Mind Transformation

Theory and practice

Erkin Dzhamanbaev, Natalya Maclagina-Tadevosyan

• Editorial: Babelcube Inc.
• Año: 2020
• ISBN:
  9781071540879
• Categoría: Personal Development
• Categoría: Personal Success

The book contains a variety of worldviews on the possibility of consciousness transformation and changes in the individual's future events. Modern psychophysiology, practices of ancient civilizations, the tools of big sport and other practices are aimed for developing of brain capabilities and abilities to control it. The book is an applied guide and a brief theoretical analysis of different practices. It is recommended to anyone who is interested in issues of self-development, achievement of their dreams, self-realization, for those who are experiencing difficulties in life, need specific and applied techniques to break the deadlock.

The disease did not allow Gregory to go in for sports, and together with his father they begin to perform at various musical events in their district, where Gregory soon gained popularity. Thus he didn’t stop: for example, Gregory took part in the local television competition Tremplin des étoiles and in the broadcast of Graines de Stars in 1999. He was so addicted to music that he even canceled penultimate class at school. He worked a lot on technique of performance, took lessons. In 2003, he successfully passed the casting in the musical "Adam and Eve", then in the musical Belles, Belles, Belles. In 2004, he won the fourth season of French Star Academy, becoming the first male winner in project history. In 2005, his first album, Je Deviens Moi, was released. This album debuted at No. 1 on the French charts and was sold shortly in amount of about 300,000 copies, becoming platinum within a few months. In 2006, Gregory received one of the most prestigious awards - “Discovery of the Year” at the NRJ Music Awards. Tickets for his concerts in the legendary Olympia were sold out long before performance, and therefore an additional concert was organized.

At the end of 2006, the disease began to be felt harshly. In January 2007, he announced he was forced to pause due to poor health. Despite this, a second album was planned, and on March 30, the singer sang Vivo Per Lei with Helen Segara. In February 2007, the singer's health condition seriously deteriorated, he needed a lung transplant. He was hospitalized on April 2, 2007. On the evening of April 29, Gregory was placed in an artificial coma with his and his family consent, in order to alleviate the suffering and pain while waiting for a lung transplant operation. But four hours after hospitalization, on April 30, 2007, at 13.00 he was gone due to complications of cystic fibrosis. This caused a shock in the whole of France. La Voix d'un Ange's posthumous album received IFPI Platinum Award in 2008 for its 1 million copies sold in Europe. , authors and music publishers of Canada. In less than 24 years, Gregory Lemarshal managed to do as much as others do not have time to do in a few lives. And even the death of this talented young man helped people. His parents decided to continue the fight. “I won’t let my son leave just like that,” said Gregory’s mother. After his death, they vowed to continue the fight against cystic fibrosis. On June 7, 2007, the Association against Cystic Fibrosis - Association Grégory Lemarchal was officially registered, which, after the guy’s death, collects tens millions of euros to fight cystic fibrosis, patient support, scientific research and hospital financing.

WHAT HINDS THE ACHIEVEMENT OF RESULTS?

1.Fear of dreaming. Thoughts like: “In fact, I can’t do this” or “It didn’t work before.”

2. If people say something cannot be done, tell yourself simply the right path has not yet been found, and continue to try.

3. Focusing only on problems and obstacles. Instead of accepting the idea of ​​the existence of a problem or obstacle, see if there is an opportunity to get around them.

4. The choice of someone goal, is not your own. People around you may be wrong. Find out what actions will allow you to fulfill.

5. Unwillingness to seek help. Perhaps the reason for this is pride, confusion, or fear of rejection. If you want to restrain your progress, continue in the same vein. No one except you creates your dreams. And dreams predetermine your thinking. Your thinking creates preconditions and inclinations. Preconditions and tendencies give rise to action.

ACTION REALIZES A DREAM.

1. Confess your strengths and weaknesses and, accordingly, formulate your goals.

2. Decide what is valuable to you, what you believe in, how you would like to see your life. Analyze your plans and evaluate them in terms of today.

3. Get to the roots. After analyzing your past, figure out what led you to your current situation. Try understand and forgive those who made you suffer or did not help, although you could. Forgive yourself past mistakes, errors and sins. After you have benefited from any difficult memories, bury them and do not return to them. The bad past lives in your memory only until you expel it.

4. Feelings of guilt and shame will not help you succeed. Do not allow yourself indulge in them.

5. Look for reasons of your behavior in the physical, social, economic and political aspects of the current situation, and not in self deficiencies.

