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The Joyful Caregiver
8 Steps to Prevent Caregiver Burnout
Josephine Grace
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8 Steps to Prevent Caregiver Burnout
Josephine Grace
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About This Book
The Joyful Caregiver teaches how to be the best caregiver for a loved one in order to help fight their chronic illness.
Author, speaker, teacher, and caregiver Josephine Grace uses The Graceful Processā¢ within The Joyful Caregiver to bring ease and comfort to caregivers and their loved one as they get the care and help they need to fight their chronic illness. For those who are serious about dedicating a portion of their life to the service of a family member who is facing chronic illness, The Joyful Caregiver is for them. Within its pages, caregivers learn how to:
- Help their loved one beat their chronic disease through clear and informative practice
- Communicate clearly with doctors and prevent medical errors with their care
- Get extra support and resources when they need them
- Care for themselves in the process and be guilt free
- Make decisions coming from love rather than fear
- Stay strong and give their loved one the support and care they need, no matter how hard it gets
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Trabajo socialChapter 1:
TIME IS RUNNING OUT!
Caregivers go through more than they will tell you. They give up a lot and rarely have a social life. They can get sick and emotionally worn out. Itās a lot for one person. We never really know until we walk the path of a caregiver ourselves.
I wrote this book for you. I understand and know what youāre going through. The experience of being a caregiver can be complex, confusing, and challenging, but it can also be rewarding when you are provided with resources, tools, and support.
Meet Serena, whom Iāve coached through her dadās battle with cancer. She writes:
I am thirty-five years old, single, self-employed, and mourning my momās death. Truth be told, I donāt think I have time to mourn her death. My dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, and now Iāve become his advocate and caregiver. I need to be a pillar of strength for him. I wonder what itās like to lose your spouse after fifty years of marriage? Heās become more devout to his faith, and my relationship with God has certainly deepened during these trying times. Every morning and every night, my dad and I talk, and before bed, we speak on the phone and pray together. I look forward to the calls with my dad.
I promised Mom, right before she transitioned over to the next realm, that I would take good care of dad. This past year has been extremely challenging. I had a nervous breakdown. My ex fiancĆ© broke off our engagement (over the phone, I might add!). I was laid off work (wrongful dismissal according to my lawyer, but I was too distraught to fight it). My mom had been in and out of hospitals (I was by her bedside most of the time when I wasnāt at work), and my dadās health deteriorated. But I had to keep it together for them. Being a caregiver for your parents isnāt easy, and Iāve burned my candle at both ends many times.
Years ago, I took a trip to Costa Rica for four months to recharge. Itās difficult now to take any trips because my dad depends on me. Heās in a fragile state, and I made a promise to my mom that I would be by his side and take good care of him. I donāt exactly agree with the radiation cancer treatment. Iāve been down this road before with Mom and her prescriptions protocol. How can radiation and prescription drugs build your immune system? Thereās no way! They suppress the symptoms; they donāt do anything with dealing with the root cause! It actually does the opposite. These doctors arenāt even open to the alternatives! They look at me like Iām from Mars when I even bring up any alternative medicine approaches. āDad, there are other alternatives to cure you from cancer.ā Iāve had these conversations often. He just wants to heal from his pain and discomfort at this point. He made the decision to go with the radiation and surgery route, and although I donāt agree, I need to stay strong and support him. Iāve forgotten what itās like to have fun. I keep thinking about my mom. I knew she was going to pass away that night and yet I chose to leave the hospital because I was exhausted. Thankfully, I convinced my brother to stay by momās bedside. I wasnāt surprised when I received the phone call at 5:00 am the next morning.
I spend most of my time in survival mode, trying to find ways to pay my bills and be the best caregiver for my dad. Thatās the beauty of being an entrepreneur. I set my own time and schedule because I need to be flexible for all the doctorsā appointments and time spent with dad. My social life is on hold. I donāt have a television, and most of my spare time I read inspirational self-help books, entrepreneur business startup books, or anything to do with self-improvement and having a healthy lifestyle. I love going for long walks with my dog, spending time in nature, and reflecting on life. Talking with God often has become a priority. He always has my back, and Iām grateful for that. How am I going to stay strong for my dad? I donāt want to have another breakdown. How can I be the best caregiver for him? How do I support his decision for conventional methods when thereās a whole world out there that he hasnāt tapped into? All these questions run through my head all the time! I barely sleep.
