Beyond Borderline

Hoffman, Perry D, Gunderson, John G

• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
• Year: 2016
• eBook ISBN: 9781626252356

"These survivors hit their mark in helping to change the conversation about borderline personality disorder (BPD)."
— Jim Payne, former president of the National Alliance on Mental Illness This provocative book uncovers the truth about a misunderstood and stigmatized disorder, and offers an opportunity for a deeper, more empathetic understanding of BPD from the real experts—the individuals living with it.

BPD affects a significant percentage of the population. It is a disorder of relationships, one whose symptoms occur most in interpersonal contexts—and thus impact any number of interpersonal connections in life. When people have BPD, they may struggle to manage their emotions on a daily basis, and have to deal with fears of abandonment, anger issues, self-injury, and even suicidality—all of which can lead to even more instability in relationships.

In Beyond Borderline, two internationally acclaimed experts on BPD—including Perry Hoffman, cofounder and president of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD)—team up to present a rare glimpse into the lives and recovery of people affected by BPD. This powerful compilation of stories reveals the deeply personal, firsthand perspectives of people who suffer with BPD, explores the numerous ways in which this disorder has affected their lives, and outlines the most debilitating and misunderstood symptoms of BPD (the most tragic being suicide). Beyond Borderline delves into the many ways the disorder can present—as well as the many paths to recovery—using evidence-based tools from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), mindfulness meditation, mentalization-based therapy (MBT), and more.

BPD is a challenging disorder that impacts people's lives and relationships in countless ways. With this book—full of intimate accounts that reflect the myriad ways BPD presents and how it affects not just those afflicted, but also their loved ones—you'll gain a deeper understanding of the disorder and learn how to move forward on the path toward healing while dealing with BPD.

Table of contents

• Foreword
• Introduction
• 1. Anguish Management
• 2. Letting the Light In
• 3. I Am Not Just a Box in the DSM-­5
• 4. You Talk and Don’t Know That I Listen
• 5. Dangerous to Delightful
• 6. Persisting Hope
• 7. If I Were to Tell You That I Have a Disorder That Affects Only 2 Percent of the Population, What Would Your Reaction Be?
• 8. Restoration
• 9. Trust No One
• 10. Just Like a Timepiece
• 11. Breaking Bad
• 12. On the Other Side
• 13. Survivor
• 14. How to Build and Bust a Life
• 15. I Am a Scientist
• 16. There Is a Yolk Under Those Shells
• 17. My Destructive Patterns Characterizing My Borderline Personality
• 18. Walking
• 19. Treatment at Halliwick
• 20. Reasons
• 21. Angry All the Time
• 22. From Numbness to Happiness
• 23. Mosaic of a Fractured Self
• 24. Riding the Waves
• Afterword
• Acknowledgments
• Notes