Finding Square Holes
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Finding Square Holes

Discover who you really are and find the perfect career

Anita Houghton

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Finding Square Holes

Discover who you really are and find the perfect career

Anita Houghton

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If you're in a fix in your career, trying to decide what to do or JUST disgruntled with your current job, this is the book for you. Starting with the premise that you can't achieve happiness in anything if you don't know what you want in life, the book uses an engaging approach to take you on a journey of self-discovery.

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Part 1

GETTING STARTED

Chapter One

Setting the scene

This chapter looks at the kinds of problems that people experience in their work, and the pressures that come to bear when we are choosing our careers.
By the end you will be able to
  • set your own circumstances in a broader context
  • understand more about the influences that have led you to where you are today
Although we would all benefit from taking a measured, planned approach to career development, in practice human beings tend to operate on the ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ principle, having been provided with a nervous system that selectively excludes every warning sign, but which leaps into a frenzy of activity when things go spectacularly wrong. So we amble along from day to day, responding to the pressures and opportunities of the here and now, enjoying what can be enjoyed, and never taking the time to think through our working lives in any depth or breadth. Then one day it happens: it may be a nasty experience such as a redundancy, a divorce, a death, an illness, a restructuring, a difficult boss. It may be because a period of your life has come to a natural end, as in leaving school or college, or coming to the end of a vocational training or contract. Or it may be a problem of a more internal kind – a sudden realisation that you’re bored with what you are doing, an imperative to do something different, a reminder that life is marching by and if you are going to do anything exciting or worthwhile, you had better get on with it.
You may be one of those rare people who seek help well before these problems take hold, but many people come to a book such as this because they are having some kind of crisis over their work – and something of immense help to anyone who is going through a work crisis is to know that you are not the only person who has ever had one. You are not the only person who has no idea what to do, has chosen the wrong career or job, has been made redundant, treated badly, had their competency questioned, been passed over for promotion, has subjugated their working lives to others, or has simply fallen out of love with their work.
It’s impossible to go through life without things going wrong from time to time. These rough patches are part of life, and they have an important function. Although governments and health workers have tried for decades to get us to give up smoking, take more exercise, and eat more healthily, there is only one thing guaranteed to make a person leave the house at six every morning in their jogging kit, eat fresh vegetables till they are coming out of their ears, and sue the manufacturers of their favourite brand of cigarette instead of paying them – a nice big heart attack.
Work is the same. It’s the easiest thing in the world to stay in a job you’re not enjoying, or to go along with what someone else wants you to do. It’s easy not to go for that promotion, that new job, that change in career. We like ease. To do something difficult takes a lot more commitment, a lot more energy, and a whole load of courage. If you’re low on these commodities, it may take a crisis.
A work-related crisis has the capacity to make you feel terrible. Work is a fundamental part of our existence, and a serious problem in your working life can have all the charm of an earthquake. But while it’s true that you can learn something of what you enjoy at work by doing nice things in nice jobs, you actually learn so much more when it all goes wrong. That’s not simply because you need to understand what you don’t like in order to understand what you do like (and there’s much truth in that), but because it’s only when things go seriously wrong that you wake up. Adversity has a way of standing up and shouting at us in a way that contentment does not.
So, if you’re having a career crisis, welcome it with open arms. It’s a great opportunity to take a good long look at your career and your life, and make a start towards getting it right. If you’re not having a career crisis, then congratulations on taking avoiding action.

What kinds of career problems are there?

