Part I
Provocations
1 Provocations in debates about sexual violence against men
Marysia Zalewski
Opening comments
It should be straightforward. It seems obvious that sexual violence is unquestionably abhorrent in any circumstances. It would then also seem obvious that attempts to effectively deal with its effects and prevent its future occurrence should be at the core of political and theoretical interventions. Yet the couplet âsexual violenceâ â in practice and in theory â remains troublingly enigmatic. The relationship between âsexâ and âviolenceâ is a notoriously unsettled one, any connection between the two typically presented by more conservative institutions as a deviation from âcorrectâ versions of sex which are usually related to procreation, sometimes love. Women in many of these traditional narratives appear as simply containers for procreation, men as providers. The corporeal experiences of sex typically understated and at the same time often assumed. Here, men as active and women as passive (in all their varied physical and psychic permutations) conventionally materialise as paramount (see Chapters 2 and 5 by Hendershot and Cottet). I open this chapter with these observations in part because a plethora of paradoxes and what we might call âcomplexities shrouded in simplicityâ seem to mark representations of sexual violence, as well as its theorisations and attempts at its obliteration. The question or spectre of an intimate relationship between sex and violence is one that will largely remain unanswered, at least explicitly, in this volume. But it is the intellectual spirit of this opening chapter to âunfoldâ paradoxes as a way to raise some questions about the inflection of debates about sexual violence. To do this, I will first briefly explain how I became interested in the issue of sexual violence against men, and then offer my reflections on a series of issues that perturb me about debates about sexual violence against men.
Introduction
I initially became interested in the incidence of sexual violence against men through an interest in the hyper-celebrity fuelled attention to sexual violence against women. This manner of violence has been subject to a great deal of theorising, policy construction, and political discussion, and current international governance attention is intense. The United Nations presents as something of a paragon of virtue in this context from the âground-breakingâ Security Council Resolution 1325 to more recent developments including the creation of UN Women,1 the Sustainable Development Goals,2 the 2014 Global Summit to End Sexual Violence,3 the latest Security Council resolutions (two of the most recent relevant ones include SCR 2106 and SCR 2122 both in 2013),4 and the 2015 Global Report reviewing progress since UNSCR 1325.5 These are preceded, accompanied by, and variably indebted to the multiple archives of feminist scholarship, theorising, and activism most obviously since the 1960s, at least in its documented Western frames. As such, a central reason for the abundant attention to women in this context is attributed to domination of feminist writers who have worked very hard to âhighlight the sexual victimisation of womenâ (Graham 2006: 188) especially as this was an âeveryday occurrenceâ (Brownmiller 1975; Stanko 1990; Leatherman 2011).
But we know that gender is not only about women, thus the apparent lack of sustained theoretical and political interest in sexual violence against men is curious. Humans are capable of all manner of violent acts and this kind of violence is not unusual. It is also not that sexual violence against men, especially in zones of conflict, has not visibly featured across the centuries. Goyaâs Disasters of War etchings tell explicit stories about sexually violated men.6 Though it is true to say that sexual violence against women drenches artistic, literary, and public imaginations. The list here would be a lengthy one: the Rape of the Sabine Women, Jack the Ripper, tales of everyday domestic violence and the âsex slavesâ of contemporary âextremist groupsâ. The prevalence of sexual violence against women seemingly increases in war and conflict scenarios, its reporting (especially currently) is immediate (more or less), its salacious presence at the top of international political agendas assuring good press and attention from researchers and policymakers alike. Itâs a very âsexyâ topic; a disturbing paradox perhaps. It is now not news that rape, sexual assault, and sexual mutilation have become among the âpreferred methodsâ of inflicting pain in wars/conflict; âwarâ offers permission to deliver a whole host of inventive and brutal levels of pain. However, given current increasingly noticed incidences of sexual violence against men, the imbalance of gendered attention is causing concern â âEverybody has heard the womenâs stories. But nobody has heard the menâsâ (Storr 2011). Men suffer from sexually violent attacks â why not simply include them in as serious ways as female victims? It should be straightforward, though it seems it is not and the reasons why are complex, some of which I will point to in this chapter (and other authors in the book will take these complexities up in varied ways).
