Developing trust and rapport with a client forms the basis of a sound psychotherapeutic relationship. An individual’s feelings of threat tend to decrease in an emotional climate of support and reciprocity. Understanding a client in inclusive relational contexts also represents the promise of empathy that is in keeping with the view of many counselors and therapists as an essential therapeutic aim. For these practitioners, a sensitive and accurate awareness of a client’s experiencing seems indispensable for engendering treatment progress. For decades, scholars and researchers have explored the effect of the therapy relationship and client understanding on treatment outcomes. Today, however, with an emphasis on targeted symptom relief, defined protocols, and session time limitations, the urgency of fostering human connections and seeking a deeper way of knowing a client are subject to speculation relating to professional efficiency. In this regard, the promise of empathy has become debatable—even in the most fundamental therapeutic arenas of relating to and understanding a client.
Empathy and the Therapeutic Relationship
The reciprocal and interactive quality of the therapeutic relationship encompasses multiple components that have a potential to foster the development of a positive milieu in which to effect client change (Bachelor & Horvath, 1999; Sexton & Whiston, 1994). In an effort to distinguish critical aspects of the therapeutic relationship, Bordin (1979) made reference to the personal bonds between a client and a therapist, a striving towards mutual goals, and a viable means to achieve them. Since Bordin initially defined the alliance or working alliance, the formulation has been a focus of extensive empirical research and training endeavors in counseling and psychotherapy (Sexton & Whiston, 1994). Understandably, engendering emotional connections and collaboratively working towards shared aims are sound treatment pursuits. Implications relating to empathy in the alliance involve the relational bonds in which a client feels understood through an emotional climate of mutuality and respect. At the same time, Horvath (2018) cautioned that important distinctions between the alliance component and the broader conception of the therapy relationship can be obscured by adapting and extending the definition of the alliance beyond its initial iteration by Bordin in 1979. In recent years, the more narrowly conceived working alliance has nearly become synonymous with the ther-apeutic relationship, potentially creating significant misunderstandings in research, training, and practice (Gelso, 2019; Myers & White, 2010).
Beyond the alliance, the real or personal relationship is also situated within the broader context of the therapeutic relationship (Gelso, 2011, 2019). Frequently, there is confusion between the alliance and the real relationship due to a similarity of the relational concepts. Both processes facilitate the development of emotional bonds, but ultimately serve different functions in therapy practice. The working alliance emphasizes the sharing of mutual goals and tasks, while the real relationship is a product of the personal connections in the treatment encounter. Greenson (1960, 1967) conceptualized the working alliance as emerging from the real relationship. More recently, Gelso (2019) found that both modes mutually influence one another in the direction of therapeutic gain and seem to emerge simultaneously. Greenson’s framework also includes transference/countertransference configurations with the potential to hinder or enhance the relationship between a client and a practitioner. Although the three processes, the alliance, the real relationship, and transference reactions, overlap, it is conceptually possible to distinguish each formulation in order to clarify sound research and treatment practices.
In the therapeutic relationship, Greenson (1967) asserted that the real relationship is often overlooked and misunderstood as a significant variable. Through a pursuit to identify elements of the real relationship, he made reference to the genuine and realistic relations between a therapist and a client (Greenson, 1967). Genuineness reflects the ability to be one’s authentic self in the relationship, and realism pertains to accurately understanding another’s reality in undistorted and unbiased ways (Gelso, 2011). In therapy contexts, genuineness manifests in being who one truly is, in contrast with assuming a phony or inauthentic facade. Genuine expressions of feelings and thoughts involve experiences of loss, failure, rejection, hope, success, joy, and other matters in the province of human existence (Gelso, 2011).
In response to such intimate disclosures, a counselor or a therapist attempts to empathically connect with client narratives through affirming and respectful interactions emphasizing a two-way relationship. With respect to realism, being perceived in realistic terms involves a process of empathic understanding, and a failure to accurately capture the reality of a client frequently evokes negative emotional reactions. For example, a client exclaims with irritation: “I don’t think that you know me at all.” “You keep pushing your ideas on me.” “Are you listening to what I am saying?” In a more therapeutic direction, a practitioner has a subjective capacity to fleetingly identify with the life experiences of a client, and this empathic attunement bolsters and strengthens the real relationship.
As evolving concepts originally formulated by Sigmund Freud, configurations of transference and countertransference are influential variables in the therapeutic relationship that are recognized in most contemporary approaches in counseling and psychotherapy (Sommers-Flanagan & Sommers-Flanagan, 2017). In treatment practice, transference and countertransference dynamics have a potential to compromise or enhance an empathic relationship between a client and a practitioner. Traditionally, transference reactions encompass a client’s largely unconscious projection of feelings and attitudes rooted in past ways of relating that are directed at a practitioner in the present (Corey, 2017). Transference involving parents, siblings, and other significant persons in the early life of a client produce distorted perceptions of a positive or negative valence that do not fit the counselor or therapist (Cormier, Nurius, & Osborn, 2017). Empathically understanding transference dynamics facilitates the exploration of a client’s less accessible past relations that deter therapeutic change and progress towards forging the real relationship (Greenson, 1967).
In contrast with transference centering on misperceptions of the client, countertransference relates to unresolved personal issues of a counselor or therapist that restrict empathic understanding and hinder the development of genuine and realistic therapeutic connections (Gelso, 2011, 2019). As an example, a therapist repeatedly demonstrates an excessive pattern of nurturance and a crossing of professional boundaries with a client that disrupts the development of a mutual and reciprocal relationship. As the practitioner gains an awareness of countertransference reactions and begins to manage the conflictual issue, an empathic understanding of a client emerges that had previously been masked and there is an accompanying growth in the real relationship (Cormier, Nurius, & Osborn, 2017).
Within the context of a therapeutic relationship, a counselor or a therapist has an empathic capacity to emotionally engage a client while being able to shift to a broader and more reasoned position in order to reflect in more depth about the individual’s condition. In this regard, as a psychoanalytic conception, a practitioner may assume a participant observer stance with a client by oscillating between personal connections and data-informed ways of knowing (Greenson, 1967; Sullivan, 1953). A participant involvement enables a therapist to form a close relationship that is essential for grasping intimate details in the lived experience of a client (Greenson, 1967). At the same time, embracing a more detached stance facilitates a dispassionate understanding of conceptual and theoret-ical material relating to the functioning of a client. Further, a participant posture fosters an optimum capacity for empathy when therapeutically moving back and forth between experiencing with the client and then thinking about the person (Jaffe, 1986).
In treatment practice, a counselor or a therapist is in a position to shift from functions of subjective experiencing to a more analytic and objective position in order to empathically enhance a therapeutic understanding of a client from multiple perspectives (Gelso, 2019). As an example, from a participant mode a counselor becomes aware of her tendency to be excessively controlling in interactions with clients in counseling. By stepping back and assuming an observer role, she is able to empathically grasp the reality of a client more accurately and recognize the possible operation of countertransference involving personal control issues. In this instance, the counselor engages in critical thinking by reflecting on how she experiences her controlling tendencies through different, but related perspectives (Deal, 2003).