Mindfulness

Your step-by-step guide to a happier life

Tessa Watt

• Publisher: Icon Books
• Year: 2015
• ISBN:
  9781848319554
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

Mindfulness is the popular practice that helps you to appreciate your life, and to live with more joy and less stress.By bringing mindfulness into everyday actions – by listening to your body, becoming more aware of what's happening in the present moment and letting go of negativity – you can reduce stress and anxiety, focus better at work, find your own source of calm and discover genuine contentment.Mindfulness introduces you to new techniques with straightforward advice, case studies and lots of practical exercises for newcomers to get their teeth into right away. It also gives a sense of the depth of mindfulness practice for those who wish to take it further.

CHAPTER 1

Introduction

Mindfulness is one of the oldest and most basic skills known to mankind. In its essence, it’s as simple as rediscovering the taste of fresh water or the vastness of the sky. It is learning, or re-learning, how to be present, how to be in this moment. It can be like stepping out of a grey flat screen mode into a world which is vivid and three-dimensional.

Mindfulness means becoming more aware of what’s going on – right here, right now. We can appreciate our lives, instead of rushing through them, always trying to get somewhere else. Being mindful can also help us to be less swept away by our powerful, habitual currents of thought and emotion, which can manifest as stress, depression, negative thinking, anxiety, anger, resentment or self-doubt.

TRAINING IN MINDFULNESS

Mindfulness itself is a way of being – a capacity for moment-by-moment awareness – which doesn’t belong to any one culture or tradition. But we find that this skill, part of our birthright, has somehow been lost to us; perhaps increasingly so in our speedy 21st-century world. The good news is that we can train ourselves in mindfulness, just as we exercise to keep our bodies healthy.

Mindfulness is about teaching yourself to be more:

• Aware – of your body, your mind and the environment
• Present – in this moment; right here, right now
• Focused – more able to make choices about where you place your attention
• Embodied – being in your body; bringing your mind and your body into synch
• Accepting – of yourself and other people.

PRACTICE

Mindfulness training draws on the ancient traditions of meditation and yoga, often incorporating insights from modern medicine and psychotherapy. It involves setting aside time for ‘practice’ – time when you can literally practise being mindful by bringing your mind back, again and again, to a particular object of attention.

In mindfulness practice you may use one or more of these as your focus:

• Your breath – the physical sensations of breathing
• Your body – in stillness or in movement
• Your senses – such as hearing, seeing and tasting
• Your thoughts – which may include your emotions
• Your experience – whatever arises in your awareness in this moment, including any of the above.

As well as making space for formal meditation, you can bring mindfulness into your life throughout the day. You can use informal practices to help you do this – washing the dishes mindfully, perhaps, or taking a short ‘breathing space’. With practice, the mindful approach will slowly seep into your being and you may find yourself naturally being more present and aware in your daily life.

REMEMBER

Mindfulness practice can be:

• Formal – such as sitting meditation using the breath as a focus
• Informal – such as making a cup of tea with awareness.

HISTORY

The practice of mindfulness goes back thousands of years. Many spiritual traditions have encouraged presence in the moment as a way to be in touch with our inner selves, or the divine. Buddhism has made mindfulness a core part of its teachings, more so than any other tradition. Buddhist thinkers have taken great interest over the centuries in the way the human mind works, developing methods of training the mind to be more present, focused and aware. The practical techniques used in current mindfulness training come largely from the Buddhist tradition of meditation, along with elements drawn from the more body-oriented Indian discipline of hatha yoga.

Since the 1960s, the political situation in Asian countries like Vietnam and Tibet has sent Buddhist teachers into exile in the West, where they’ve taken up the challenge of teaching new audiences. Meditation practices which were traditionally done by monks in a forest or monastery have been adapted for busy Westerners with jobs and families. Influential Buddhist teachers have included the Japanese Zen teacher Shunryu Suzuki, the Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh, the visionary Tibetan Chögyam Trungpa, and of course the well known Dalai Lama, spiritual leader of Tibet.

But you don’t have to be religious, become a Buddhist or believe anything particular to practise mindfulness. Since the 1970s, mindfulness training in the West has developed into structured, secular courses which are increasingly accessible. Mindfulness has spread like wildfire in the public consciousness. In 1979 the American Jon Kabat Zinn created an eight-week course at the University of Massachusetts Medical School to help people with difficult conditions such as chronic pain, AIDS and cancer. Without being able to ‘cure’ them, he discovered that meditation could help them relate to their stress and suffering in a different way. This course of ‘Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction’ (MBSR), is now used around the world; not only for people with illness, but for many thousands of participants simply wanting to find a way to deal with the normal daily difficulties of life, and to enjoy life more fully.

In the 1990s, mindfulness took its next quantum leap into the world of mental health and psychotherapy when three leading clinical psychologists from the UK and Canada developed Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) as a treatment for people with a history of recurrent depression. MBCT is very similar to MBSR, with more emphasis on how to work with the ‘negative thinking’ which can lead to depression. Mindfulness has begun to sweep through the profession of psychotherapy, leading to other new therapies like ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy); and many therapists now offer it to their clients as part of their toolkit for mental health.