The most common kind of career problems are those that are related to life stages. Just about everyone experiences indecision and confusion at one or more of these. The first fertile period for career problems is during the latter years of school or university – hardly surprising, as what you are expected to do at this stage is decide what you would like to do with the rest of your life. This is an extraordinary requirement to make of young people, who are generally hampered by a paucity of experience on the one hand, and by a surfeit of advice on the other.
The next period of life that has the ability to produce consternation is a few years down the line, when you realise that you have made a terrible mistake. Frantic with indecision in your late teens or early twenties, you chose a career that seemed to be both possible for you and pleasing to those around you. However, over the months and years it gradually dawns on you that you are about as suited to your choice of work as a wax saucepan is to cooking.
Then there’s midlife – which may begin at any time between the ages of thirty-five and fifty. You’ve been working quite happily at a job or career for some time, but you notice your enthusiasm for getting up in the morning is diminishing. Then one day you wake up and realise you’d rather be doing just about anything than going on with your current job.
one day you wake up and realise you’d rather be doing just about anything than going on with your current job
Finally comes the approach of retirement, with all its decisions about when to go, whether to wind down gradually, what you will do when you no longer have to work, and so on. And with people talking about the ‘fourth age’, the period of time after the three score years and ten that previous generations never expected to live beyond, the potential for career crises may be endless!
If life stage is the most common source of anguish when it comes to careers, the second must be change at work. You’re in a job you enjoy, have colleagues you like, a boss you respect, and responsibilities that play to your strengths, and then bang! There’s a restructuring, a merger, a new manager, a new directive, a demand for different products or services, and everything changes. Suddenly there’s a new boss who just can’t wait to put their stamp on everything; you hear talk of redundancy or redeployment; people have to apply for their own jobs; some see the writing on the wall and leave for greener pastures; ways of working are changed and you find yourself with new tasks for which you are untrained, or you find dull or difficult. All these have the ability to turn a thoroughly enjoyable job into a really grim one, and in a very short time. If there is a workplace, anywhere, that is immune to the modern propensity for continual change then I’d like to know about it.
Sometimes related to changes in the workplace, there are also the more personal work crises such as redundancy, being sacked, or taken through disciplinary procedures. Being bullied or harassed at work can be equally devastating. With all these the crisis is deepened by the damaging effect these experiences inevitably have on your self-confidence and general wellbeing.
Another group of problems may arise from personal attributes. Perhaps you set out on a particular pathway and some way along you realise that your likelihood of progression is going to be seriously hampered by something you can do nothing about. Perhaps you find you are not clever enough, not tall enough, not good-looking enough, not male enough, not white enough, not able-bodied enough. You’ve committed much time and commitment to a path, but it now appears blocked or impractical. What now?
Some career paths have a natural conclusion. For example, sporting careers tend to come to an end at certain ages, and child stars don’t necessarily turn into adult stars. Fashion models presumably have to hand in their cards at some stage, and anyone who has devoted their lives to bringing up children knows that children grow up. In many careers, promotion can paradoxically mean an end to the kind of work that first drew you to a career or job. For example, you are taken away from looking after clients and have to manage teams and budgets instead.
And then there are the life events in your personal life. The tough ones of divorce, death, and ill-health, and the nice ones, such as marriage, starting a family, moving home, can all be equally disruptive to a working life.
And finally there’s you yourself. Often related to life stage and life events, you change over time. Something you enjoyed at one stage in your life may lose its appeal later. A willingness to conform to corporate life may evolve into a desire to do your own thing. A drive to earn a lot of money may turn into a longing for time to pursue hobbies and interests. A commitment to caring for clients may become a commitment to caring for family, or a commitment to your family may become an urge to do something for yourself. Or you may quite simply want a change for change’s sake. Human beings are designed to need change. If you put a finger gently on the back of your hand and leave it there you will initially feel it, but after less than a minute the sensation goes. A tiny movement and you feel it again. We need change for stimulation.

Sources of career problems and crises

Life stage (leaving school/college, early working life, mid-life, retirement)
Changes at work (mergers, redeployment, new bosses, new structures)
Personal work problems (redundancy, sacking, performance problems, bullying)
Life events (marriage, children, moving house, divorce, death, ill health)
Personal attributes (age, gender, race, physical attributes, ability)
Changes in you (interests, values, willingness to work for others)
Figure 1.1

How do people choose their careers?

A theme running through all these potential sources of uncertainty and anxiety is the whole business of career choice. While what you choose is not nearly as crucial as you might think, the question ‘what shall I do?’ is central to many a career emergency. Understanding the pressures and reasons...

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