Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on. Vogue, 10 of the Most Anticipated Books of Spring 2018
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Buzzfeed, 33 Most Exciting New Books of 2018 In this valuable and timely anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what it means to live in a world where women have to measure the harassment, violence and aggression they face, and where sexual-abuse survivors are 'routinely second-guessed, blown off, discredited, denigrated, besmirched, belittled, patronized, mocked, shamed, gaslit, insulted, bullied' for speaking out. Highlighting the stories of well-known actors, writers and experts, as well as new voices being published for the first time, Not That Bad covers a wide range of topics and experiences, from an exploration of the rape epidemic embedded in the refugee crisis to first-person accounts of child molestation and street harrassment. Often deeply personal and always unflinchingly honest, this provocative collection both reflects the world we live in and offers a call to arms insisting that 'not that bad' must no longer be good enough.
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Picture Perfect
SHARISSE TRACEY
DADDY MOVED US OUT TO CALIFORNIA WHEN I WAS FIVE; Mommy didnāt like it there. I hated being there as an only child mostly because, if Iād had a brother or sister, I wouldāve had someone to play with. Daddy said that I was spoiled, but I worked more at thirteen than he did; like Cliff Huxtable, he was home a lot while Mommy worked at the phone company.
My dad was a freelance photographer who worked steady for a while until he got too sick with sickle cell. I never really saw him in a photo shoot with models (or women wanting to be models), but I sure saw the results in his albums. My mom didnāt seem to mind about the picturesāor, if she did, I didnāt know. I never heard them arguing about his photography or the women in the shots.
Despite moving around a lot, we always had a darkroom where he developed his precious photos; heād spend hours in there, but I had strict instructions never to enter. He smelled after being in there, a caustic cologne of chemicals and Benson & Hedges from which I was largely spared because he rarely ever even hugged me. The only time I was close to him was when I helped him do test shots.
āStand there and look straight into the lens, Tracey,ā heād say. āDonāt move.ā
I would stare at the lens or the tip of his cigarette; I was just a prop, a way to test out new equipment and practice before the occasional big freelance gigs that helped camouflage the fact that he wasnāt the primary breadwinner.
The year I was thirteen, my friends and I wanted model-like pictures of ourselves, the Glamour Shots kind that would eventually infiltrate every mid-American strip mall. Our pubescent hearts were set on mature photosāracy evenāin our bathing suits, and weād pinned our hopes for them on the one photographer who captured all the young girls in PasadenaāTate. Iād already tagged along with another girl from school and witnessed her photo session. I knew the setup. Safety was not my concern.
āThat old guy in the wheelchair?ā said my mother when I asked. āOh no, no no no. I donāt trust him.ā
āBut, Mom, he takes everyoneās pictures in Pasadena!ā
āSharisse,ā she said, āyou donāt know what that man could do!ā
At the time, I didnāt get what she was implying, but, yes, he was pretty much Child Pornographer #1 from Central Casting, an aging hippie in a wheelchair, making a living taking pictures of young girls in a dark house. But I never had any problems with him; heād never said or done anything to me that felt off.
āWhy not let your daddy take your pictures?ā she said. āHe takes great photographs.ā
āDaddy?ā Iād never thought of my father. Why would I? I knew he took great pictures but we were talking about Glamour Shots, in swimwear. . . . And he was my father.
It wasnāt just modesty, though: my father and I didnāt have a good relationship because I had stubbornly refused to be a son. I would have never thought to ask him for anything remotely supportive; I didnāt ask him for anything.
But I took my motherās suggestion because I was thirteen and impatient: I wanted pictures that made me feel pretty and important (and maybe a little bit sexy), and nothing says lightning-fast delivery quite like a man with a camera and darkroom already in your home.
When I asked my father to do something for me for the first time ever, I was alone in the house. He said yes and decided to do it right away: my friends, who had always been more skeptical of my motherās suggestion than I was, ended up being busy that day, and so it was just me.
Daddy set up our dining room that day to look like a photography studio, putting up the blue backdrop screen that he used with his Real Models without talking much. He was always very serious when taking pictures. He told me to put on my bathing suit, but I didnāt actually have one, despite my plans with my friends. My last known bathing suit had gotten lost in the six months we were homeless. According to the boys at school, only my legs, forehead, and smile were getting bigger, not my butt or breasts. As much as I loved the water, I hadnāt had a reason to replace it. All I had was my new blue-and-white polka-dot bra and panty set that Mommy just bought me from JCPenney.
āItās no different than a bikini, Tracey,ā he said. āReal models wear much less than this.ā
But I wasnāt a real model, and he was my daddy.
He sent me to get the baby oil from the bathroom, then flipped open the pink top, and poured the oil into his hands. He showed me how to apply it, the way his real models did. My father rubbed the oil on the uppermost part of my back and shoulders as if he were frosting one of the delicate cakes he baked. He wanted my body to glisten.
āJust relax, Tracey, youāre doing fine, there is nothing to worry about.ā
I didnāt feel fine, but I tried to reassure myself. I know Daddy is a photographer, I thought. I know he takes good pictures. I know Mommy thought it was a good idea. She didnāt want Old Man Tate to take my pictures. Maybe if Mommy was here I would be more comfortable. I should say something to Daddy, tell him I want to wait.
I didnāt. Instead, I kept telling myself, If Iām ever going to be a Real Model, I have to get used to this.
Finally the photo shoot ended, and I went to change clothes in my room when he called to me.
