.

“If it did, I’d be dead,” he said.

A year later, Manuel married Claudia. With her help, he has lost more than 500 pounds. Life has never been better.

These three individuals—a garbageman with time for his kids, a housewife surrounded by close friends, and a junk dealer on a personal mission of faith—share a common characteristic: They all consider themselves to be “very happy.” More than that, they all believe that they will become even happier in the years to come. Like many people, they deal with challenges every day. They experience stress, periods of sadness, and grief. Life sometimes deals them a bad hand. They are, in many ways, not so different from the rest of us. Yet somehow they experience a sense of happiness greater than ours. Researchers have a term for this positive, optimistic condition: They call such people thrivers.

Thriving

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According to the Gallup organization, “thriving” countries are those whose citizens think positively about their lives and report more happiness, enjoyment, interest, and respect. These countries also report significantly lower rates of health problems, sick days, stress, sadness, and anger.

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What’s their secret?

During the past few decades, a small army of psychologists, social scientists, and scholars have asked the same question. Through rigorous experimentation and exhaustive surveys, they’ve given birth to a new science of happiness, focusing not only on defining the nature of human happiness, but also on discovering ways to improve our chances for personal well-being. Before we strike off around the world to learn the lessons of the world’s happiness people, let’s turn to some of the leading experts to understand the scientific fundamentals of the field:

Ed Diener, Ph.D., is Joseph R. Smiley Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, and the author of Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth.

Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside, and the author of The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want.

Ruut Veenhoven, Ph.D., is director of the World Database of Happiness and editor of the Journal of Happiness Studies.

Jim Harter, Ph.D., is chief scientist of workplace management and well-being for Gallup and coauthor of 12: The Elements of Great Managing and Wellbeing: The Five Essential Elements.

Bruno S. Frey is a professor of economics at the University of Zurich and research director of CREMA (Center for Research in Economics, Management and the Arts). He is the author of Happiness: A Revolution in Economics.

Mihály Csíkszentmihályi is Distinguished Professor of Psychology and director of the Quality of Life Research Center at the Claremont Graduate University in Claremont, California.

In what follows, I’ve distilled ideas from their books as well as from my interviews with these experts and sorted their answers according to key questions. Here’s what they told me.

WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

Mihály Csíkszentmihályi: As many a thinker since Aristotle has said, everything we do is ultimately aimed at experiencing happiness. We don’t really want wealth, or health, or fame as such—we want these things because we hope they will make us happy. But happiness we seek not because it will get us something else, but for its own sake.

Sonja Lyubomirsky: I use the term “happiness” to refer to the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile. However, most of us don’t need a definition of happiness because we instinctively know whether we are happy or not.

Ed Diener: The word “happiness” means many things. It means positive emotions. It means life satisfaction. It means generally your life is going well. It means many different things in the different ways people use it. Everyone has this general idea. So I don’t define happiness. I try to use these other, more exact terms, such as positive emotions, life satisfaction, marital satisfaction.

HOW DO YOU MEASURE HAPPINESS?

Sonja Lyubomirsky: We let people define happiness for themselves. There’s no happiness thermometer. No one else can tell you how happy you are. It’s a subjective phenomenon. No one but you knows, or should tell you, how happy you truly are.

Jim Harter: We ask people to rate the quality of their overall life today on a 0-10 ladder of life developed by Hadley Cantril of Princeton, and what they think it will be in the next five years—to tap into their “reflecting” self. The good news is that most people have a more positive view of the future than the present…maybe this keeps us striving for something better. We use responses to questions to categorize people as “thriving,” “struggling,” or “suffering.” We also ask people to recall their experiences from the previous day. This allows us to tap into the “experiencing” self or how much positive and negative emotions and experiences people have on a typical day. These are both important aspects of well-being…the evaluating self and the experiencing self...