NEED TO KNOW FERTILITY & C EB

Harriet Sharkey, Professor Ian Greer

• Publisher: Collins
• Year: 2013
• eBook ISBN: 9780007516865
• Topic: Medicine
• Subtopic: Gynecology, Obstetrics & Midwifery

This one-stop practical guide will show you how to maximise your chances of having a baby and prepare week-by-week during your pregnancy for a relaxed and confident birth. Two reliable and accessible titles, complete with colour photos and expert advice throughout, combined into one ebook.

Need to Know Fertility and Conception answers all the questions you want to know the answers to, it also explains when you're most fertile and how often to have sex; what factors can prevent or reduce fertilization and conception; how to enhance your fertility; how to get the most out of your GP; how to overcome stress and other emotional blocks to pregnancy; the different fertility treatments and contains sources of information, suggestions for further reading, support groups and websites.

Need to Know Pregnancy gives a complete overview of baby development during pregnancy through to birth. Its combination of conventional mainstream and complementary medical info reflects the way most pregnant women approach their care today. There's also plenty of information for the father-to-be. Contents includes: week by week overview; what to expect at appointments; eating well; exercising and relaxing; labour and birth; A-Z of common problems.

Contents

Cover Page

Dedication

1. Being pregnant

2. Healthcare

3. Week by week

4. Labour and birth

5. The early days

6. A–Z of health concerns

Want to know more?

List of Search Terms

Acknowledgments

I dedicate this book to my children, Patrick and Rosa, and to Dee, my partner in adventure. You light up my life.

The information (including without limitation advice and recommendations) contained in this book is presented for general information purposes only. The information is in no way intended as advice for any individual problem or to replace professional medical care and/or services from a qualified health care practitioner. The information in this book cannot and should not be used as a basis for diagnosis or choice of treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition and prior to starting any new treatment. The author and HarperCollins assume no responsibility for any consequence relating directly or indirectly to any action or inaction you take based on the information, services or other material in this book.

1. Being pregnant

There can be no generalizations about pregnancy – every person’s experience is unique, and while one woman may feel tired and low, another is bouncing around with more energy than she has ever had. It’s the same with labour: one person may be beset with problems, another apparently ‘breeze’ through it. This book is not about what pregnancy should be, because there is no such thing. It is a guide through the weeks and months, intended to answer your questions …

‘The journey into parenthood is one of the most exciting transitions and times in your life. It is a wonderful opportunity to explore who you are so that you can open yourself to welcoming your new baby. Many men and women say that their children teach them so much. Enjoy the exploration.’

Dr Yehudi Gordon

So you’re pregnant

Ecstatic, shocked, numb, surprised, pleased, unsure … all these are common reactions to the confirmation of pregnancy. In a moment of truth, life changes completely. There is another person in your life and he – or she – is already dependent on you.

A good start in life

The idea of being responsible can be unnerving, but it is good to know that your body is prepared to nurture this life, to give birth, and to mother. A man, too, is genetically primed to be a father. This is nature’s most basic intent, and nature is always there to help you. Even so, you may need to make changes to create the best possible pregnancy environment for you and your baby. You may also need some effort – and courage – to accept the changes that are happening to you.

There are three crucial elements to pregnancy. The first is your baby – what kind of life will she have in the womb, and how will she enter the world and be welcomed? The second is you – how you feel, and how you nurture yourself and your relationship. The third is birth. How will you prepare to realise your dreams and help your baby through a peaceful transition, and to adjust if things don’t go as you expect?

Your baby

Science, religion, folklore and mythology do not between them have the answer to life – what it is that makes each baby such a charismatic, engaging and unique person. There are suspicions and anecdotes as well as scientifically proven facts, however, that reveal how important pregnancy is for a baby’s physical and emotional wellbeing. Your baby is your passenger, and while you cannot take full responsibility for her development or character, you can take steps to create the best possible environment for her to thrive and to prepare for life beyond the womb. Changes that take place naturally during pregnancy help you to do this.

