The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Professional, reassuring advice for coping with the disorder - at work, at home, and in your family

Cynthia Lechan Goodman, Barbara Leff

• Publisher: Everything
• Year: 2011
• Print ISBN: 9781440528811
• eBook ISBN: 9781440529689
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

Learn the ins and outs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder with this comprehensive, approachable guide. Narcissistic Personality Disorder, often mistaken for a too-big ego or inflated self-esteem, is in actuality a severe psychological condition that ruins marriages, social relationships, work environments, and the sufferer's own sense of self. Although perceived as self-confident and arrogant, narcissists are really victims of devastatingly low self-esteem and insecurity. The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a comprehensive resource for readers who need guidance, including information on:
-Identifying the symptoms in themselves and their loved ones
-Different types of narcissists
-Living with a narcissistic (one-way) relationship
-Treatment options and methods
-Preventing narcissism in children and young adults
-Recovering from a narcissistic relationship with a parent, spouse, or friendComplete with an exclusive section on the epidemic of "net narcissism" due to social media, The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the complete guide to a misunderstood disorder that impacts millions everyday.

Index

A

ABC News 20/20, xii

Abuse

child abuse, 25, 48

coping with, 100–101, 221–24

domestic abuse, 100–101, 104, 178

emotional abuse, 13, 25, 36, 90, 96, 113

hotline for, 101

physical abuse, 14, 25, 48, 90, 96, 100–101, 123, 221

psychological abuse, 90, 96

sexual abuse, 25, 48, 90, 96

stopping, 221–24

substance abuse, 6–7, 81–82

verbal abuse, 14, 90, 96, 202–3, 207, 221

“Acquired situational narcissism,” 51–52

Adoration, 144–46

Ahsen, Akhter, 155

Aikido, 227–28

Alcohol abuse, 6–7, 81–82

Ali, Muhammad, 41

Alternative therapies, 63–64. See also Therapy

Ames, Daniel, 113

The Analysis of the Self, 137

Anchoring tool, 128–31

Anger, handling, 229–31

Antidepressants, 65

Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), 28–30

Arguments, handling, 229–31

Aristotle, 270

Assertiveness, 220–24

Attitudinal Healing, 73–74

Authenticity, 158–60

Autonomy, loss of, 192

B

Behaviors. See also Narcissistic Personality Disorder

help with, 18–19, 95–104

minimizing, 53–54

spotting, 13–16, 34–36

understanding, 11–21

Bioenergetic analysis therapy, 239–40

Blame, 9, 15–16, 30, 98–99, 119–20, 157

Body image, 5, 8, 48–49, 54, 62, 237

Borderline personality disorder (BPD), 26–30

Bosses, 109–10, 211–13

Boundaries, enforcing, 156–57, 268–69

Breakthroughs, 238–41

Brown, Brené, 158

Buddhism, 71, 78–79, 107–8, 114

Bullying, 4, 171–75, 208, 210, 226

C

Cannavo, Frank, 115

Carlson, Jon, 75

Causes of NPD, 12–13, 45–54

Celebrities, 39–41

Cell phones, 166–67

Changes in relationships. See also Relationships

boundaries and, 156–57

goals and, 157–58

healing and, 238–41, 257–58

limitations and, 155–56

perfectionism and, 158–60

pitfalls and, 152–56

positive thinking and, 160–62

reality and, 150–52

Chang, Maria Hsia, 79

Child abuse, 25, 48. See also Abuse

Children. See also Parents/parenting

body image and, 48–49

bragging on, 14

effects on, 88–90, 190–94

emotional development of, 48–50

encouraging, 53–54

mirroring and, 49–50

neglecting, 50–51

NPD and, 198–202

pampering, 50–51

self-esteem in, 51–52

vulnerability of, 50

Chopra, Deepak, 41

Cluster B disorders, 24–25, 29–31

Codependency, 184–88

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), 61–63, 93

Commitment, 252–54, 267–68

Communication strategies, 217–21

Compassion, 114–15, 255

Complications, 81–83

Concerns, expressing, 179–80

“Control freaks,” 235

Control, power of, 221

Controversies about NPD, 233–45

Coping with NPD. See also Help with NPD

anchoring tool, 128–31

family issues, 119–28

ground rules for, 122–23

realistic expectations, 127–28

relationship issues, 117–28

techniques for, 117–31

tips for, 67–82, 95–104, 177–88

understanding pasts, 124–25

venting, 121–22

Counseling, 19, 75, 98–103, 121–27, 187–88. See also Therapy

Coworkers, 108–9, 209–11

Cruise, Tom, 41

Cultural considerations, 138–40

Cultural trends, 36–37

Current Psychology, 39

Cyberbullying, 171–75

D

Davis, Roger, 2

Defense mechanisms

denial, 86–87, 98

primitive defense mechanisms, 86–87

primitive idealization, 87

splitting, 86–88

Defensive strategies, 236

“Delusions of grandeur,” 234

Denial

codependency and, 185

as defense mechanism, 86–87, 98

of feeling, 50, 198–99, 240

of reality, 48, 109

Depression

adoration and, 144–46

handling, 141–44

narcissistic supply and, 146–47

unfulfilled needs and, 144

The Devil Wears Prada, 212

Diagnosis, 19–21, 37–38, 91–92, 243–45

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 2, 3, 20, 35, 243–45

Dialectical behavior therapy (...

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Dedication
• Contents
• Acknowledgments
• The Top 10 Signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
• Introduction
• 01 The Basics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
• 02 Symptoms and Behaviors of NPD
• 03 Comparing NPD to Other Personality Disorders
• 04 Who Are the Narcissists?
• 05 What Can Lead to Narcissism?
• 06 Treatments for NPD
• 07 Additional Methods for Dealing with NPD
• 08 What Happens Without Treatment?
• 09 Asking for Help When Dealing with a Narcissist
• 10 Exploring Myths and Lifestyles
• 11 Tools and Coping Techniques
• 12 Understanding Megalomania
• 13 Narcissism and Depression
• 14 Changing Perspectives of the Relationships
• 15 The Digital Narcissist
• 16 If You Believe Someone Needs Help with NPD
• 17 Living Every Day with Someone Who Has NPD
• 18 Handling Interactions with a Narcissist
• 19 Ongoing Controversies
• 20 Where Do You Go from Here?
• Appendix A: Symptoms Checklists
• Appendix B: Additional Resources
• Index
• Copyright