CHAPTER 1
The Importance of Knowing Where to Look
Heal at the source. Stop nibbling at its fringes.
Melt the icebergs that rise before you.
Stop navigating your ship around them.
This way, your voyage will become more elegant.
A man is standing beneath a street lamp one dark evening, looking for something on the ground. A stranger walks by, notices the man, and asks, āDid you lose something, Sir?ā
āYes, I lost my car keys,ā the man replies.
The kind stranger immediately offers to help find the lost keys.
After looking for some time with no result, the stranger, frustrated but wanting to be helpful, says, āAre you sure you lost the keys here?ā
āOh, no!ā said the man. āI lost them over there in the shadows by the wall.ā
āThen why are we looking here?ā asks the stunned stranger.
āBecause thereās more light.ā Replies the man.
Like the man looking needlessly in well-lit places for keys he knows are lying in dark shadows, weāll never find healing if we do not exercise the will and courage to search the dark places we fear to go. We can cure, thatās true, but curing is not the same as healing. Healing requires knowledge of where to look and the willingness to delve deep into the hidden and often fearsome places within us.
The terms ācuringā and āhealingā are often misunderstood and often erroneously interchanged. For many, they refer to the same thing. Although both have as their objective the elimination of a problem or a condition, be it physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, what it means to heal something is vastly different from what it means to cure it. While curing ends the problem or condition, healing addresses its foundation, thus ending the need for its return. Healing works beyond space and time and depth. The differences are dimensional.
Curing is temporary, healing permanent. Although curing occurs instantaneously, it unfolds over time. Healing, likewise, occurs instantaneously and similarly plays out over time, but since healing transcends space and time, it alters space and time; it changes our very condition. Curing fixes us; healing changes us.
For example, if I have a problem with mosquitoes, I can spray the pond and kill the mosquito larvae. This spraying will fix, will cure, the problem, but the pond, the breeding ground for the mosquitoes, remains. The mosquitoes will lay eggs again and ultimately return. But if I drain the pond, if I heal the pond, thus destroying the breeding ground, the problem will be gone; no more mosquitoes.
Health practitioners may claim to heal, but, in truth, most donāt. That doesnāt take away from the importance of their valuable work of curing, but healing is not what they do. They can end the problem, but the pond remains; the breeding ground still lingers. Healing is required to correct the problem ultimately.
The Frog and the Bubble
There lives beneath the sand at the bottom of a pond, a frog. One day the frog burps. As a result, a bubble forms. As the bubble rises to the surface, it grows bigger and bigger. In time we notice the bubble at the pondās surface. We decide to get rid of the bubble by popping it. In doing so, weāve eliminated the presence of the bubble; weāve cured the bubble problem. But the bubble did not originate at the surface; it did not originate from the first bubble; it originated as distress within the frog living unnoticed beneath the sand. Addressing the bubble anywhere other than within the frog is valuable, but itās not healing.
To use another example, a doctor discovers a defective heart valve in his patient. The doctor surgically replaces the malfunctioning valve resulting in the patient living an active and healthy life. The doctor cured him, but he did not heal him. The source of the problem remains unaddressed. As stated earlier, this in no way diminishes the value and importance of the doctorās work.
Addressing the heart condition, and the bubble, when we catch it at the surface of the pond, is of the utmost importance. But, itās not healing. Remember, the bubble originated within the frog. We experience the bubble when it surfaces in the same way we experience the heart condition through symptoms or detection in some other way. Unless dealt with at its source, the bubble will emerge again in a similar or different form. It will surface because itās not healed. A hidden, unaddressed issue will always demand our attention in one form or another.
The bubble always comes to the surface, never the other way around. The problem is not the bubble; the problem is the frogās distress. All lifeās many issues, illnesses, and crises originate within the Unconscious. In time and space, it will become conscious to us physically, emotionally, or through other problems and conditions. In time, it will surface in the guise of fate.
Where to look? Where to heal the distress?
Look to the Unconscious, for all illness and suffering have their source there. What lies hidden deep within the Unconscious, what we store there, must, in time, surface. We must come face to face with what weāve locked away so we can consciously address it. This surfacing must occur. Our healing requires it.
A malfunctioning heart valve is a bubble we experience, itās the form a particular issue has taken, but the issueās origin is within the Unconscious. Itās there we pursue its ultimate healing. The many factors leading to the faulty valve, such as poor diet, stress, genetic or environmental influences, etc. are the emerging bubbles rising to the surface. Each bubble has a more significant impact the closer it comes to the top. We experience the bubble at the surface but often ignore it as it rises from the frog. Curing and even preventing the condition on a short term basis requires we pay attention.
Everything resides within the Unconscious. Our outer world is a part of the Unconscious we make real for ourselves consciously. Itās an out-picturing of our inner, hidden world. We use measuring devices to make the Unconscious real for us: our five senses, our beliefs and attitudes, thoughts and feelings, choices and decisions, our temporal lobes, our subconscious projections, etc.
