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What Is Chronic Pain?
PAIN is an inevitable part of the human experience. We are born frail and vulnerable, and maturation does little to change our condition. Regardless of age, we have practically no natural protection from attacks by predators or even from the environment in harsh weather conditions. What keeps us safe is our intelligence and the ability to come up with methods to protect our soft skin, easily broken bones, and vulnerable vital organs. In fact, we humans live in mortal fear of even the slightest wound, and we have devised elaborate mechanisms to protect ourselves. Ironically, our intelligence is also the reason we suffer; our highly evolved brains are able to process and interpret pain. Most living species donât experience pain at all, or at least not in the manner that we humans do. So we pay a price for our keen intellectâwe know firsthand what it means to suffer physical pain.
Although we all know what itâs like to feel pain, the experience means something different to each of us. Thus deriving a definition for pain, an intangible experience that differs from person to person, can be challenging. Among medical practitioners pain is defined as an âunpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage.â1 Despite this rather simple definition, most of us describe pain in other ways. We may describe pain by its characteristics (for example, sharp, burning, aching) or by its stimulus (hot, pricking, sharp). We can talk about painâs intensity (mild, moderate, severe) or use words to describe how we view it (miserable, annoying, intolerable). Despite the countless number of terms we can use to describe pain, however, there are only two things we can know for sure about someone elseâs pain: itâs unpleasant and itâs theirs alone to experience physically.
But just because others canât actually feel our pain doesnât mean they arenât affected by it. Family members are significantly impacted when one member is ill. When someone is chronically ill, as is the case with a chronic pain condition, the family is often thrown into turmoil. Defining how a family functions ânormallyâ when everyone is healthy is nearly as impossible as defining ânormalâ family functioning when someone becomes ill. After all, what is ânormalâ when someoneâs world has been irrevocably altered? How do people function normally when they are plagued with pain, unable to work in their usual manner or maintain intimate relationships with their spouses? Similarly, what is normal for an âunaffectedâ family member such as a child who, when a parent becomes ill, must suddenly be quiet in the house or take on extra responsibilities and chores because the parent is unable to do them? Pain, in fact, is the quintessential solitary experience only in that the person affected is the only one who can physically feel the pain. In all other respects painâparticularly chronic painâis a familial experience that dramatically changes the dynamics of the family as a unit and the functioning of the individual members. This book addresses the impact of chronic pain on the sufferer as well as on his or her family, and suggests ways to help everyone cope with the new reality.
The History of Pain
Humans have been documenting their pain since ancient times. We have found evidence of suffering etched on Babylonian clay tablets, Persian leathern documents, and parchment scrolls from Troy. Chinese acupuncture originated back in 2500 B.C. to alleviate pain, and we still use it today. More recently, archaeologists have found interesting correlations between afflictions of the past and those of the present. For example, Dr. Juliet Rogers studied 3,000 skeletons from a graveyard in Barton-on-Humber, a small village in north Lincolnshire, England. The bones she studied were from the period 900â1850. Dr. Rogers found evidence of a number of arthritic conditions including osteoarthritis, psoriatic arthritis, and Reiterâs and Pagetâs diseases. What she did not find was evidence of rheumatoid arthritis. This led to the hypothesis that perhaps rheumatoid arthritis is a fairly ânewâ disease or at least one that is more common now than it once was. In this way the past may help us understand illnesses we encounter now, though many questions will likely remain unanswered. What is clear is that pain has been a consistent theme throughout human history.
Ancient peoples had many different belief systems to explain pain and illness in general. For example, in 8000 B.C. healers used very sharp instruments to cut holes in the skulls of people while they were still aliveâa procedure now known as trepanning. We donât know for sure why this was done, but one theory is that these holes let out the âbad demonsâ that caused illness. Similarly, Ancient Egyptians believed that gods or spirits of the dead caused illnesses. In ancient China, people believed in two opposing unifying forces, the Yin (feminine, negative, passive) and the Yang (masculine, positive, active). Sickness occurred when these forces were out of sync with each other. Physicians were often religious men whose treatment centered on their theological beliefs and could include prayers, exorcisms, and incantations, among other things.
