Just Love Her

Thoughts on How to Not Just Live in but Glorify God in the Middle of My “Bad” Marriage

D. E. Fast

• Publisher: Resource Publications
• Year: 2022
• eBook ISBN:
  9781666796902
• Print ISBN:
  9781666737448
  9781666796896
• Topic: Theology & Religion

"What you need is a good woman." That was my mother's consistent counsel from the time I didn't get asked to play on the neighborhood little league team to when Donna and I broke up in high school. "What you need is a good woman, Don." I believed my mother when she said it. I didn't walk around on a daily basis and repeat the mantra of the good wife, but I did take it to heart. It wasn't until I got married that I realized that although I had a good woman, life wasn't getting easier or more fulfilling--in fact, it was getting much, much harder. One of the goals of Just Love Her is to identify a number of the fallacies that many of us men have hung onto, believing like me in my younger days that when you find the right woman, all your problems will magically disappear. Most of the time (not all, but most) it's after marriage that the real problems begin. It's not that they weren't there before, it's just that our "good woman" turns into a full-length relational mirror exposing the sin and idolatries that were already there, but were easy to run away from, before we got hitched to our eventual "bad" wife. This little book will identify one of the main causes of "bad" marriages: idolatry. Many if not most, men "worship the ground she walks on" instead of just loving her.

Table of contents

• Title Page
• Why Write This?
• To Whom?
• You Won’t Be Able to Do This
• Motivational Verses
• Helpful Books to Consider Reading
• A Little Background
• This Is Not One of Those Books
• The Relational Iceberg
• “Bad” Marriages
• The Whys of My “Bad” Marriage
• “Bad” Wife Identifiers
• Grace?
• Accepting the “Bad” with the Good
• Offended by My “Bad” Marriage?
• Did God Really Put Us Together?
• Everybody Plays Broken
• An Imperfect Marriage Is Perfectly OK
• If He Were My Number One Passion,She Wouldn’t Be My Number One Problem
• Love Him When You “Can’t” Love Her
• Turbocharging the Love-Him-When-You-“Can’t”-Love-Her Thing
• Placing the Truth of God over Emotions
• Dipping Toes and Letting Goes
• With a Significant Why, We (He and I) Can Handle Any What
• What’s Impossible for Me Is a Walk in the Park for Him
• Which Is a Bigger Deal, That You Get Satisfied or That God Gets Glorified?
• Which Is More Important to You?
• Sacrifice It
• Suffering
• Suffering II
• Pain
• Pain II
• Pain III
• Pain IV
• I Choose to Suffer Because . . .
• Forgiveness
• Forgiveness II
• Resentments
• Resentments II
• Placing Intellect over Emotion
• “I Choose Us”
• You Are My Life; She Is My Wife
• A Full Life
• Taking What Matters into My Own Hands
• Primarily Sacrifice and Courage
• Let’s Talk about Sex
• Which Is a Bigger Deal?
• The Exchanged Life
• The First Evidence of Change
• If It’s Worth Doing It’s Worth Doing Badly
• The Number One Indicator of Success in Life
• Jesus Loved Judas
• Take What You’ve Been Given and Pass It On
• Pick Up Your Cross Daily and Follow Me
• Stick It Out!
• The Christian-Marriage Martyr
• It’s Not Good for Guys to Be Alone
• Maybe She’s God’s Tool?
• Annoyances Are My Problem Not Hers
• She’s the Biggest Mistake of My Life