āYes, Daddy?ā
āI need you to come in here for a minute.ā
Daddy had an idea: he asked me to lie down on the bed for a few shots in my bra and panties. I was confused; all the other pictures were taken in the makeshift dining room studio.
āEverything will be okay, Tracey,ā he said. āJust relax.ā
He laid me down gently and, one hand holding his camera, the other moved the crotch of my brand-new blue- and-white polka-dot panties to one side.
For once, I was glad I didnāt have a little sister.
I TOLD MOMMY A WEEK LATER.
She looked at me hard and then she hugged me even harder. She asked why Iād waited seven days to tell her, but I didnāt have an answer. Mommy didnāt say anything else; we just went and rode home from her job in silence.
Of course Daddy denied it; I expected that. I didnāt expect Mommy to believe him, and she didnāt.
So after Daddy finally confessed, I assumed Mommy would throw him out; all along, I had thought that Mommy stayed with Daddy because he was sick and she felt sorry for him.
But she didnāt make him leave.
It was her house, she paid the bills, and she worked. He didnāt. Why did she still care for him and let him stay, after what heād done to their daughter? I was so filled with rage; I couldnāt understand her pain and I didnāt understand her choices. How could she, after all this, love us both equally, maybe even love him a little more than she did me? Even though he raped me, it was treated as something we were both guilty of; I just refused to wear my half of the shame.
My father attended our church sporadically. His health was always an excuse for absence while his photography afforded him plenty of opportunities to be seen at his best. Our pastor, reverends, and deacons all held him in high regard, so when my mother sought advice from our church, it was treated much in the way as the counselor had. No one could believe it. They left us to deal with the matter the best way we knew how, on our own.
A counselor coworker of Daddyās warned my mom that she should let him stay because if my father were forced to leave, the overall damage to our family could be irreversible. I thought it very ironic, given all the times my father was unemployed, that it was an associate of his who came to our aid. As a counselor, he volunteered his services to the family as a favor to my father. This doctor, like most of the people my father was in contact with, believed him to be a good and decent man.
āYour father told me what happened, Tracey,ā the counselor said as I sat on the edge of the chair in his hospital office two weeks later. āDo you think you can forgive him?ā he asked.
My parents sat on the couch on the other side of the room, my mother on one side, gripping her purse, and my father quietly on the other, his head down and his eyes up. It was the second time in two weeks that Iād been asked to forgive something I was struggling to comprehend on the most basic level. (Daddy had also asked me for my forgiveness, after he stopped denying to my mother that heād raped me.)
The psychiatrist paused expectantly, as though Iād missed my cue.
āIāll try,ā I said.
āGood, good, good, Tracey,ā he said.
āMy name is Sharisse,ā I said. āOnly Daddy calls me Tracey.ā
Daddy, and his whole family, had wanted me to be a boy, so they never used my first name: they all called me Tracey because it could conceivably be a boyās name.
āOkay, Tracey . . . sorry, Sharisse,ā the so-called counselor droned on. āIāve had a long talk with your father. I know him quite well, you know. Heās very sorry and I donāt think he will ever do this again. This was just a onetime thing.ā
Daddyās friend was so glib about Daddy raping me, as if it was just a fluke, a regrettable blip on an otherwise unblemished record, like that one time you drove blackout drunk, or that one time you stole your grandmotherās purse and did black tar heroin: that one time you raped your only child.
āBesides, youāll come back to see me. Weāll talk about whateverās confusing you. Youāre a good girl, Tracey, right? Tell me, Tracey, whereās your favorite place to go?ā
āWhat do you mean?ā I said, without correcting him about my name again.
āYou know, your favorite place!ā he said enthusiastically, as if it were a perfectly natural segue from talking about That One Time Your Father Raped You Which Will Totally Never Happen Again He Swears.
āI think the three of you should go someplace. As a family. You pick!ā
āI donāt know,ā I said.
āCāmon, Tracey,ā he wheedled. āWhereās your favorite place to go? Where would you really like to go? Anyplace at all!ā
āI just went to Magic Mountain with my eighth-grade class.ā
āThatās it,ā he said, clapping his hands with a satisfied grin at my stricken parents. āMagic Mountain. There. Take her to Magic Mountain.ā
WHEN MY FATHER WAS INSIDE ME, THERE WAS A MOMENT that I didnāt cry. The minute before I didnāt cr...
Table of contents
- Cover
- Title
- Copyright
- Contents
- Introduction
- Fragments
- Slaughterhouse Island
- & the Truth Is, I Have No Story
- The Luckiest MILF in Brooklyn
- Spectator: My Family, My Rapist, and Mourning Online
- The Sun
- Sixty-Three Days
- Only the Lonely
- What I Told Myself
- Stasis
- The Ways We Are Taught to Be a Girl
- Floccinaucinihilipilification
- The Life Ruiner
- All the Angry Women
- Good Girls
- Utmost Resistance: Law and the Queer Woman or How I Sat in a Classroom and Listened to My Male Classmates Debate How to Define Force and Consent
- Bodies Against Borders
- Wiping the Stain Clean
- What We Didnāt Say
- I Said Yes
- Knowing Better
- Not That Loud: Quiet Encounters with Rape Culture
- Why I Stopped
- Picture Perfect
- To Get Out from Under It
- Reaping What Rape Culture Sows: Live from the Killing Fields of Growing Up Female in America
- Invisible Light Waves
- Getting Home
- Why I Didnāt Say No
- Contributors
- Acknowledgments
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