Breaking Bad Habits

What Actually Stops Behaviors You’ve Tried to Quit Three Times Already

Dr. Margaux Stein

• Publisher: Chiify
• Year: 2026
• eBook ISBN:
  9798905168765
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Forensic Psychology

Breaking bad habits, stopping addictions, and changing behavior that willpower alone can't fix: a 25-year addiction psychologist reveals what actually works — and why your previous quit attempts failed. READY If you've tried to quit three times already and the habit is still running your life, the problem is not your character. In her first book for general readers, Dr. Margaux Stein — an addiction psychologist with nearly twenty-five years of clinical practice — opens the way she opens every first session: "Nothing is wrong with you. Willpower isn't what stops habits. Trying to defeat them by deciding harder is like trying to stop a river by yelling at it." That single reframe, grounded in neuroscience, changes what you need to do next. Breaking Bad Habits is built on two things no other popular habit-change book combines: the general machinery of how any habit becomes entrenched — cue-routine-reward loops, dopamine pathways, the basal ganglia, why relapse is data not failure — and habit-specific chapters that go deeper than generic advice. Your phone is not your drinking. Drinking is not gambling. Gambling is not compulsive shopping. This book covers all of them, in succession, telling you what is specifically tricky about each one and what tends to actually work. The final chapters address the questions that arise no matter which habit brought you here: moderation versus abstinence, cold turkey versus tapering, how to involve other people, when a therapist or doctor is essential, how to design your environment so the habit can't run, and what the quieter life on the other side actually looks like. Inside this habit-change and addiction recovery guide: Why willpower keeps failing you — the neuroscience of habits shows they live in a different brain system than decisions; fighting with effort is the wrong tool entirely The five gaps in cue-routine-reward — what the standard model misses: identity, context dependency, cumulative load, and the dual-process feedback that makes early sobriety cravings intensify Habit-specific chapters on 11 behaviors — phone and screens, alcohol, food, nicotine and vaping, cannabis, pornography, gambling (including day-trading and crypto), compulsive shopping, overwork, lying, and procrastination Relapse as data, not failure — how to debrief a lapse, patch the specific gap it revealed, and distinguish a single slip from an extended return to the pattern Environmental design as the highest-leverage tool — room-by-room audits, digital friction strategies, financial environment controls, and why this beats willpower around the clock The first ninety days, specifically — a week-by-week account of what to expect so each phase doesn't feel like personal failure, including the deceptively dangerous second month When to involve a clinician or medication — which substances require medical supervision before stopping, which medications are dramatically underused, and how to find low-cost help Whether your habit is on the milder end — a phone scroll eating two hours of your evening — or closer to the addiction end of the spectrum, this book gives you the clarity that willpower never could: clarity about what your habit is doing for you, why your previous attempts didn't stick, which interventions match your specific behavior, and how to build a life the habit doesn't fit easily into. Most habit-change books treat every behavior with the same seven principles. This one doesn't, because your drinking isn't your gambling, and both deserve more than generic advice. For readers of Charles Duhigg's The Power of Habit and Annie Grace's This Naked Mind.--

Table of contents

• Introduction: The Habit You’re Already Thinking About
• Chapter 1: The Habit You Can’t Shake (and Why Willpower Failed)
• Chapter 2: The Loop That Runs Every Bad Habit
• Chapter 3: Cue, Routine, Reward — and the Gaps in That Model
• Chapter 4: Why Some Habits Are Addictions, and That Matters
• Chapter 5: Phone and Screen Habits
• Chapter 6: Alcohol as the MostAcceptable Hard Habit
• Chapter 7: Food Habits You Don’t Call Addictions
• Chapter 8: Nicotine and the Modern Replacements
• Chapter 9: Cannabis and the Gray Zone
• Chapter 10: Porn and the Conversation People Avoid
• Chapter 11: Gambling (Including Stocks and Crypto)
• Chapter 12: Shopping and Credit
• Chapter 13: Overworking as a Hidden Habit
• Chapter 14: Lying
• Chapter 15: Procrastination as a Habit
• Chapter 16: The Difficulty of “Moderation”
• Chapter 17: Cold Turkey, Tapering, and the False Choice Between Them
• Chapter 18: When to Involve Other People
• Chapter 19: When to Involve a Therapist or Doctor
• Chapter 20: Relapse Is Data, Not Failure
• Chapter 21: The Quiet Life on the Other Side
• Chapter 22: Designing the Environment So the Habit Can’t Run
• Chapter 23: The Habits That Used to Help
• Chapter 24: Sleep, Stress, and the Foundations Underneath All of This
• Chapter 25: Children, Parenting, and the Habits We Don’t Want to Pass On
• Chapter 26: The First Ninety Days, Specifically
• Chapter 27: A Pause Before Closing
• Chapter 28: The Quiet Math of Time and Boredom
• Chapter 29: When the Habit Is Someone You Love
• Chapter 30: A Few Honest Words About What This Book Can’t Do
• Chapter 31: A Note on the Inner Critic
• Appendix A: A Habit Inventory Worksheet
• Appendix B: Resources for Specific Habits
• Appendix C: A Note for Clinicians and Helpers
• Appendix D: A Glossary of Terms
• Appendix E: Common Questions
• Appendix F: A Reading List for Going Further
• Appendix G: A Closing Practical Note
• About the Author