CHAPTER 1
WE CAN’T WAIT FOR CHANGE
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are.
—AUGUSTINE OF HIPPO
Rob and I are excited that you’re reading these words, and we want to tell you something right off the top:
This book is written for you
IF
You want to change your world.
Going through the pages of this book, you will read about . . .
Missy, a volunteer at a school who was asked to share her apple, discovered hungry children, packed food into backpacks in her garage, and started a program that today feeds eighty-seven thousand kids.
Missy changed her world.
Bryan, who took his childhood trauma and pain and used it build a safe place for sexually abused children so they could live with hope, dignity, and unconditional love.
Bryan is changing his world.
Ethan, a third-grader who put his hand over his heart and asked, “Do you ever feel deep down here that you want to help make a difference?”
Ethan is only just beginning to change his world.
This book is written for you
IF
You want to change yourself.
You will be changed as you read about . . .
Charlee, a high school dropout with no sense of purpose in her life, who spent five months working with children in the slums of Africa and said, “I came home a totally, radically changed person.”
Charlee was changed and now she is changing her world.
Rene, a man in Mexico who searched for his brother’s murderer for ten years so he could exact revenge, but learned the value of forgiveness at transformation tables, chose to forgive the man, and changed his family’s history.
Rene was changed and his life is getting better.
Yomila, a timid young woman from Guatemala who gained the courage and confidence to take a better job when she adopted a more positive attitude and now helps others in the villages surrounding her home.
Yomila has changed and is now helping others.
This book is written for you
IF
You want to be part of a transformational movement.
You will be inspired as you learn about . . .
Sam, the owner of a company that makes outdoor furniture who started making plastic face shields for medical workers braving the COVID-19 pandemic and brought together the people in his small community while making a difference.
Sam helped others create a movement in his town.
Cerro Porteño, one of Paraguay’s most popular professional soccer teams, joined hands with rival Club Olimpia to teach good values to players at every level of their organization, and it’s spreading to other teams and changing players’ lives.
One team helped another and started a movement in their community.
Roy, who learned his son wanted to take his life because he was being bullied. While helping his son, Roy realized other parents and kids needed help, so he started an organization that now helps millions of kids in forty-two states.
Roy is part of a movement that is changing the country.
You have the potential to make a difference by joining with us as we help others or by starting a movement of your own.
You can change your world.
Rob and I have invested our lives in bringing positive change into the lives of people. This book has been written to encourage and equip you to be a catalyst for transformation in your world: your family, your workplace, your community. If you are already changing your world, we hope to help you become even better at it. If you are not yet involved in making a positive difference in the lives of others, we hope to encourage you to get started, and we want to teach you how to intentionally add value to people, because anyone, anywhere can make a difference.
Changing the world happens one life at a time. We are committed to helping people like you become a light of hope within your community. Thousands of volunteers have already become part of our transformation efforts, helping others to learn and live good values. (You can go to ChangeYourWorld.com to check that out.) In many countries around the world, they are making a difference through the eight streams of influence: government, education, business, religion, media, arts, sports, and healthcare. Rob and I envision a day when people from every background, in every country are adding value to people, making a difference, and changing their world. That day will become a reality when you and others like you commit to it.
WHAT NEEDS TO CHANGE?
Looking at our world, it’s pretty easy to see that things could change for the better. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have better schools? Better neighborhoods? More positive workplaces? Would you like to have a more connected family? Communities where people get along and work together for everyone’s good? Wouldn’t the world be better if people were more respectful, unified, and positive?
You probably know intuitively much of what can be read in newspaper headlines. We have reasons to believe our world needs to become better:
- Families are breaking down in the United States; where 9 percent of households in 1960 were led by single parents, in 2014 that number grew to 26 percent.1
- In 2014 about 2.5 million children experienced homelessness in the United States.2
- Civic engagement and volunteerism, two characteristics that were once identified as America’s strengths, have fallen drastically in the last fifty years.3
- In 2015 3.3 million people were victims of violent crime in the United States.4
- An estimate by the Institute for Economics and Peace recently concluded that violence costs the global economy $13.6 trillion a year.5
- Mental health issues are on the rise6 and getting worse.7
- Corruption is a problem around the globe.8
- It’s estimated that 40 million people worldwide are victims of modern slavery.9
We could go on, but we don’t need to. Problems that could use our help are everywhere. We’re betting you see things around you every day that you wish were better than they are.
But don’t let that discourage or intimidate you. Did you know that positive changes are possible? Even huge ones? While we were working on this book, Rob shared some information with me that really surprised me. In 2013, a survey asking about extreme poverty—living on less than $1.90 a day—posed this question: “In the last 30 years, has the proportion of the world population living in extreme poverty increased, stayed the same, or decreased?” Here are the answers people gave to the question:
- 55% said extreme poverty had increased
- 33% said it had stayed the same
- 12% said it had decreased10
What’s your guess? I was shocked and pleased to learn that extreme poverty rates worldwide have actually decreased. Dramatically! Look at this graph to see how extreme poverty rates have steadily gone down since 1800 and notice how they have plunged since the 1950s.
And the extreme poverty rate continues to go down. That’s great news, yet we rarely hear anything about it. In 2018 the Brookings Institute reported,
This is great news that should give us great hope. We believe if extreme poverty can be changed—something that has been a problem for all of human history—so can other problems, great and small. The world can change for the better. People like you and like us can be difference makers.
SOMEBODY DO SOMETHING!
If change is possible, why aren’t we doing more to change our world? The Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said, “If we don’t change the direction we’re going, we are likely to end up where we are headed.” The reality is that most of us are waiting for somebody else to do something about the problems we see. We want change, but we hope that someone somewhere will do something to bring it about.
- We wait for the government to do something.
- We want the health care system to do something.
- We believe education will do something.
- We look to business to do something.
- We imagine media will do something.
- We wish arts and entertainment would do something.
- We think sports will do something.
- We hope religious institutions will do something.
But the fact is that we can’t wait for change. While the influencers and institutions we listed above are all beneficial, the rest of us can’t be passive bystanders. If we want the world to be a better place and we hope for conditions of need in the world to improve, then we need to change. We need to take action.
“IF WE DON’T CHANGE THE DIRECTION WE’RE GOING, WE ARE LIKELY TO END UP WHERE WE ARE HEADED.”
—LAO TZU
Rob and I have spent our lives helping people and leading organizations whose purpose is to add value to people. We’ve traveled the world and interacted with people from every continent and from more cultures than we can count. And we are convinc...