As the understanding of pain evolved, modern societies began to focus on the physical diagnosis of the underlying problem and then treatment, if available, for that condition. Yet despite many advances in pain medicine, there is currently no one theory to explain why pain occurs. This can be frustrating not only for the person who is suffering but for the entire family, all of whom want âanswersâ when they go to the doctor. Although we have come a long way since army surgeons in the 1500s treated what they thought were poisonous gunshot wounds by pouring burning oil over them, there is still much we donât know about pain and healing. It is beyond the scope of this book to discuss the current debates in pain medicine. Rather, I will focus on how pain, when it persists and becomes chronic, affects the person who is ill and his or her loved ones.
If you are living with chronic pain, itâs important for you to understand how your condition and your reactions to it affect the people you love. If you are the loved one of someone who is suffering chronic pain, you need to know how best to respond to a situation that can often transform the entire family. Reading this book is a great place to begin. Obviously, you canât absorb or take over someone elseâs pain, but you can certainly imagine what pain must be like for your loved one. Great writers and artists through the ages have depicted pain with pictures and words to allow us to experience vicariously the pain of others. For example, in the Iliad, Homer describes with grim detachment the gory details of brutal combat. We know from historians that Napoleonâs men would continue to fight with amputated limbs, and artists have drawn great battle scenes depicting this phenomenon. Understanding chronic pain in your own family begins with empathy for the person suffering, but also involves encouraging yourself or your loved one to live as full and active a life as possible despite the pain.
The Language of Pain
Descriptions of othersâ pain can elicit great empathy from us. The novelist Fanny Burney left a detailed account of the mastectomy she underwent without anesthesia on September 30, 1811 (ether had not yet been invented). With only a wine cordial (perhaps with laudanum) to calm her, she watched through a transparent handkerchief draped over her face as the surgeon marked the spot on her breast where he would plunge his knife. Burney writes of the knife âcutting through veinsâarteriesâfleshânervesâ as the surgeon began âcutting against the grain.â She describes her agonized screams as he scraped at her breastboneâscreams that lasted throughout the surgery. Burney writes of her primal response, âI almost marvel that it rings not in my Ears still . . . so excruciating was the agony.â2
Pain has its own language. Burneyâs screams resonate with us, even though her surgery was approximately two centuries ago. We know how pain is expressedâgrunts, roars, groans, moans, sobs, cries, screams, and shrieks. When someone we love is in pain, we want to do whatever we can to help. When we are in pain, we want to be helped, to be relieved of the âunpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage.â To be relieved of pain. But even more than that, we want to be relieved of suffering.
In the case of chronic pain, however, language can become a problem. In the pain literature, the language of pain is often referred to as âpain behaviors.â In general, pain behaviors are things that people do or say to let others around them know they are suffering. Often these behaviors stem from a need to inform others that the pain is real and the suffering genuine. Pain behaviors can manifest in many ways and may include constant or intermittent moaning, groaning, rubbing the neck or back, grimacing, limping, or constantly changing positions. People who are in pain often fall into a pattern of continually calling attention to their suffering, to no real advantage and often to their own detriment. For example, a person who moans frequently in response to pain does not change the physical experience. But the moaning may cause a spouse to respond in either an overly solicitous manner or with hostility and resentment.
Both responses tend to have negative effects on the person in pain and on the relationship in general. The overly solicitous spouse who constantly responds in a supportive and loving way to pain behaviors reinforces the disability of the person in pain and can even encourage more pain behaviors and less physical activityâall without a real change in the physical condition. At the other extreme, when a spouse becomes frustrated, resentful, or even outwardly angry, the effect on the person in pain and other family members who witness this breakdown in the relationship can be disastrous.
Pain behaviors are widely regarded as âmaladaptive,â meaning they serve no real purpose and can be very detrimental. Itâs critical for people in pain and their family members to recognize these behaviors and to work to change them. Effective communication comes not in the persistent moaning of someone in pain but rather in honest and loving communication.
The literature supports both a cultural and a gender role in the language and experience of pain. For example, it is well known that many more women than men seek out and receive treatment for pain. Women typically report more pain (especially musculoskeletal), a higher severity of pain, and pain for a longer duration of time. We donât know definitively why women are more likely than men to seek help. This phenomenon may be due to psychosocial factors such as societyâs willingness to tolerate âsensitiveâ women who express themselves and give voice to what is bothering them, and powerful social taboos against men expressing pain. Biological factors such as sex hormones and the different musculoskeletal structure of women may also play a role.
