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Part One
STORY: TELL IT WELL
1. WHY WE MUST SHARE
âThose of you who think you are creating online content, take note: your success will be directly dependent on your ability to create excuses for people to talk to one another.â
â Douglas RushKoff1
Content isnât king, but the conversation is. It always has been. We need to be social with other people. Donât get me wrong; âcontentâ is important, but only because it gives us something to talk about, and a way to be social.
Many working in the business world today have never been required to be social with customers. Mass media marketing techniques took business people away from real conversations, replacing them with ad campaigns. But social media has brought those conversations back.
What weâre realizing for the first time in decades is that we need to personally return to the fundamentals of passing along stories of value to the public, stories that come from our professional expertise but that can then be passed along again and again. We must learn to share if we want to have an online presence that matters.
We are all newcomers to this online realm. My background is in print magazines. I still have a deep love for magazines, even though I know I can get their content in digital form. I like the feeling, the experience. Itâs a bit like being a DJ who likes vinyl records. Someday these great bound collections of dead-tree pages and toxic inks will be consigned to a specialty store. Despite having absolutely no shortage of digital content, I still love seeking them out.
Those of us who come from the print era know that magazines and books are difficult to share. Sure, we can always give them to a friend when we are done with them, but then we no longer have them ourselves. Or we can recommend that a friend also buy and read them. Ultimately, our goal is to be able to sit and have a conversation about the subject matter which touched us.
Shifting to the web was an inevitable leap for me. For you, in whatever your industry, it will likely be inevitable too. The sooner you become a master of this new domain, the better off you will be. The web allows us to quickly share and consume interesting subject matter with other like-minded people, and then have conversations about those stories.
When I came to the web, I brought with me my magazine instincts. Curate: find cool stuff that I think my audience will like. Build up a big audience to share it with. Lather, rinse, repeat. Originally I thought, like many publishers still do, that the value I could monetize here would be the same that I monetized in the mass media era: the size of the audience.
But along the way I discovered something crucial, and now obvious: social media isnât mass media. This isnât broadcasting from on high. This isnât about putting ads in front of as many eyeballs as possible. This is something even better: creating enduring relationships with people who can unlock all sorts of new business opportunities.
This began with hanging out with my so-called readership every day â the same way I used to hang out with work colleagues around the water cooler. Albeit the water cooler was getting pretty big, it wasnât long before there were more than 10,000 â about the same as the monthly print run at the last magazine I worked for (I never knew a single one of my readers in the print days).
But my audience was also contributors. And the whole process clearly became a type of conversation â a sharing of ideas among a group of like-minded people.
These people are still there. So are the conversations. The relationships are deeper now. And the communities that we reach collectively are larger than ever. The trust we have within these communities is also strong.
But communities require constant attention. The more you can contribute the better. You need to be sharing stories, relevant stories, stories of value, stories that help the community make sense of the ever changing media landscape. You need to be sharing about that which you have expertise in. Or that which you care about. Or any ember of passion you feel towards anything. Donât worry, if youâre not sure what this is, Iâll help you cultivate that later in this book.
For now, letâs just make sure we are clear on the importance of sharing in this decentralized network era. Sharing is the foundation of conversation, the foundation of social media and the foundation for all relationships.
There is a lot of psychology at work in a relationship, and therefore to be Socialeaders we will need to develop an understanding of why we âlikeâ different things. This will help us pick and choose the most valuable content to share.
You Know How to Share Gossip
Professor Robin Ian MacDonald Dunbar, British anthropologist and evolutionary psychologist, never set out to explain social media, but much of his work has helped Socialeaders make sense of what is going on today.
Dunbar argued that gossip, in its broadest sense, is a âfundamental prerequisite of the human conditionâ.2 From my experience in social media, Iâd have to agree. So unless you are somehow living outside the human condition, you canât really say you donât know what gossip is â or how to partake in it. This means you understand the basics of what makes social media tick.
The content that we share online is sometimes referred to as social currency. Itâs a useful way of thinking about content. Sometimes it has more value, sometimes it has less. It depends on the context of the situation and who is involved in the conversation. Iâll go more into that later, but for now anything that feels like gossip to you will likely make for turbo-charged social currency:
âWhat is told in the ear of a man is often heard 100 miles away.â
â Chinese proverb
âDo not repeat anything you will not sign your name to.â
â Author unknown
The last anonymous quote, quite ironically, is crucial. Everything we share through social media has our name, or our company name, on it. So we must be careful what we share online. This isnât âoff the recordâ gossip in the back of a bar. Social media is public record, and no one wants a reputation of being a horrible gossip.