The Movie on the Screen
Think of our reality as a movie projected on a blank screen. The storyās not real; itās an illusion we make real through our suspension of disbelief. Weāre the ones who write, produce, cast, and place the film before the projector of our attention. Change the movie, re-write the script, and we alter what we observe and experience; we alter what we give attention to. Trying to change the film on the level of the screen is pointless. The images on the screen are not real, but the story projected is the reality weāre choosing to observe and live. Itās real to us because we believe it is and because we give it meaning, value, and attention.
How do we heal, then? Do we go into the Unconscious somehow to discover whatās there? You could, but you wouldnāt remember what youāve found; youāre unconscious. There are, however, two ways to discover what the Unconscious is telling you, what it needs you to address:
(1) We could wait, knowing that whatever lies within our unconscious, will in time, become conscious in the form of fate, or, in other words, when the bubble reaches the surface. This method, though most elect to take this route, is not recommended.
(2) We can respond to its messages. We can pay attention to how the Unconscious speaks to us, we can pay attention to the emerging bubbles, and we can learn to understand its language and choose to act upon what weāve learned. We can become conscious of our realityās many whispers and shouts. I recommend this route.
The language of the Unconscious is not linear. It does not speak in English, French, Latin, or Urdu. It speaks in the non-linear language of myth, metaphor, archetype, and symbol. When we step back and observe our reality as a myth, a metaphor, an archetypal reflection, or a symbol, we gain a greater sense of what the Unconscious is trying to communicate.
When we step back from the movie, when we end our suspension of disbelief, when we accept that weāre its author, then we have the power to change it.
In linear language, āheartā is a specific organ of the body. In the language of the Unconscious, āheart,ā being a symbol of love, can express any issue concerning love: self-love, loveās loss and pain, loveās absence, loveās humiliation, loveās betrayal, a sense of abandonment, etc. When made conscious in our reality, issues of the heart can manifest at the pondās surface as physical conditions or relationship problems, or in any area related to the emotional heart. Address the Unconscious issue, and thereās no need for its physical manifestation. Bubbles will not surface if we heal the frogās distress. But the Unconscious must be addressed consciously for such healing to occur.
In linear language, ābloodā refers to āthe fluid that circulates in the heart, arteries, capillaries, and veins that carry nourishment and oxygen to, and brings away waste from, all parts of the bodyā (Merriam Webster Dictionary). High blood pressure, leukemia, or any health issue involving blood, is the surfaced bubble. Itās our unconscious shout to address a more deep-rooted problem needing immediate attention. Blood is often a metaphor for family or familial connections. Perhaps the need is to attend to deeper issues around blood ties such as family, community, the nurturing of loved ones or lack thereof, our sense of disconnection, etc.
Remember, whatever lies within the Unconscious will, in time, become conscious in the form of fate. Whatever distress is present within the frog must emerge and grow until it appears full-blown at the pondās surface.
The Unconscious is not punishing us; itās attempting to get our attention. Itās trying to help us. Itās trying to get us to address a hidden problem that stands between us and living a life of health, happiness, and freedom. Everything in our reality is there to help us become more. Nothing in our reality is there to harm us unless we create or allow it so. We may not have created the malfunctioning heart valve, the cancer, or the heart attack, but we allowed it by not listening to the whispers before they became shouts.
When we pay attention to our unconscious whispers, when we learn to listen and observe our reality with sharpened and honed measuring devices, we can transcend anything; we can heal anything. We can turn a tragedy into a love story, a melodrama into a comedy. We can re-write the story in the projector of our conscious perception.
Like the lost car keys, true healing, as well as discovering the more real in us, require that we look in the darkest shadows of ourselves. Healing awaits us there; treasures beyond what we can imagine await us there.
CHAPTER 2
Make Believe: You Make It Then Believe It
Your life is a story of your own creation.
If you donāt like the story, rewrite it.
If you like the story, make it better.
Youāre here to author a masterpiece.
Over ninety years ago, quantum physicists demonstrated that all matter is, in fact, not matter at all, but a wave. And they found that when attention is given to a wave, it collapses into a particle, thus creating a form; matter. When the ancients described all reality as an illusion, they stated a truth science proved thousands of years later to be true. The āsingle slotā and ādouble slotā experiments are two notable examples showing a particles emergence from a wave by the simple act of attention.
In the single slot experiment, researchers took a box and placed a tiny hole on opposite sides. Inside the box, they lined the walls with a photo-like filament that would record tracings, or footprints, when anything interacted with it. They then shot a photon particle of light through one of the holes. What emerged from the opening on the opposite side was a particle of light. However, what amazed the researchers, was when they opened the box, they found tracings along the filament lined walls indicating the movement of a wave. In the box and away from the observerās attention, the particle reverted to its natural wave state. When it emerged from the hole on the opposite side, the wave collapsed once again into a particle. The researchers concluded that this ācollapsingā was due to the attention given to it.
In the double slot experiment, researchers made a box with two tiny holes in one side and a sing...