The remainder of this chapter works with what Barbara Tomlinson describes as the âscene of argumentâ (2010), or, simply the framing of debates, specifically here around some of the reasons made (even if via assumption) for the theoretical and conceptual inclusion of men and boys made in debates around the gender(ing) of sexual violence. My discussion here will focus on a range of inter-connected issues, though these sections will be brief, more akin to âsnap-shotsâ and in some ways are intentionally âunfinishedâ. The issues are ones that that have vexed me in my readings around a variety of debates and discussions on sexual violence against men.7 By way of a conclusion, I reflect on what I think might be at stake.
That description is (almost) enough (data speaks first)
What do we think when we read about sexual violence? What can we think? I open a book on sexual violence in conflict and I am usually immediately assailed by a searing list of sexually violent incidents. The detail has become familiar. But what does the list prove â that the facts âspeak for themselvesâ? âFactsâ, certainly as critical scholars understand them, never speak for themselves, but are ventriloquised through âsedimented layers of previous interpretationsâ (Jameson 2001: 101), or some facts, as Tomlinson puts it, âseem already true before the moment of argumentâ (2010: 1). But itâs not that âthe listâ of sexual violations doesnât have impact â perhaps more affective than cognitive â though we might ask how certain or clear the separation between âfeelingâ and âthinkingâ is. When I show an image from Goyaâs Disaster of War8 in classes and talks, one (of the many) which depicts the act of severing a manâs penis, many in the audience wince; unsurprisingly. How does this sensory reaction affect or even constitute how we can think about sexual violence against men?
Of course, providing a long list of sexually violent acts to demand attention and reparation is something that feminist scholars and activists have made much use of to illustrate the gendered and sexed damage done to women and girls. The foundational conceptual work of, for example, Mary Daly and Andrea Dworkin (and a host of others in the realm of what can still be called Anglo-American radical feminism), still, surprisingly I think for many, provide the basis for a good deal of the âgender thinkingâ, concepts, and semantic tactics underpinning a wide range of internationalised policies on gender, perhaps especially those targeting sexual violence. There are many problems with this, not least the persistent tethering of injury to the category of woman (and the bodies of women), âforeverâ placing woman in a (categorised) site of pain and bloodied victimhood â women as âalways rapeableâ (Marcus 1992). Sexual violence has a particular place in this rendition, with women so often figuratively positioned as (always) at the mercy of patriarchal power and the vicious ways that violence could get hidden in the frames of love or sex. The verification of such injuries as injury became a crucial way in which feminist scholars and activists could both prove the truth of the violence of patriarchal power and gain the right to pursue justice and hopefully reform (Bumilller 2008). The facts of violence against women, not least sexual violence, did, it seems, begin to âspeak for themselvesâ. Importantly so, as Emily Martin made clear some time ago, womenâs stories of violence âare not trivial (âŚ) they are radical, they are threatening, they would mean revolutionâ (1988: 20). Could it be just the same for men? That the facts of sexual violence against men simply but powerfully need to be afforded visibility and credibility, opening up chances for justice and reparations to follow? Can gender be so conceptually simple especially when it has seemed to belong (only) to women despite decades of more nuanced and attentive theorising? Erring on the side of theoretical and sensory caution is usually sound advice as Gunne and Brigley Thompson reminds us that:
A powerful subject like rape [or sexual violence] can be a trap ⌠we can be so seduced into thinking the material itself is so strong ⌠we donât have to engage with it very deeply â an outpouring of emotion or an emphasis on graphic detail will suffice.