Gossip, even in the broadest sense, has had such a bad rap for so long that we canât really talk about it as a useful tool. So letâs call it âstory sharingâ.
These stories can be false, faked or otherwise untrue. Stories can misrepresent and take matters out of context. Stories can be cold hard truths or complete works of fiction. But more often the stories are âtrue enoughâ and they matter. They have to be trustworthy, come from a trusted source and carry information we can act on because without story sharing, we canât sustain communities. Our story sharing acts like building maintenance for societal groups. Without it, our groups crumble into rubble.
Dunbar asserts that our story sharing âis the central plank on which human sociality is foundedâ. 3 It is certainly the central plank on which social media communities are founded. And it will be the plank on which we build our own online presence.
The stories you share will determine the crowds you attract, which will determine your online influence.
So you need to begin with the end in mind. The central plank of stories you share from the outset will determine where you end up â because it will determine whom you begin to bond with.
Sharing Stories Creates Bonds
Try getting through a whole day without sharing some sort of ânewsâ with someone. You would be a pretty lonely person. Itâs less about the content and more about the social bonding.
But bonding is not what we first think about in the rush to âengageâ in online conversation. Instead of asking, âWhat exactly are we going to engage customers about? What was this so-called conversation supposed to discuss?â, the tendency is to start pushing out brand message the way we were accustomed to doing in the Broadcast Age.
Too often, like some self-centred brute on a first date with an attractive woman, we meet with our customers (virtually) and proceed to talk non-stop about ourselves. It doesnât take long before they tune us out and start looking at their watches. That is not bonding. That is not what is meant by sharing, engaging or conversations.
Broadcasting isnât really sharing. Putting out your own carefully crafted message serves your own purposes. It serves your brand, your product, your service. But rarely has this served others very well. Seldom have we provided a story that, like gossip, can continue to be shared and, every time it does, deepen bonds between people.
The catchphrase I hear all the time among serious social media practitioners is âsharing is caringâ. While this platitude sounds like something your kindergarten teacher might have told you, it is actually an important sociological type of âsocial groomingâ.
Social media is more about the âsocialâ than they are about the âmediaâ. To become masters of this medium, we need to think like monkeys. Yes, monkeys. Caring monkeys that groom each other. Sharing stories of interest among our like-minded monkey tribe is a bit like how real monkeys pick fleas out of each otherâs fur. This lights up our primate brains with an emotional charge and is an age-old, fundamental bonding ritual.4
But the stories you share must be valuable in some way to those around you. You only bond with fellow monkeys who are good at picking out your fleas. And to be good at picking out someoneâs fleas, you need to know where they scratch the most.
To know where someone scratches requires connecting with that individual one-to-one. Itâs about you, not your company â YOU! To be successful with social media, you need to keep in mind that you are going to be living with yourself online forever more. Rebooting your online presence years from now will be nearly impossible. We need to take responsibility for building relationships, and that begins with taking responsibility for finding great social currency to share.
What is Social Currency?
Itâs important to understand that there is something a little bit more complex about the idea of sharing stories to build relationships. This is where the term âsocial currencyâ comes into play.
The term, as Iâm using it, was coined in 2000 by the American media theorist Douglas Rushkoff. Social currency isnât a new term to those working in the worldâs top advertising agencies or to those who study sociology, where the term has been in use for much longer. It gets talked about a lot these days. But like everything else that gets talked about a lot, people often get it wrong.
To be clear: social currency is the information you acquire, then share, to start, maintain and nurture your relationships. Itâs important to think of it as a bit like money, although not as a direct analogue. If you give social currency of value to someone, you can then pass it on as something valuable to another person. With real money, when you give it away, you have it no more. However, when we share stories, we still retain those stories, and itâs the excitement of the conversation they evoke that we truly value.
Viral videos, hot gossip, good jokes: these are social currency with a high pass-on value because they get us talking. When we are sharing stories to create bonds with other like-minded people, we want to give them social currency with the highest pass-on value we can. The more they can share what we give them, the more people they can talk about the experience with, the deeper our relationships become.
Social currency can help us feel like we belong to a community, that we get an inside joke, or otherwise feel significant.
If this is the first time youâve heard the term âsocial currencyâ expect that it wonât be the last. Often when we finally have a term like âsocial currencyâ to describe what we have seen going on, we begin to see it in action all around us every day, and everywhere we go. You will see social currency exchanges every time you see people having conversations.
Social currency forms the âcentral plankâ. Sharing it is the âsocial groomingâ that holds communities together.
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