In this book we’ll introduce many of the practices and ideas which are used in mindfulness courses like MBSR and MBCT. We’ll also draw inspiration from great mindfulness teachers coming from the Buddhist tradition, who carry with them years of deep training in the practice of meditation.

key terms

There are some key terms that will come up again and again in this book. It’s worth taking a moment to acquaint yourself with them now …

Meditation is used in this book to refer to a formal practice which helps us train the mind to be more aware and present.

Mindfulness is used to describe a more general approach of being aware of our experience in the present moment – without judging it – which the practice of meditation can help us to develop.

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) is an eight-week course that trains participants to be mindful and to relate better to stress, pain and other difficulties.

Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) is similar to MBSR but with elements developed more specifically for people with a tendency to suffer from depression.

SCIENCE

The move of mindfulness into public awareness is thanks largely to an explosion of interest from the scientific and medical communities within the last few decades. Research has demonstrated the enormous benefits of mindfulness practice for our physical and mental health, with new studies out every month. Doctors and counsellors increasingly recommend mindfulness as an approach for patients with depression, stress and anxiety-related ailments. Mindfulness training is also being adopted in schools and workplaces, helping students and employees to be more focused and productive, and less reactive to stress.

Research shows the benefits of mindfulness in many areas:

• Physical health – mindfulness can help us to cope better with a range of conditions including chronic pain, heart disease and cancer. It’s been shown to strengthen the immune system, improving our response to illnesses ranging from flu to psoriasis to HIV.
• Mental health – mindfulness is increasingly being used to help people with recurrent depression, addiction, anxiety-related ailments, and general stress. Mindfulness participants have shown reduced levels of the hormone cortisol which is an indicator of stress.
• Clarity and focus – mindfulness meditators perform better in tasks measuring attention and comprehension, working memory, and creative problem solving. As our working lives become overloaded with information and input, studies suggest mindfulness can improve clarity and decision making, and it is now included in many leadership trainings.
• Wellbeing – many participants in mindfulness training have reported greater enjoyment and appreciation of their lives, as well as other benefits like greater self-awareness, greater acceptance of their emotions and increased empathy for other people. Neuroscientists are now backing this up with studies showing that meditation can strengthen areas of the brain associated with happiness, wellbeing and compassion.

MYTHS AND MISCONCEPTIONS

The kind of meditation we use in mindfulness training is not about going off into altered states, trying to get to some better place. It’s not about sitting in the lotus position in flowing white robes on a turquoise beach, as the advertising posters would have it – pleasant though that might be! You’re not even trying to get calm and relaxed, or to become a ‘better person’. You are befriending the person you already are, and the place where you are sitting, right now. If you do experience any sense of calm, it is not from stilling the stormy weather of life, but from learning to ride its chaotic energy.

Here are some wrong ideas you might have about mindfulness:

• It’s about going into an altered state where the mind is completely empty of thoughts
• It’s about becoming very calm and not feeling emotions
• You have to become a Buddhist or take up some other religion or cult
• Even if other people can do it, you won’t be able to because your mind is too busy.

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

Mindfulness is about experience, not just words and concepts. To get the most from this book, you’ll need to do more than read – you’ll need to actually do the practices.

USEFUL TIPS

• Take your time. See if you can resist the urge to rush through to the end and ‘get somewhere’ quickly. It’s better to do the practices thoroughly, and repeat them a number of times, than to think you are ‘advancing’ by ticking off lots of different exercises.
• Keep a notebook. Some of the exercises ask you to write a few lines. You may also like to keep a note of interesting or challenging things which arise in your practice. Writing things down in one place can help you reflect on your own experience and give you a sense of the journey you are taking.
• Be patient. Mindfulness is not a quick fix! Don’t worry if you don’t feel much is happening – there may be more going on under the surface than you think.

CHAPTER 2

What is mindfulness?

WAKING UP

Mindfulness begins with recognizing that our common experience is not very mindful – that we are sleepwalking through much of our daily lives, blind and crashing into things. We stumble from place to place caught in a whirlwind of thoughts, missing what is in front of our noses.

Often the storm of thoughts is not pleasant to be caught up in. We ruminate over what someone said earlier, or what we should have said in reply, or what happened ten years ago, or what we have to do tomorrow. Our minds are exhausting – we may feel exhausted.

The mindful approach is to invite a gap in this endless stream of thoughts and emotions. We train ourselves to wake up; to open a door and let in some fresh air and space. We’re not pushing away our experience – quite the opposite. We’re allowing ourselves to be present to the energy of our experience, right here, right now. We discover the possibility of waking up to how things are in each moment.

try it now AWAKE AND AWARE

Take a few minutes to become aware of your experience, right here, right now:

• Feel the weight and texture of the book in your hand.
• Feel the sense of your own body – your feet in contact with the floor, your buttocks on the chair; if you are sitting, feel your torso rising up, your head and shoulders, your arms and hands. Can you feel the movement of your breath somewhere in your body?
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