Managing Up

How to Move up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss

Mary Abbajay

• Editore: Wiley
• Anno: 2018
• ISBN:
  9781119437161
• Edizione: 1
• Argomento: Business
• Categoria: Business generale

Build vital connections to accelerate your career success

Managing Up is your guide to the most valuable 'soft skill' your career has ever seen. It's not about sucking up or brown-nosing; it's about figuring out who you are, who your boss is, and finding where you meet. It's about building real relationships with people who have influence over your career. Managing up is good for you, good for your boss, and good for the organization as a whole. This book gives you strategies for developing these all-important connections and building more than rapport; you become able to quickly assess situations, and determine which actions will move you forward; you become your own talent manager, and your boss's top choice for that new opportunity. As a skill, managing up can do more for your career than simply 'networking' ever could—and this book shows you how.

Real-world strategies give you a set of actionable steps, supplemented by expert advice from a top leadership consultant that helps you get on track to advancement. It's never too early or too late to start adjusting your alignment, and this book provides the help you need to start accelerating your trajectory.

• Develop robust relationships with influential people
• Enhance your self-awareness and become more adaptable
• Gain new opportunities and accelerate your career
• Stop 'schmoozing' and develop true, lasting connections

Managing up helps you build the sort of relationships that foster more communication, collaboration, cooperation, and understanding between people at different levels of power, with a variety of perspectives and skills. This type of bridge-building builds your reputation for effectiveness and fit, so you can start skipping rungs on the ladder as you build a strong, successful career. Managing Up is your personal manual for building this vital skill so you can begin building your best future.

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Stop Complaining and Start Winning – Managing Up Is the Key to Your Success

“Once I gave up the hunt for villains, I had little recourse but to take responsibility for my choices…Needless to say, this is far less satisfying than nailing villains. It also turned out to be more healing in the end.”

—Barbara Brown Taylor

Let's be clear: Managing up is not about brownnosing, sucking up, or becoming a sycophant. Managing up is about consciously and deliberatively developing and maintaining effective relationships with supervisors, bosses, and other people above you in the chain of command. It is a deliberate effort to increase cooperation and collaboration in a relationship between individuals who often have different perspectives and uneven power levels. It is about consciously working with your boss to obtain the best possible results for you, your boss, and the organization.

Managing up is about you taking charge of your workplace experience. Here's why it's the key to your success.

Your Boss Matters

As much as we would love to believe that the work world is a meritocracy, where just being great at your job is all you need to succeed, reality tells a different story. The real (and inconvenient) truth is that your boss has a great deal of influence over your career success and trajectory. Your relationship with her, and her experience with you, will determine the kinds of opportunities that come your way in your organization. Establishing strong, productive working relationships is the single most effective way to accelerate success in any organization. Earn your boss's trust and good things come your way; incur your boss's ire and you may find yourself out of the running for promotions and opportunities. Long story short, your relationship with your boss can hurt or help you. It's up to you.

Your Boss Isn't Going to Change

People are who they are. Your boss isn't going to change who she is or how she operates just because you would prefer her to be different. Her personality got her where she is today; his approach has been approved by the powers above him. She believes her way works. He gets rewarded for his style of managing. Or the organization doesn't see the problem or doesn't have the stomach to address it. While you can't change who they are, you can change how you interact with them, and that's where Managing Up comes in. By understanding what makes them tick, you can adapt strategies to create a more robust relationship. You can't change how they deal with you, but you can change how you deal with them. In an ideal world, managers and leaders would adapt to their employees. They would use adaptive relationship–based methods to produce the best results. But the truth is that only 30 percent of managers use more than one style of managing; the rest don't bother. If you work for one of the 70 percent you may be waiting a long time for things to go your way at work with your manager. Why wait? The more effective strategy is, you guessed it, to practice adaptive strategies yourself. Or in other words, managing up.