6. Each event can be evaluated in different ways. Reality is not something that each individual sees, it is nothing more than the result of an agreement between people to call things by specific names. Such a look will allow you to be more tolerant of people and more generously endure what may seem like humiliation.

7. Never talk bad about yourself; especially avoid attributing negative traits to yourself - “stupid”, “ugly”, “incapable”, “unlucky”, “incorrigible”.

8. Your actions may be subject for any assessment; if they are subjected to constructive criticism - use it to your advantage, but do not let others criticize you as a person.

9. Remember that sometimes defeat is luck, it’s a sign that you pursued false, not worth the effort goals, and that you managed to avoid possible subsequent troubles, larger ones.

10. Don’t put up with people, activities, and circumstances that make you feel inferior. If you are unable to change them or yourself enough to feel confident, it is better to simply turn away from them. Life is too short to be discouraged.

11. Allow yourself to relax, listen to your thoughts, do what you like, be alone with yourself. So you can understand yourself better.

12. Practice communication. Enjoy the feeling of energy that people exchange - so dissimilar and peculiar. Imagine they too may experience fear and insecurity, and try to help them. Decide what you want from them and what you can give them. And then let them know you are open to such an exchange.

13. Stop overly guarding your "Me" - it is much stronger and more plastic than you think. It bends, but does not break. Let it experience a short-term emotional blow, rather than remain inactive and isolated.

14. Choose for yourself several serious distant goals, on which way it is necessary to achieve smaller intermediate goals. Soberly weigh what means are necessary in order to achieve these intermediate goals. Do not ignore your every successful step and do not forget to cheer and praise yourself. Do not be afraid to seem immodest, as no one will hear you.

15. You are not a passive object that is in trouble, not a grass awaiting somebody will step. You are the peak of evolutionary pyramid, you are the embodiment of the hopes of your parents, you are the image and likeness of the God. You are a unique person, an active creator of your life, you command events. If you are confident in yourself, the obstacle becomes challenge for you, and the challenge encourages to accomplish. And even shyness will recede because you, instead of worrying about how you live, are immersed in the very midst of life.

PATHOLOGICAL CONSTANTITY

Shyness, especially uncontrolled and excessive, is a terrible condition. I suffered from this pathology almost all my childhood, and drop by drop extract the fear of people. I could not put on a new cloth, it seemed to me it would set me off too much, I could not ask the passersby for directions, sitting at the same desk with the girl was just a disaster. Shyness, in my opinion, is one of the varieties of phobias that can cripple a person’s fate. Shy people are often worried about whether their actions reflect what they really are. Like any actor, you need to realize the difference between your personality and your role. Let your actions speak for themselves, thus manifesting your essence.

I found the best way to get shy people to act and for which they themselves would never decide, is to play a role. Playing a role (for example, a shy researcher interviewing), even deeply shy people begin to behave differently. They seem to be detached from themselves - so timid, sensitive, hurt and act as someone else. In this position, they are invulnerable because their true face is not evaluated. Moreover, the role is determined by the scenario, and its execution is authorized by circumstances or by someone’s authority. "What am I losing? Why not give it a try? ”

WHAT IS EXTREME SHARING DANGEROUS:

• A person cannot express and defend his opinion, his point of view, desire.

• It is difficult for him to make new acquaintances and spend time in the company.

• It is practically impossible to demonstrate his qualities and skills; this can significantly complicate a career.

• It exacerbates inferiority complexes, plunges into melancholy and loneliness.

• It choke the entire brain, paralyzes the tongue and body.

• It makes the autonomic nervous system inadequately work.

• A person becomes unsociable and closed, lowers self-esteem.

• Extremely interferes with the acquisition of a spoken foreign language.

• In some cases, this condition can develop aggression and a tendency to violence and cruelty.

It took me several years of active, daily and painful work on myself to translate deep, pathological shyness into manageable one.

At the same time, I clearly understood that three categories of people introduced me into a state of shyness and strengthened it. I believe if you also suffer from excessive shyness, embarrassment and timidity, these are the following categories: strangers, people of the opposite sex and authoritative (popular) people who are in the same company with you, as well as more successful brothers/sisters (who are often brought as an example). I believe in my case there were three aspects that exacerbated my shyness - a physical defect (facial paralysis, the result of a birth injury), financial poverty (I had to wear out my older brother's castoffs) and the social status of “fatherlessness”. In the lessons I answered very quietly and indistinctly, so I rolled down from the average student to bad, which only aggravated and fixated my shyness situation. I have always been in the category of children who are invisible and inaudible, who are better off hiding in a corner, under the table so that no one finds them, much less start a conversation. Everyone can get rid of such a pathology. I believe I am one of many such examples. Self-esteem is a person’s opinion of himself, formed as a result of comparing himself with other people.