Serena came to me distraught and asking for help. She wanted to know how to better handle taking care of her dad so she could help him beat cancer. I started this journey with her, met her where she was, and helped her create a road map with tools and resources to help her dad get the care and support he needed to defeat cancer. In the process, she reconnected with herself and spirit, became self-compassionate, and experienced acceptance and healing. Her levels of anxiety and panic attacks went away, and her dad received the support he needed to navigate his journey.
Maybe your story sounds like Serenaās. Maybe youāre a caregiver for a loved one who is chronically sick or has a chronic disease. The wisdom in this book can be applied to all caregivers and their loved ones. The action steps Serena took to better handle taking care of her dad are the same steps that can be applied in your life to better care for yourself and your loved one. These are wellness principles and skills that you will use for the rest of your life.
Today, Serena is doing well. Sheās a vibrant entrepreneur and wellness advocate living her best life and helping others do the same. She started her journey on her own until she realized she could ask for support. This can be you: implementing new ways to handle your loved oneās care so that they receive the help they need to defeat the disease and you live your best life possible during your caregiving journey.
Chapter 2:
HOW DO I TAKE BETTER CARE OF MY LOVED ONE?
āThe capacity to care is the thing that gives life its deepest significance and meaning.ā
Nine months ago, my friend Patty died, and I didnāt even know she was sick. She had cancer. I found out a week before she died that she was in palliative care at the hospital from a mutual friend. I donāt know why this hit me hard, but it did. I felt the pain and suffering that my friend was going through. You see, nine years ago, my dad passed away with cancer. And what Patty and I shared is we were caregivers for our parents. There was always a bond between Patty and I. We would share conversations and discuss the challenges of being a caregiver. We always thought we were alone in this process until we realized it was one we shared. It was a difficult journey.
Patty died of cancer on her forty-fourth birthday. I didnāt even know she was suffering! I would have loved to have a conversation about this with her and to be there for her when she needed it most. But, I didnāt have that opportunity. I only communicate with her now through the ether. At the same time, our mutual friend Stef was in pain and suffering too. She didnāt forgive Patty for something years before, and she held a grudge for so long, even when Patty reached out several times to apologize and ask for forgiveness. However, Stef was stubborn and chose not to forgive her. So when Stef called me with the news that Patty was in the hospital, she was upset and sad that she didnāt have the opportunity to speak with Patty. You see, she did go to the hospital to visit Patty when she found out the severity of her illness. Patty only had limited time to live. At the door, she was stopped by Pattyās mom, who basically yelled at her and told her to leave. āHow dare you come to the hospital when Pattyās on her death bed. Where were you all these years? You treated my daughter so poorly, even when she reached out to you. You caused her so much pain and grief, and now youāre here? Leave! You are not allowed to enter her room.ā So, my friend left with remorse and tears down her face. To this day, she is still going through this and doesnāt have peace of mind which leads me back to why I wrote this book.
Cancer or any form of chronic disease is very challenging, especially if youāre advocating for a loved one. Essentially, as caregivers, you believe that their life depends on you. Living your life with that belief and burden is stressful. Iām here to share that Iāve been there. I understand what youāre going through. Youāre not alone. Iāve gone through what you are going through now, and I want you to know that Iām here for you. This book will bring you a new level of awareness, a deeper understanding of the Power within you that is greater than any situation, condition, or circumstance. You have the opportunity to activate that Power within you and truly become a leader, advocating for you and your loved oneās life. Both of you matter in this process, and in order for you to understand this, you need someone who has gone through it before you to shed some light and provide you with a roadmap of options and considerations to help guide you on your loved oneās wellness journey. Iām here to love you and support you during this challenging time.
Disease is simply thatādis-ease. When you learn ways to release all dis-ease, through thoughts and lifestyle changes, you will welcome health, love, and happiness into your life. We often hear about self-love, yet weāve never been exposed to it or learned ways to practice it for ourselves or others. For over twenty years, Iāve studied ways to better myself and to serve and help my parents, diving deep into why their dis-ease occurred in the first place and if itās really true that genetics are the main driving force for health.