Cultural and socioeconomic differences may also be factors in how people respond to pain. For instance, some studies have indicated that certain cultural groups may be less inhibited than others about expressing their pain. Socioeconomic influences go hand in hand with cultural differences. For example, people from poor economic backgrounds may view pain as a tremendous threat to their employment and even to their survival. In societies where anesthesia is not routine for dental procedures, either because it is not available or because it is not customary to use it, children and adults often undergo what many people would regard as agonizing surgery without complaint. As with the gender disparity, cultural and socioeconomic differences clearly affect the language and experience of pain, though we donât know exactly why.
How to Eliminate Chronic Pain Behaviors
PERSON IN PAIN
⢠Use words to describe what youâre experiencing. Keep in mind, though, that people donât constantly need to hear exactly how youâre feeling. There are many times when âsuffering in silenceâ will be beneficial to you and your family members.
⢠Donât hold your spouse or other loved ones responsible for your physical comfort. If you need something and can get it yourself, then do so.
⢠Try to avoid canceling plans with peopleâitâs disappointing for them and for you. If you can manage the activity, then go ahead and do it.
⢠Understand that the less active you are, the more pain youâll have as a result of physical deconditioning. So try to remain as active as possible.
⢠If youâre unable to handle household responsibilities that were once yours, then take on new ones that you can manage in order to lessen the burden on your loved ones.
⢠Be your own advocate and seek legitimate medical treatment. Follow your doctorâs advice unless there is a compelling reason not to. If you donât want to do something your doctor recommends, then discuss this with him so that an alternate treatment plan can be implemented.
⢠Engage in regular, but not incessant, honest and open communication with your family members about whatâs happening to you and how youâre feeling. Ask them how theyâre feeling and listen with empathy. Remember that just because youâre feeling the physical pain doesnât mean theyâre not suffering as well.
FAMILY MEMBERS
⢠Donât constantly ask how your loved one is feelingâparticularly when the person is not complaining or focusing on the pain.
⢠Encourage the person in pain to do whatever he can to help himself and the family.
⢠Avoid taking over all the responsibilities for the familyâask and expect the pain person to help whenever possible.
⢠Donât be the go-between for the pain person and the doctorâthey should have their own relationship, and the person in pain should be responsible for following through with all treatment plans.
⢠Donât cancel your plans to do things just because someone else is in pain. Enjoy the things that you can do. Keep in mind that children often cope the same way their parents do. If your children see you shut down and become reclusive, they may do the same. On the other hand, if they see you enjoying yourself and having fun despite difficulties at home, they will likely respond in kind.
⢠Engage in honest and loving communication on a regular basis with both the person in pain and other members of the family who may be affected as well.
⢠Donât respond to maladaptive pain behaviors. If you can, point out these behaviors in a loving way and try to reinforce the fact that theyâre not useful.
Virtuous Pain
None of us wants to experience pain or, worse yet, live daily with unrelenting pain. But is pain intrinsically bad? Is there anything redeemable about something that causes so much suffering? Obviously there are times when pain is useful. For instance, the very uncomfortable burning pain we feel when we touch a hot pan tells us to remove our hand immediately or we will suffer further injury. Itâs not uncommon for individuals with paraplegia and loss of sensation in their legs to inadvertently injure themselves by spilling hot coffee or some other substance without being aware that they had done so. Just about every doctor has a story about a patient with diabetic neuropathy (a condition that causes loss of sensation primarily in the feet) who walked around barefoot and stepped on a sharp object without even realizing it.
In his book The Culture of Pain, David Morris describes a man named Edward H. Gibson, a vaudeville stage act billed as the Human Pincushion.3 Gibson would walk on stage and allow audience members to stick pins in him anywhere except the groin and the abdomen. During one show, Gibson thought he would do a reenactment of the Crucifixion. A woman in the audience immediately fainted when a man with a sledgehammer drove the first spike into Gibsonâs left hand. As Morris notes, Gibson wisely canceled the show. An audience that could tolerate watching a man being pricked by small pins was not prepared to watch him mutilate himselfâeven if he didnât feel it.
Gibson most likely had what is known as a congenital insensitivity to pain. Children with this condition may die prematurely because they are more likely both to sustain serious injuries and to ignore the injuries when they occur. This condition has led to the belief that pain has great survival value for us. Every time we shift our legs because we ache from being in the same position or donât touch something thatâs hot, our bodies remind us that pain is a very useful sensation that helps us protect ourselves.
Understanding and Classifying Pain
One way doctors classify pain is by how long it has been present. This is clearly an artificial and arbitrary classification, but it helps guide appropriate treatment. Pain is classified temporally as either acut...