He Just Doesn't Get It

Simple Solutions to the Most Common Relationship Problems

Ellen Sue Stern

• Publisher: Pocket Books
• Year: 2001
• Print ISBN: 9780671525156
• eBook ISBN: 9780743424639
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

Almost every woman has uttered, "He just doesn't get it!" in frustration when her partner drives her crazy -- or to tears. Now this dramatically different relationship guide reveals the hidden reasons why. He Just Doesn't Get It! offers simple solutions to the problems women have with the infuriating, confusing, difficult -- and absolutely wonderful -- guys they love, including:

• "Why are men so selfish?"
• "How can they be so oblivious?"
• "Are men intimacy-impaired?"
• "Will he ever grow up?"
• "Will he ever understand me and love me in the way I long to be loved?"

Nationally known relationship counselor Ellen Sue Stern has worked with thousands of women who have asked the exact same questions about their boyfriends or husbands -- regardless of their age, background, or length of time in a relationship.
Why is it that men don't make the same effort women do to please their mate, improve intimacy, or create a more satisfying union?
Focusing on fifteen of the most common relationship problems, Ellen Sue Stern supplies the answers -- and the unseen motivations underlying men's behavior -- as if she's been there herself (she has!). She will astonish you with her on-target descriptions of how you react to his behavior -- and how you unwittingly may be making things worse. With specific advice on what to do when he takes you for granted, accuses you of acting like his mother, or proclaims, "I need more space, " she shows you how to turn things around immediately, even if "He just doesn't get it!" With counsel that's exciting, practical, and best of all, effective, Ellen Sue Stern gives you the power to dramatically improve your relationship -- and feel better about yourself while you're at it.

Table of contents

• Cover Page
• Title Page
• Dedication
• Acknowledgements
• Contents
• Introduction
• 1 If he doesn’t understand why you’re reading this book (or “get” all the ways in which you try to strengthen your relationship)
• 2 If he doesn’t do his share
• 3 If he says, “Stop acting like my mother!”
• 4 If he takes you for granted
• 5 If he says he wants space
• 6 If he doesn’t take your needs, time, and schedule into consideration
• 7 If he’s more about having sex than about making love
• 8 If he acts as if he deserves a medal for doing what you do twenty-four hours a day
• 9 If he accuses you of being high-maintenance
• 10 If he isn’t supportive of or involved in your career, interests, or hobbies
• 11 If he mysteriously disappears when it’s time for the kids’ bath (or fails to take responsibility for other familial, social, or community involvement)
• 12 If he has a three-minute attention span when talking about feelings
• 13 If he breaks promises faster than he makes them
• 14 If he doesn’t treat you well
• 15 If he doesn’t make your relationship enough of a priority
• And One for Good Luck: If he doesn’t say “I love you” enough
• Afterword