PILLAR 1
Personality & communication
The way into any culture is through its people. The more vibrant a culture, the more its people open its doors, roll out the welcome mat and make new people feel part of it. The less vibrant the culture, the more its people either have to force their way into it or are left on the outside, wondering what it will take to get an invitation to join.
The behaviours of an individual in cultures is driven by:
- how self-aware they are
- how self-aware others around them are.
Itās the capacity to be self-aware that allows people to understand the things theyāre good at, the things they need to work on and how to utilise the feedback they receive in order to continue to grow as a person.
The big problem, however, is that many people lack self-awareness and therefore cannot regulate their emotions, and consequently cultures never move forward. In her excellent book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, Dr Carol Dweck notes, āStudies showed that people are terrible at estimating their abilities. And those with a fixed mindset made up the inaccuracies.ā
Indeed, in a ground-breaking study in the early 2000s (whose findings were published in a paper titled āUnskilled and Unaware of It: How Difficulties in Recognizing Oneās Own Incompetence Lead to Inflated Self-Assessmentsā), Cornell University students David Dunning and Justin Kruger demonstrated through research and experiments that unskilled employees who lack self-awareness often overstated their abilities and competence at their job.
And there are plenty of these people in organisational cultures. Iāve worked with a few myself, and probably even qualified as one early in my career.
Every cultural evolution program has to start with self-awareness. It must give people a window into who they are and what theyāre about, their personal strengths and their opportunities for improvement. After all, without an understanding of ourselves, itās hard for us to develop an understanding of others and be empathetic to their needs.
To be clear, Iām not talking about authenticity. Well, I am, but not in the way others talk about it. Authenticity is (according to my friends at Wikipedia) the degree to which one is true to oneās own personality, spirit or character, despite external pressures.
Nice.
Researchers Erikson (1995) and Weigort (2009) found that it has more to do with a commitment to values and motivation and therefore is deeply personal and (crucially) āincapable of challenge by othersā.
And thereās the rub.
Everyoneās view of what is authentic is different and if I believe Iām authentic regardless of how I behave, well, thatās just what I believe. There are no rules as to what it is. Since peopleās values, behaviours, motivation and communication styles differ, there can be no hard and fast rules.
There are misogynists, racists, and people who harass and bully others who believe themselves to be the most authentic people on the planet. Of course theyāre not, and I can say that because my view of authenticity is different.
Being told to ābe authenticā isnāt altogether helpful; however, anyone can become the person they want to be through continual self-awareness and feedback. And often the latter will compel the former.
Some of the most self-aware people I know take the time to ask others for their opinions on their values, behaviours, motivations and communication style. They spend time thinking about what it is they stand for and whether that is in line with the way the world currently thinks and works.
These people never use age as an excuse; they donāt put people into a box based on their gender, race or opinions; they stay on top of the skills they need to be good at what they do; and they strive to behave in a way that positively influences other humans around them.
They think before they speak, challenge rather than conform, listen when they want to talk, make time for learning and play, rest and recharge, and are productively busy with their time. They consistently practise at being the very best human being they can be, which requires resilience, courage and reflection.
This is the kind of authenticity we need to see, and we need people to share how they got there in a language and style that doesnāt alienate or confuse.
What questions did they ask? What barriers existed and how did they remove them? How did their lifestyle change? And who are the people who helped them get there?
Although peopleās views of what authenticity means might differ, often the actions they need to take, and the behaviours they need to demonstrate to achieve a status where they can be a positive influence on others, are the same.
To become the best version of ourselves requires support, education, feedback, discipline and personal change. The culture should support all of these things.
Okay, where was I? Oh yes, self-awareness.
Emotional intelligence
In 2013, researchers Zes and Landis found that āPoor-performing companiesā employees were 79 percent more likely to have low overall self-awareness than those at firms with robust ROR.ā And that companies with a greater percentage of self-aware employees consistently outperformed those with a lower percentage.
So increased self-awareness produces tangible results. But wait, thereās more.
Daniel Goleman determined that self-awareness was a critical component of emotional intelligence, which is a key contributor to cultural success. He found that āwhat makes the difference between stars and others is not their intelligent IQ, but their emotional EQā.
Readers who have worked in or seen great cultures know this to be true. The people we learn from, the people we spend most time around and the cultures we enjoy working in know how to behave, have discipline and focus, know how to get the job done in difficult circumstances and understand the value of continuous improvement. These are all traits of emotionally intelligent people, and when people like this work together the cultural results are the envy of others.
In his book Emotional Capitalists: The New Leaders, researcher and author Martyn Newman says,
The importance of EQ in cultures has been downplayed for far too long. Quite how the hardest thing to develop and change has been classed as āsoft skillsā is beyond me. Technical ability has taken precedence over how humans treat each other in cultures for most of my lifetime. Now the balance is finally shifting, and about time too.
High emotional intelligence has been proven to lift productivity, sales and overall team performance. This is why it is a core component of vibrant cultures.
Cultures that demonstrate low emotional intelligence (stagnant and combatant in the culture model in the figure on page 12 of this book) are almost always toxic, and nothing good is toxic.
The people within these cultures behave poorly and arenāt aware they are the problem. Their actions include dissention, anger, gossip and silent resistance. They refuse to be part of the team or the solution that the team is looking to find. They are wedded to the āway things are done around hereā and will tell you āit is what it isā. In an insightful blog in February 2019, the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Developmentās David DāSouza described how their thought-terminating clichĆ©s ākill thought (and probably useful action)ā.
From someone who doesnāt want to do the job they were employed to do, to someone who shows disrespect for authority or their team/classmates, these low EQ people like to focus on their own agendas and obstruct progress. They believe in āIā not āweā and stand in the way of evolution.
If the research is to be believed, however, their days are numbered.
A 2018 Harvard Business Review article titled āThe Rise of AI Makes EQ More Importantā reported that researchers had found, āSkills like persuasion, social understanding and empathy are going to become differentiators as AI and machine learning take over other tasks.ā
According to Dr Toby Walsh, Professor of Artificial Intelligence at Sydney University, machines will slowly take over jobs that are considered dull, dirty, difficult and dangerous. However, human beings who are high in emotional intelligence will always be required to lead other humans.
After the Global Financial Crisis the world changed, and the āGreed is Goodā mantra advocated by ruthless corporate raider Gordon Gecko in the movie Wall Street in the late 1980s is now called out ā not championed ā in media outlets and reports around the world. Sadly such greed still exists and many CEOs still place their personal interests far above those of their staff.
That said, emotional intelligence, with its focus on empathy, has never been more valued. Itās a cultural investment that, with self-awareness, disciplined application and continual feedback, provides payback in almost every part of a culture. Indeed, achieving a vibrant culture as described in this book is only achievable with high EQ people.
The way most organisations force self-awareness in the hope of creating more emotionally intelligent staff is through the often-maligned personality survey.
Traits, empathy and stories
In the spirit of full disclosure here, let me say that I love a good personality survey. I love to read a report of who a set of algorithms thinks I am, based on spending 20 minutes answering questions that on the face of it look exactly the same. BUT, and itās a big ābutā (hence the caps), only if the language ...