(Gunne and Brigley Thompson 2010: xix)
Sexual violence against men and boys is (almost) as frequent as that against women and girls
This simple proposition invokes a glut of questions, for instance, what is to be counted in the frame of âsexual violenceâ? How would this be measured? Is the claim related to sexual violence in war, conflict and post-conflict zones (and when is it decided that a country/nation/state/society is beyond any of these warring states?), or sexual violence in âpeace-timeâ? Some of these questions will be taken up in other chapters in this book; to recall, my aim here is only to open up some of the complexities summoned by the empirical levelling of the incidence of sexual violence across the traditional gender-binary, most notably in relation to sexual violence associated with conflict/post-conflict. In this context, it is surely the case that men have conventionally been largely ignored in narratives around sexual violence (though this is also credibly claimed to be the case in âpeace-timeâ), as the Guardian headline introduced earlier about the âdarkest secret of warsâ infers. Others also make this point, as Graham notes, âmale victims [of sexual violence] are largely neglectedâ (2006: 187), and for Sivakumaran, ârelatively little material exists on the subject [sexual violence against men in armed conflict] and the issue tends to be relegated to a footnoteâ (2007: 253). Though despite centuries of depictions of sexual violence against both men and women in times of conflict (especially as depicted in art), it is only in the last few decades that this kind violence has been acknowledged as âwrongâ or indeed (and crucially) as even noticeable as different in some way to the âregularâ violence of war â or even as violence at all. But it is the case that this ânewâ attention has largely focused on sexual violence against women. At least that is how it seems and is generally reported in the academic literatures, related legislation and policies, and in the media. As stated earlier, perhaps a central reason for the focused attention on sexual violence against women is because of the decades of work by feminist writers who have worked very hard to highlight the sexual victimisation of women. Has this work and its ensuing influence on policy hidden the facts about sexual violence against men, designating such violence as a paradigmatically feminised injury, making masculinised ownership conceptually and psychically very difficult, oftentimes impossible?
The complexities invoked here also emerge in the atmosphere of incredulity about the veracity of claims that incidences of sexual violence are (more or less) equally divided (or suffered) by both genders.9 Many continue to insist that âwomen and girls are the primary victims of this [sexual] violenceâ (Ward 2016: 296).10 However, work over the last decade or so has clearly unearthed and made visible (empirically, conceptually, legislatively) sexual violence against men in a range of conflict and post-conflict zones as the work in this volume testifies. Men are indeed a gender too and their vulnerability to violence associated with gender (notably that to which the label of âsexualâ get attached) surely must be recognised as such. Though this does beg a specific question about gender, which is: are men the same (kind of) gender as women? The answer must be no, as gender, despite its varied appearance and impact across the binary, implies difference â minimally sexual difference (Zalewski 2010; Irigaray 1993). The markers of femininity and masculinity, notwithstanding their considerable variations over time and cultures, are, it seems, indelibly marked by their difference to each other (Kramer 2000). And their constructed character enhances infinite possibilities. Thus, to make claims about the gender of specific forms of violence named sexual is to invoke, however ephemerally, the workings of gender in their differentially masculinised and feminised shapes. And the ways that masculinity and femininity in all their constructed and shifting pluralities are conjured, have different kinds of implications (to each other). Think of HĂŠlène Cixousâs provocative comment, âwhen we say to a woman that she is a man or to a man that he is a woman, itâs a terrible insult. This is why we cut one anotherâs throatsâ (quoted in Sellers 2004: 200).
The sense of Cixousâ comment is more forcefully clarified when we consider some of the ways in which narratives about sexual violence against men mobilise ideas about masculinity and what it means to be âa manâ. At the trial of Jean-Pierre Bemba,11 one of the witnesses reported that his rapist had said after the attack, âyou are a woman nowâ. The forced removal of a manâs âmanlinessâ through an act of sexual violence is powerfully invoked here. This is especially the case given the further detail supplied â his wife left him because he âwasnât a manâ anymore. Or for Dhia al Shweiri, a former prisoner in Abu Ghraib,
we are men. Itâs OK if they beat me. Beatings donât hurt us: itâs just a blow. But no one would want [his] manhood to be shattered. They wanted us to feel as though we were women, the way women feel, and this is the worst insult, to feel like a woman.
(Puar 2007: 89)
Masculinity here is presented as the conduit through which to (fatally) damage a man, even if the body still lives. In this sense, perhaps we can say that masculinity (really does) âmake a manâ (Berger, Wallis, and Watson 1995). Though this is not to say that masculinity is just something that is âin the headâ, or a âsimpleâ matter of personal identit...