Section 1
Conceptual frameworks
Chapter 1
Normal psychological development in adulthood
Alan Carr and Muireann McNulty
When adults develop psychological problems, such as depression, anxiety or other difficulties described later in this book, these problems do not occur in a vacuum. They occur within the context of the family lifecycle. Challenges within the lifecycle may contribute to the development of psychological problems and such difficulties may also compromise the capacity to complete important developmental tasks. It is for this reason that the approach to the practice of adult clinical psychology outlined in this volume begins with a consideration of the normal family lifecycle.
Family lifecycle
Most models of the family lifecycle are based upon the norm of the traditional nuclear family with other family forms being conceptualized as deviations from this norm (McGoldrick et al., 2011). One such model is presented in Table 1.1. This model delineates the main tasks to be completed by the family at each stage of development. After considering this model in some detail, other lifecycle models associated with separation and divorce, living a single life, and gay and lesbian sexual orientation will also be considered.
Leaving home
In the first stage of family development, which is marked by young adult children leaving home and developing emotional and financial autonomy, the principal tasks are differentiating from the family of origin, developing an adult-to-adult relationship with parents, developing intimate peer relationships, beginning a career and moving towards financial independence, and establishing the self in community and society.
Forming a couple
The second stage is that of couple formation, where the main process is commitment to a long-term relationship. The principal tasks include selecting a partner and deciding to form a long-term relationship, developing a way to live together based on an appreciation of partnersā real strengths and weaknesses rather than mutual projection, and realigning coupleās relationships with families of origin and peers so as to accommodate partners.
Adams (1986) views mate selection as a complex process that involves four stages. In the first phase partners are selected from among those available for interaction. At this stage people select mates who are physically attractive and similar to themselves in interests, intelligence, personality and other valued behaviours and attributes. In the second phase there is a comparison of values following revelation of identities through self-disclosing conversations. If this leads to a deepening of the original attraction then the relationship will persist. In the third phase, there is an exploration of role compatibility and the degree to which mutual empathy is possible. Once interlocking roles and mutual empathy have developed, the costs of separation begin to outweigh the difficulties and tensions associated with staying together. If the attraction has deepened sufficiently and the barriers to separation are strong enough, consolidation of the relationship occurs. In the fourth and final phase a decision is made about long-term compatibility and commitment. If a positive decision is reached about both of these issues, then marriage or long-term cohabitation may occur. When partners come together they are effectively bringing two family traditions together and setting the stage for the integration of these traditions with their norms and values, rules, roles and routines into a new tradition.
Table 1.1 Stages of the family lifecycle | Stage | Emotional transition processes | Tasks essential for developmental progression |
Leaving home | Developing emotional and financial autonomy | Differentiating from family of origin and developing adult-to-adult relationship with parents Developing intimate peer relationships Beginning a career and moving towards financial independence Establishing the self in community and society |
Forming a couple | Committing to a long-term relationship | Selecting a partner and deciding to form a long-term relationship Developing a way to live together based on reality rather than mutual projection Realigning coupleās relationships with families of origin and peers to include partners |
Families with young children | Accepting new children into the family system | Adjusting couple system to make space for children Arranging child-rearing, financial and housekeeping responsibilities within the couple Realigning relationships with families of origin to include parenting and grandparenting roles Realigning family relationships with community and society to accommodate new family structure |
Families with adolescents | Increasing flexibility of family boundaries to accommodate adolescentsā growing independence and grandparentsā increasing constraints | Adjusting parentāchild relationships to allow adolescents more autonomy Adjusting family relationships as couple takes on responsibility of caring for aging parents Realigning family relationships with community and society to accommodate adolescentsā increasing autonomy and grandparentsā increasing constraints |
Launching children and moving into midlife | Accepting many exits from and entries into the family system | Adjusting to living as a couple again Addressing coupleās midlife issues and possibilities of new interests and projects Negotiating adult-to-adult relationships between parents and grown children Adjusting to include in-laws and grandchildren within the family circle Dealing with disabilities and death of coupleās aging parents Realigning family relationships with community and society to accommodate new family structure and relationships |
Families with parents in late middle age | Accepting new generational roles | Maintaining coupleās functioning and interests, and exploring new family and social roles while coping with physiological decline Adjusting to children taking a more central role in family maintenance Making room for the wisdom and experience of the aging couple Supporting the older generation to live as independently as possible within the constraints of aging Realigning family relationships with community and society to accommodate new family structure and relationships |
Families with parents nearing the end of life | Accepting the constraints of aging and the reality of death | Dealing with loss of partner, siblings and peers Preparing for death through life review and integration Adjusting to reversal of roles where children care for parents Realigning family relationships with community and society to accommodate changing family relationships |
Note: Adapted from McGoldrick et al. (2011).
