Play and attachment
As you saw in the Introduction, play is at the heart of the attachment between baby and mother (or primary carer). Playful interactions reinforce the attachment relationship and enable mothers to fine-tune their reactions and responses. The playfulness starts during pregnancy and continues after the baby is born (Figure 1.2).
Figure 1.2 Neuro-Dramatic-Play: pregnancy
Mothers can be encouraged to be playful during pregnancy, six months before birth.
Child birth itself is a very messy, slimy procedure and medical staff are realising that babies do not need to be cleaned up immediately but placed on their motherâs chest for close contact.
Within a few hours of birth, babies are already trying to imitate the expression of their motherâs face, following her voice round the room, and responding to her touch and heartbeat (Figure 1.3).
Figure 1.3 NDP of childbirth
Sensory, rhythmic and dramatic play continue during the first six months after the birth. This is crucial for strengthening the attachment and providing the âsafe bodyâ in the âsafe placeâ (Figure 1.4).
However, if these stages have not happened because of rejection, abandonment, neglect or abuse, it is essential that play activity (or, in serious situations, play therapy) are available to rework these early stages.
Figure 1.4 NDP of first six months
NDP is the earliest embodied experience that starts in infants, from six months before birth, and continues until six months after birth. It is characterised by âsensory, rhythmic and dramatic playâ and influences the growth of healthy attachments (Jennings, 2011). It is an expansion and extension of the Embodiment stage of EPR (which begins at birth and continues up to thirteen months), which is the most significant growth period for children. The greatest impact on the brainâbody connection occurs during these early months.
Sensory play is important because many individualsâ senses will have been distorted through their abusive experiences. Messy play (fingerpaints, sand and water, sticky dough) assists individuals to express the mess and chaos of their feelings and, eventually, to create some order. Other sensory experiences are important such as providing a range of fabrics with different textures, a variety of essential oils, and, of course, hand cream.
Rhythmic play through drumming, singing, clapping and dancing allows individuals to rediscover their rhythm of life. Many individuals with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) need to rediscover their inner rhythm, which is often displaced in trauma. Even breathing rhythm becomes panic-breathing but breathing in and out to a gentle drum beat can help the individual feel a greater calm.
Dramatic play through interactive stories, hide-and-seek, monster play and masks can help children and teenagers make sense of their experiences. Monster play (McCarthy, 2007) assists individuals to overcome their feelings of helplessness when they are overwhelmed. The âmonsterâ has destructive qualities of causing shame, blame and guilt, as well as night fears and nightmares. Becoming the monster is the first step to reduce its power!
A child develops security and trust through the early physical attachment of NDP, which then flows into a relaxed, attuned relationship (Erikson, 1965, 1995). Through these embodied experiences, the infant is establishing interactive communication through touch and sound, and rhythmic and ritualistic repetition.
These body-focused activities are essential for the development of the âbody-selfâ: we cannot have a body image until we have a body-self (Jennings, 1998). A child or teenager needs to be able to âliveâ in his or her body, which grows from being a secure part of the motherâs body. The progression is from being inside the mother, to being closely attached to the mother, and then gradually becoming independent, with the opportunity to resume physical contact, when desired or when fearful. This will establish the infantâs security to try to walk and to feel confident about moving in space. This progression can also be described as the three circles of attachment:
- the circle within the womb
- the circle in motherâs arms
- the symbolic circle when the mother âholdsâ the infant in her consciousness and is attuned to changes in moods and needs.
These circles are circles of security and are crucial for safety and containment, especially when there is a traumatic experience.
It is essential to remember that the body houses physical well-being, sensory development and creative expression (Jennings, 2016).