Iām thrilled to know today that there are many physicians and scientists who have discovered that this is not true. Genes arenāt the main driving force for health. We have the power to change our ādisease realityā into ātruth and wellbeing reality.ā This is what I would love for you to experience, and I invite you to be open, do your own research, and know that there is an Infinite Intelligence that is breathing you, the same Intelligence that will help you through this difficult time and for the rest of your life. Iām here to support you and show you ways to activate this intelligence and power within you.
I was born a caregiver, so I was told by my mom. I always thought and believed this was true, so I lived my life choosing her needs before mine at timesānot always, but when I didnāt, I felt guilty that I wasnāt choosing her needs first. I always had this either/or mentality. Twenty years later, after I met my mentor, Mary, I realized that there is a way to create both/and scenarios, and I want to teach and show you the way. This is what I would have loved to share with Patty, yet I wasnāt given the opportunity to help her. Iām given the opportunity to help you, so Iām doing this for you and for all the compassionate and devoted caregivers. This book will help reduce the stress in your life so that you can be a joyful caregiver and live your best life.
You may read some of this book and ask yourself, Can I do this? Would this really make a difference? Can my loved one really defeat disease? Well, let me share with youā¦ When you agree with the prognosis and start living your life according to the prognosis, then the condition has already defeated you. In other words, the moment one hears that they have a dis-ease, they freak out, fear creeps in, and they start living or essentially dying. There isnāt peace of mind, only fear that becomes the driving force to their decisions and lifestyle. Essentially, theyāve given up. For a very long time, many have radically underestimated our bodyās power to transform and restore back to health. Iām here to share never, ever, ever give up on yourself or your loved one! Our body has the power to heal and recover with the right support.
Over twenty years ago, my motherās prognosis was she had six months to live. The doctor called me into her room and told me to prepare for the inevitable because my mom was going to die. I was furious with the doctor, and I yelled, āWho in the world do you think you are, God!? Unless youāre planning to kill her, you have no right to tell me she has six months to live!ā And at that moment, I realized what had just come out of my mouth. I also want to share with you that from that moment forward, I was determined to up-level my research, determination, and willingness to help Mom live longer than six months. I just knew in my heart there was another way. That was the kick-start for my health and wellness journey. I read books, became a Reiki practitioner, studied nutrition, became an aromatherapist, and studied several healing modalities to help my mom through her journey, and be the best caregiver. I am grateful and appreciative to say that my mom lived for another twelve years! My caregiver journey then continued with my dad when he was diagnosed with cancer. He lived battling cancer for four years. The tools and strategies I learned to cope and navigate my momās health helped me through the caregiving challenges with my dad. These principles shared in this book, are lifelong skills that any caregiver can apply to their life.
Another important lesson I learned was the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment for our loved ones regardless of what we think is best for them. We can provide our loved ones with resources, information, and tools. We may also learn new ways of treating their condition which they may or may not agree to do. Ultimately, it is their decision, and we need to respect their wishes. Serenaās story is a great exampleāshe did not agree with her fatherās decision to do radiation and surgery. This alone can cause stress both for her and her family. She had to learn ways to respect and accept her parentās wishes, regardless of what she felt was the right thing for them. No one can predict what could happen. There is a fine line between being someoneās health advocate while ensuring they have the help they need and want, and providing them with the best care possible, without giving up on them.
There is a way to live gracefully and experience happiness in your life on this difficult journey navigating disease with your loved one. Iām not here to tell you itās easy or that you should be content that your loved one has a chronic condition. Iām here to share with you ways to reduce the stress and be compassionate, resilient, joyful and empowered.
If you practice these steps, you, along with those around you, will see the transformation of light, love, compassion, and improved relationships. You will find the Power within you to help you through the turbulent times. You will have tools and strategies to ensure your loved one receives the care and help they need. You will be guided to the best ways to handle your self-care and encouraged to make yourself a priority. Your health and life matters too! You can be joyful and prevent caregiver burnout.
Chapter 3:
8 STEPSāTHE GRACEFUL PROCESSā¢
Congratulations on taking the first step toward victory! By simply choosing to read this book, you have taken a huge step toward transformation, joy and preventing burnout. You have chosen to take ātime outā from your caregiving responsibilities to do something for yourself. This is often the most difficult step of all. Finding a way to make time to do this probably took a lot of effort, and you will soon begin to see the rewards for your efforts.
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