Couple formation and marriage entail the development of a series of important relationships: the marital relationship, kinship relationships and later parentāchild relationships, all of which have the potential to contribute to happiness and well-being (Carr, 2011). Marriage and psychological adjustment are intimately linked (Carr, 2012). Psychological disorders can both cause marital conflict, and such conflict can contribute to the aetiology and maintenance of psychological difficulties.
Marital satisfaction
The following demographic factors are associated with marital satisfaction (Conger et al., 2010; Fincham & Beach, 2010; Gottman & Notarius, 2002; Newman & Newman, 2015):
- High level of education
- High socio-economic status
- Similarity of spousesā interests, intelligence and personality
- Early or late stage of family lifecycle
- Sexual compatibility
- For women, later marriage.
The precise mechanisms linking these factors to marital satisfaction are not fully understood. However, the following speculations seem plausible. Higher educational level and higher socio-economic status probably lead to greater marital satisfaction because where these factors are present people probably have better problem-solving skills and fewer chronic life stresses such as crowding. Although there is a cultural belief that opposites attract, the research results show that similarity is associated with marital satisfaction, probably because of the greater ease with which similar people can empathize with each other and pursue shared interests. Marital satisfaction drops during the child-rearing years and satisfaction is highest before children are born and when they leave home. During these periods, it may be that greater satisfaction occurs because partners can devote more time and energy to joint pursuits and there are fewer opportunities for conflict involving child management. Most surveys find wide variability in the frequency with which couples engage in sexual activity but confirm that it is sexual compatibility rather than frequency of sexual activity that is associated with marital satisfaction.
Marital interaction
Studies of belief systems and interaction patterns of well-adjusted couples show that they have distinctive features (Casey et al., 2010; Fincham et al., 2007; Gottman & Notarius, 2002; Gurman, 2008; Ozer & Benet-MartĆnez, 2006). These include:
- Respect
- Acceptance
- Commitment
- Spirituality
- Dispositional attributions for positive behaviour
- More positive than negative interactions
- Focusing conflicts on specific issues
- Rapidly repairing relationship ruptures and forgiving transgressions
- Managing differing male and female conversational styles
- Addressing needs for intimacy and power
- Emotional intelligence, emotional stability and agreeableness.
Happy couples tend to attribute their partnersā positive behaviours to dispositional rather than situational factors. For example, āShe helped me because she is such a kind person,ā not āShe helped me because it was convenient at the time.ā The ratio of positive to negative exchanges has been found to be about 5:1 in happy couples (Gottman, 1993). So even though happy couples have disagreements, this is balanced out by five times as many positive interactions. When happy couples disagree, they focus their disagreement on a specific issue rather than globally criticizing or insulting their partner. This type of behaviour is a reflection of a general attitude of respect which characterizes happy couples. Happy couples tend to rapidly repair their relationship ruptures arising from conflict. Where transgressions occur and one partner is hurt, there is a willingness to forgive, and to prevent long episodes of non-communication, sulking or stonewalling to occur (Fincham et al., 2007). Sometimes happy couples resolve conflicts by agreeing to differ. The specific process of agreeing to differ reflects a general attitude of acceptance. There is good evidence that men and women have different conversational styles, and these differences are probably determined more by social than biological factors (Cameron, 2010). Men use conversation predominantly to convey task-focused information and to resolve task-related problems. Women use conversation predominantly to make and maintain relationships. In their communication with each other, happy couples find ways to manage these differing conversational styles so that psychological intimacy may be fostered rather than compromised. So males in such relationships make efforts to use conversation to make and maintain their relationship with their partner and females are tolerant of the challenge that this poses. Difficulties and disagreements about communication and intimacy on the one hand, and the power balance or role structure of the relationship on the other, are central themes for distressed couples (Gurman, 2008). With respect to intimacy, usually males demand greater psychological distance and females insist on greater psychological intimacy. With respect to power, males commonly wish to retain the power and benefits of traditional gender roles while females wish to evolve more egalitarian relationships. In happy coup...