You

In nine months you may feel more emotions than you thought possible. This is as true for a man as it is for a woman, although a woman is more likely to be carried by unpredictable emotional tides.

All your feelings, however light, dark, crazy or confusing, are important, hormonally influenced or otherwise. Not only does pregnancy mark the threshold of a hugely significant change in your life, it also opens you to emotional aspects of yourself that may have been hidden for years, even since your own childhood. Physical changes, altered sleep patterns and dreams encourage emotions to surface into your unconscious or conscious mind. Sometimes this is exciting, amazing even; sometimes it is confronting and difficult to integrate.

The myth that pregnant women feel constantly happy is reality for some people. Indeed, this may be the best time of your life. If it’s not, you may be reassured to know that this is normal too. If negative feelings continue, do confide in someone you trust. Expressing your emotions with someone you trust could help to improve your experience of pregnancy and your confidence. It may be more valuable now than at any other time of your life.

Even in early pregnancy your baby has a powerful presence.

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Potential problems

Pregnancy and birth are not medical conditions; only for a minority of mums and babies do problems occur. The most common are covered in the A–Z.

Gifts for life

Although you cannot control everything, you may want to make some commitments that could enhance your journey through pregnancy and birth. The first is to trust yourself and your baby, who instinctively knows how to grow and thrive. This is not to say you do not need companionship, however. The journey is new and if you have a network of friends, family and healthcare professionals, they will help you on the way. Building a team of people who will be there for you is the single greatest gift you can offer yourself.

The second gift is to be informed. You don’t need to become an expert but it will help to have some awareness of what lies ahead. Dare to look beyond pregnancy too. The more you know, the better prepared you will be.

Find out what you can about birth, and beyond … knowledge is power.

The third gift involves your partnership: give it attention, time and space. You may find that your intimacy increases; but at the same time tensions and niggles can grow, and when your baby is with you the quality of your relationship will change. Pregnancy provides an opportunity to work through issues of conflict and to share your hopes and fears. If you clear some cobwebs and prepare strong foundations, it will be easier to weather changes in the future. If you are not with your baby’s father, it may still be important to maintain your relationship.

Birth

In a first pregnancy, birth is a mystery, an event in the future shrouded in hope and uncertainty. Even in subsequent pregnancies birth is unpredictable. Birth may be the most amazing event in your life and a gentle welcome for your baby. At the other end of the spectrum, birth may turn out to be a frightening or shocking experience. Part of your focus in pregnancy will be preparing for birth and you will find plenty of advice here.

It is a challenge to marry medical knowledge and skill with traditional wisdom and loving support. This winning combination is becoming a reality in a number of birth centres across the world, but it is not always in place. In some hospitals, women talk of being uninformed, left alone and dehumanized even. This sad but true situation is not universal, but you do have a say in your first choice of birth location, and your preparations could make a difference for you and for your baby.

Here comes dad

There are an infinite number of wonderful aspects to becoming a father and many men are surprised how easily they adapt. There will also be challenges as you get used to things. Your peers who are dads will probably tell you this, quite possibly with a dose of cynicism and something along the lines of, ‘Just you wait!’

Change for the better?

What you’re waiting for, according to your cynical mates, may be broken sleep, the challenge of soothing your crying baby, anxiety about her wellbeing, mopping up your partner’s tears, and getting used to only one night out a month (or even less). But to focus on just this would be to play down what is probably the most amazing part of any man’s life.

If you are happy and excited, you’ll probably love your journey into parenthood. What’s more, your partner will know that you are on side, and your baby will feel loved and welcomed. It’s a good recipe for enjoying fatherhood and enriching your family. On the other hand, if you are nervous or unhappy, things will be different, whether you share your feelings or keep your cards close to your chest.

‘My advice is, take it in your stride. Be confident. That’s all you can do. Your life is going to be different but things won’t be totally, 100% parenthood. You can keep par...

Table of contents

• Cover Page
• Title Page
• Table of Contents
• Need to Know Fertility and Conception
• Need to Know Pregnancy
• Copyright
• About the Publisher