Keep in mind the following:

1. It is important who you compare yourself with, whom you choose as a model. Some people can be regarded as an ideal, but not as a starting point. There are many people whose comparison is pointless because they are naturally endowed with outstanding talents. Ideals can be admired, but not turn them into a measure of success.

2. Having chosen the wrong model for comparison, you plunge yourself into frustration and turn the status into an end in itself, instead of working on yourself and developing your potential.

Those values ​​that imposes you the cult of success, which are imposed by society or micro socium, should not become your leading driver. Step faster than usual. A loose posture and a sluggish gait are associated with a negative attitude towards yourself and the surrounding world. But, according to the same psychologists, by changing your posture, gait and speed, you can turn a negative attitude into a positive one. Looking carefully, you will see the actions of the body are the result of the psyche action. Chronic losers go shuffling, stumbling. Their self-confidence is close to zero. M middle person moves in medium gait. With all their appearance they say: “I have no special reason to be proud of myself.” But there is a third group of people. They seem to radiate confidence. They pace wide and fast, as if to say: “I’m going to an important place for important things, and do them successfully.” Use the “25 percent faster” methodology to increase your confidence. Spread your shoulders, straighten up, raise your head, accelerate your pace - and you will feel a surge of confidence.

Express your opinion. Often it was necessary to observe how people with keen thinking and great natural abilities sit silently and do not participate in discussion, they are not able to pronounce a word, and not because they don’t want to say anything, but due to lack of confidence. Such a silent man thinks: “Who is interested in my opinion? I will say something and I will look like a fool. Better keep quiet. The rest know a lot more than I do. I don't want to look like an ignoramus. ”

Each time, refusing to speak, the silent person feels even worse, his sense of inferiority increases. Often he makes a timid promise to speak out the next time, knowing well he will not keep his word. I repeat a very important point: every time a person wants to say and is silent, he injects himself with a batch of poison, which kills the feeling of confidence. And vice versa: more often you speak, more confident you become, it will be easier for you to speak next time. When expressing your opinion, you take confidence-enhancing vitamin. Make it a rule to express your opinion at every open meeting where you find yourself. Voluntarily, without waiting for to be invited, speak out at every event, every conference, every meeting. Do not make exceptions.

Ask questions, make suggestions, make comments. And don't be the last one when everyone else has already spoken. Try to become an “icebreaker” by giving the first comment. And do not be afraid you will look stupid. Someone will disagree with you, while others will agree, so stop torment yourself with the question: “Can I tell you?” It is better to listen carefully and try to attract the presenter attention in order to get an opportunity to speak.

After monstrously shy school years, I went to college. And I decided this could not be continued. Nobody knows me here, so I can begin to play the role of an upstart. During six years of study at the institute, two years in residency and in all sorts of continuing education courses, I EVERYDAY practiced in ALL lectures and classes one thing to overcome shyness. I asked questions. And my journey began to overcome my own shyness with arduous exercises, which, at your discretion, you can do.

1.Once a day, make 10-15 calls to unknown numbers and ask a fictional person. Apologizeyou’re your wrong call. I did this for several months to relieve fear.

2. Once a day, ask 10 people the time or how to get to ... It took me about three months to develop this skill.

3. Every day become acquainted with 5 girls on the street. That's was the most difficult. For about three years I tried to learn how to do it.

4. Once a quarter give a public speech.

It took me about 5 years of training to solve these four problems!

EXERCISES FOR OVERCOMING SHYNESS:

Imagine that your exact copy appeared (as in the movie "The Adventures of Electronics"). Your double is your identical in everything. But you want to shed light and show it is not you.

• What is in you impossible to duplicate?

• How could people that know you well find the substitute?

• Is there someone who knows your secret, can use it to identify you?

• Once you have revealed all your secrets, the robot managed to accurately reproduce everything that it learned. What is the most important secret you will reveal last, to at least make sure you are you and not your copy?

• Make a list of all people who put you in shyness state or reject you. Put two chairs opposite each other. Sit on one chair and imagine number one from your list sits on the other.

• Dealing with him, express everything related to your shyness problem. Then transfer to his chair and try...