The magnificent Santa Lucia Mountains as seen from the terrace of Nepenthe. The patio is made of cut redwood rounds.
Me in 1938. Iâm told I was always laughing as a baby.
Mom stepping out in Capri in the early 1930s.
1937â1946
My early years in San Francisco and Carmel
I was born on December 7, 1937, at 2:47 a.m., at the Childrenâs Hospital in San FranciscoâDecember 7 would later become the infamous Pearl Harbor day. My parents, Bill and Lolly Fassett, were both twenty-six at the time and already had a one-year-old in tow, my brother Griff. Dad and Mom debated about a name for me. Griff had been named after Dadâs maternal grandfather, William Eliot Griffis, so Dad said, âWhy not please your family and name him after your grandfather?â Mom had adored her maternal grandfather Frank Powers, and she readily agreed, signing my birth certificate âFrank Powers Fassett.â
My antecedents were an eclectic mix of art philanthropists, entrepreneurs, academics, artists, suffragettes, and writers. This made my parents encourage creativity in anyone who crossed their paths. Mom was a great romantic and loved the color in life, and Dad loved drama. Neither had cultivated an art or craft, so they didnât impose any particular artistic discipline on their kids. Still, they were always keen to promote celebration and heightened fun.
Mom had been a very handsome young woman in her early life and had traveled around Europe with her painter grandmother, Jane Gallatin Powers, wife of Frank Powers. After Frankâs death in 1920, Jane emigrated to Europe, taking her two youngest daughtersâher oldest daughter, my grandmother, was already married and had had my mother by that time, so she stayed behind in San Francisco. At the age of seventeen, my mother left California and went over to join Jane. Mom would regale us with tales of her six years spent in Paris, Rome, and Capri. One story I loved was how on arriving at grand hotels, my great-grandmother would unscrew the door handles and replace them with her own more decorative ones.
Mom also told us about the dashing, unusual clothes she wore during her years in Europe. She often described an apple green satin dress she had worn, for which she had made one peacock blue shoe and one emerald green. Is it any wonder I should develop a passion for color with inspirational visions like that embedded in my memory? One of Momâs aunts married the governor of Capri, so Mom spent many summer days swimming and evenings attending receptions and dancing at grand balls.
My father was tall and handsome with a wicked sense of humor that gained more of a sadistic edge as he really got to know you. His personality would have made him a good twenty-first-century TV presenter, prying out embarrassing stories from unsuspecting people. He was also an eclectic and avid reader. Politics, religion, and the American Civil War were among his favorite subjects. He talked often of writing a great book, but those plans remained in the realm of talkâa sad fact that motivated me to act on my own dreams.
Dadâs upbringing, mostly in California, was rather bohemian for the time, and after finishing Cornell University, where he studied hotel management, he returned to California and started working as a merchant marine. He lived next door to Mom in San Francisco, and it was only a matter of time before these two handsome people would get together. They were both born in 1911 and married at twenty-four.
At the time of my birth, my mother and father were living in the Powers family home on Steiner Street in San Francisco where my mother had grown up. Her maternal grandparents, Frank and Jane Gallatin Powers, were the founders of the artist colony in Carmel-by-the-Sea on the beautiful wild coast of California. They had bought a house on the edge of the Carmel beach called The Dunes when they were developing the colony, but they also had this San Francisco house, as Frank had his law practice there. Janeâs father was Albert Gallatin, a wealthy California businessman who was an early pioneer of hydroelectric power and power transmission, and was the president of the largest hardware, iron, and steel company on the West Coast. A self-made man, he built himself a large house in Sacramento that later became the governorâs mansion for thirteen California governors.
My fatherâs antecedents were pretty impressive as well. His maternal grandfather, William Eliot Griffis, was a noted American Orientalist and writer who had been decorated in Japan for his work in education there. Dadâs birth father was Edward Lee McCallie, whose family had founded the McCallie School, a renowned boyâs school, in Chattanooga, Tennessee, but his mother, Kevah, divorced and remarried when he was still a baby. His wealthy stepfather, Newton Crocker Fassett, was Williamâs best friend and the man who, by adopting Dad, gave our family their surname.
The past family glories didnât seem to offer my young parents much financial privilege. I always remember them struggling pretty hard to make ends meet during my childhood. But the advantage passed down to me was probably the cultured upbringing my parents had hadâit ensured that I was exposed to the arts from a young age.
My very first memories are of the Powers familyâs Steiner Street house and its garden. The house seemed huge to me then, but it came down to size when I was to see it a couple of decades laterâa kind of average-size four-story San Francisco Victorian. I lived there with my parents and older brother until I was four and Griff was five.
Being so young, I donât remember much about living on Steiner Street. What I do recall is the delicious feeling of lying down in my little red wagon and gazing up at clouds and the berries on the holly tree till I dozed off. The next thing I knew, my motherâs voice was booming out of the upstairs window. âWhat are you doing? Come up to bed if you want to sleep.â Naps were compulsory for Griff and me, and we hated having to take them. We were active boys and disliked being told, âOh, you are overtired,â whenever we complained about anything. One afternoon when we were really resisting shutting our eyes at naptime, Dad said, âYouâll love having a nap one day.â Indeed, I have come to treasure a short power nap during my working day in the studio. It need only be ten to fifteen minutes to set me up for an afternoonâs hard work. Often when guests are here for lunch, Iâll slip out as they are having a cup of tea after the meal and be back before they get up from the table.
A story I often heard my mother tell regarded my ârealâ name. When I was old enough to go to nursery school in San Francisco, my father signed me in there as Frank Powers Fassett. A year later, when I required a vaccination, the school needed my birth certificate, so they sent off for it. When it arrived, my astonished teacher rang my mother to ask, âDoesnât your husband even know his own childâs name?â
1, 3, 4: My great grandmother, artist Jane Gallatin Powers, in Italy, where she lived and painted in the 1920s and 1930s, and two of her paintings from that era. 2, 5, 9: Jane would have approved of my patchwork fabrics from the ninetiesâBekah and CloisonnĂ©âand my Fair Isle knitting from the eighties. 6, 8: Mom in Capri in the early 1930s, when she was living with her grandmother; and Janeâs portrait of her. 7: Mom and Dad looking content on their wedding day in 1935.
âWhy, what did he sign him in as?â she asked.
âFrank Powers Fassett. But I have his birth certificate in front of me, and it says Frank Havrah Fassett!â My mother had never heard the name Havrah, so she called Dad at his office to get an explanation. My father was so shocked when he heard the story that he dropped the phone. When Dad was born to his astrologically obsessed mother, Kevah, she gave him the middle name Havrah, a name thought to have great stability because it had an âhâ at each end. Dad hated it as he grew up and never used it or told anyone about it, including Mom. Kevah had passed away a few years before I was born, but my mother always felt she must have wanted the name Havrah in the family so much that she had âarrangedâ it from the other side. I feel sure that Kevah was a forceful creature, capable of doing that. Educated at Vassar in the early twentieth century and quite a bohemian, she was divorced twice and married three times in the days when divorce was a very rare occurrence. She became active in the early movement for womenâs rights and worked with Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood.
Our family had another addition in 1941 when my sister Dorcas Jane Fassett was born, and in the same year we moved to a ranch just outside Marin City, a couple of miles northwest of downtown Sausalito. With three small children under five, my parents were trying to make a go of running a horse ranch, and Dad joined the World War II effort working in the Sausalito shipyards, at the north end of the Golden Gate Bridge. Housing in Marin City itself was building up rapidly at the start of the war to accommodate more than 70,000 shipyard workers flooding into Sausalito to...