Your Career Matters

Developing an effective relationship is as much your responsibility as theirs. Do not fall into the trap of “my boss should be…” or “my boss ought to…” A bad or difficult boss is not an excuse for lack of effort on your part. It is your career that will suffer if you and your boss have a bad relationship. Your role in the relationship is to provide your boss with results and performance. You must learn the essence of good “followership.” Managing Up will teach you how to build effective relationships with your boss, which will put you in charge of your career. You can sit back and wait for your manager to change, or you can take action, manage up, and watch your career blossom.

Everybody Has to Manage Up, So Learn to Be Good at It

Most people, whatever their title or position, spend more time and energy reporting to people above them than having people report to them, so the ability to manage up is a critical component in your career success. Whether you are reporting to a supervisor, middle manager, VP, top executive, or a board of directors, managing up is a skill that will help you develop strong relationships, which will increase cooperation, collaboration, and understanding between those who have different power levels and perspectives. It's not about brownnosing, schmoozing, or sucking up. It's about developing robust relationships with the people who have enormous influence over your career. Being able to effectively manage up is good for you, good for your boss, and good for your organization.

Choice Is Empowerment

Managing up is not about blind followership. It's about making strategic choices to obtain the best results for you, your boss, and the organization. It's the win‐win‐win strategy. But in order to do this, you have to come from a place of choice, not from a place of victimhood. When confronted with any difficult situation you always have three choices:

• Change the situation. (We know this is almost impossible, since we can't actually change other people and getting your boss fired is a long‐term play.)
• Leave the situation. (Only you can decide when this is the best strategy, and sometimes it is.)
• Accept and adapt to the situation. (Learn to manage up!)

What isn't a choice is victimhood. Being a victim is completely disempowering. And it is a career killer and a soul killer. Don't kill your soul. It's hard to get it back.

Stop Waiting for the Unicorn and Start Working Well with the Boss You Have

Believe me, I wish bosses would be better. I wish that they would read and take to heart some of the lessons in those tens of thousands of books written on the subject. I wish that organizations would stop promoting people based on technical skills without considering their actual aptitude for managing people. I wish that bad managers would be fired. I wish that you could go to work every day and be energized, valued, inspired, and fulfilled. I also wish I could teleport myself anywhere I wanted to go. But that's not going to happen. So, unless you have a magic potion, stop waiting for the unicorn and start dealing with the boss you have. Start managing up.

Managing Up Will Make You a Better Leader

There. We've come full circle. The adaptive skills that you use to manage up will be many of the same skills you will use to manage down. If you can learn how to adapt to the needs and wants of others, to develop strong working relationships and develop win‐win‐win results by managing up, you will be much more equipped to do the same when you are a manager. If nothing else, you will learn what kind of manager you want to be and what kind of manager you don't want to be. Never waste the opportunity to learn from a difficult boss.

Objections to This Book

“Your Honor, I object!”

—Every lawyer in America

I know, I know. You have objections. People who resist managing up are full of objections. I've heard them all:

• Objection 1: It's not fair.
  My boss is the problem; why should I have to adapt to him? He should adapt to me. Yes. You are right. It's not fair. Completely and utterly not fair. But you know what else isn't fair? Life isn't fair. When given lemons, you can either sit back and suck on the sourness, bemoaning your fate, or you can take those lemons and make something out of them. Getting caught in the it's‐not‐fair trap is a mistake. The world is not a meritocracy and neither is the workplace. Learn to deal with it.
• Objection 2: My boss needs to change, not me.
  You will get no argument from me on that. I totally believe that your boss could and should learn to be a better boss. Your boss should take her job as boss seriously and do everything she can to be a boss who cares and develops her people. Your boss should understand and respect the enormity of her role. Your boss should read a book or two on being a great boss and then actually be a great boss. But guess what? You can't change your boss. All you can do is change your reaction to your boss. If your boss doesn't know how to manage people, then you have to learn to manage her.
• Objection 3: Giving in only reinforces your boss's bad managerial ways.
  Yes. You may be right. Adapting to your boss probably won't teach him anything about being a good boss. But neither will your animosity and resistance. As long as organizations and businesses continue to promote people based on technical skills and not people‐management skills, then the odds of encountering ineffective man...