Emmanuel Ghentâs (1990) innovative and pioneering idea of âsurrenderâ is widely accepted and praised by contemporary psychoanalysts, especially in the intersubjective and relational schools. By distinguishing âsurrenderâ from âsubmission,â Ghent makes clear that surrender need not imply âdefeatâ or âgiving in to the other,â but may be âa quality of liberation and âletting-goââ (p.118). While submission is a relational form in which a submissive individual is subjected to a dominant other, and the submissiveâs identity, sense of self, and sense of wholeness atrophy, surrender involves the âdiscovery of oneâs identity, oneâs sense of self, oneâs sense of wholeness, even oneâs sense of unity with other living beingsâ (p. 111). Ghent emphasizes that in Eastern philosophies, the term âsurrenderâ is associated with transcendence and liberation.
Despite some differences of emphasis, contemporary psychoanalytic thinkers (Aron, 2005; Benjamin, 2004, 2007, 2018; Orange, 2008, 2011; Togashi, 2017c, 2017g; Knoblauch, 2018) all advance the view that surrender plays an important role in the psychoanalytic process, that it implies freedom from any interest to control or dominate, as well as a devotion to human relationships, and allows for creativity and development to unfold in the intersubjective field. They emphasize that surrender is often necessary to break an impasse or repetitive loop in the therapeutic process.
Benjamin (2004, 2007, 2018) emphasizes that surrender need not be to someone, in a one-way fashion, but may be to a space of thirdness. She maintains that âthe Thirdâ is the position from which a patient and analyst can recognize each other as having a shared subject yet experience each other as individual minds. She writes that âthe Third refers to the position constituted through holding the tension of recognition between sameness and difference, taking the other to be a separate but equivalent center of initiative and consciousness with whom nonetheless feelings and intentions can be sharedâ (Benjamin, 2018, p.4). When an analytic relationship gets caught in a âcomplementaryâ dynamic (Benjamin, 1990), in which each partner feels that his or her perspective is the only right one, an analystâs (and a patientâs) surrendering to the Third helps them achieve mutual recognition, the ability to let go of a certain part of the self and take in the otherâs perspective.
Although these are useful insightsâcourageous efforts to adapt Ghentâs ideas to contemporary psychoanalysisâBenjamin and Orangeâs conceptions of surrender are still grounded in a Western perspective. Their models view analytic fields as organized between two subjectivities, even when they assume the third, or ethical, field in which both participants escape from the subject-other distinction. Ghentâs innovative contribution, however, draws on his understanding of Buddhism and his special interest in Eastern philosophies. He sees the concept of surrender in relation to ââemptiness,â the beneficent state of being that is at the center of the Tao [Dao]â (Ghent, 1990, p.113; emphasis added), and adds that surrender can be expressed in many forms depending on culture Ghent (1990) states:
My hunch is that there is something like a universal need, wish or longing for what I am calling surrender and that it assumes many forms. In some societies there are culturally sanctioned occasions for its realization in the form of ecstatic rituals and healing trances. In other societies, perhaps most notably in Japan where the psychology of amae is so central to oneâs way of being, something akin to surrender is experienced as almost universally desired and desirable. In many people in our own culture the wish for surrender remains buried; in some it is expressed in creative and productive ways, and in others its derivatives appear in pathological form, deflected away from normal channels by that most unwelcome price-tag: dread. I suspect further that this dread is something that we have encountered in other contexts and have conceptualized as annihilation anxiety, dread of dissolution, ego fragmentation and so on.
(Ghent, 1990, p.114)
For Ghent, surrender is transcendence of the fear of death or annihilation. In the transcendence of this fear, one commits him or herself to an experience which could shatter his or her belief system and threaten a sense of being. It is only in the transcendence of the painful contemplation of non-existence, Ghent (1990) states, that one can reach radical emptiness in oneâs personal or relational development and obtain a new sense of unity or relief in the presence of other living beings. He emphasizes that surrender is neither to a person nor a space, nor ethical responses nor actions. He says that âone cannot choose to surrender. âŚOne can provide facilitative conditions for surrender but cannot make it happenâ (Ghent, 1990, p.109).
Taoism or Daoism, the ideological background of Ghentâs concept of surrender, is âan ancient legacy of the East Asian cultureâ (Ai, 2006, p.149). It is more a cosmology than a religion or psychology. It presupposes neither the existence of an afterlife nor a benevolent divinity but, instead, is premised on the idea of an unintentional principle of Nature that precedes and underlies all of reality. Tao, which refers to âthe wayâ or âuniversal principleâ in Chinese tradition, implies this ultimate, indefinable principle underlying all movements (Møllgaard, 2007); a fundamental dynamic principle that also exists within all things. The founder of Taoism, Lao Zi, states in the first chapter of his scripture, The Tao Te Ching:
Chapter 1 THE EMBODIMENT OF TAO
Even the finest teaching is not the Tao itself.
Even the finest name is insufficient to define it.
Without words, the Tao can be experienced,
and without a name, it can be known.
To conduct oneâs life according to the Tao,
is to conduct oneâs life without regrets;
to realize that potential within oneself
which is of benefit to all.
Though words or names are not required
to live oneâs life this way,
to describe it, words and names are used,
that we might better clarify
the way of which we speak,
without confusing it with other ways
in which an individual might choose to live.
Through knowledge, intellectual thought and words,
the manifestations of the Tao are known,
but without such intellectual intent
we might experience the Tao itself.
Both knowledge and experience are real,
but reality has many forms,
which seem to cause complexity.
By using the means appropriate,
we extend ourselves beyond
the barriers of such complexity,
and so experience the Tao.
(Translated by Rosenthal, from National Taiwan University Library, 2018)
Lao Zi emphasizes that Tao is the indefinable and nameless universe infinitely changing and moving. In our âhumanâ world, which has a need for names, Tao is divided and dichotomies emerge. âNot bigâ means âsmall,â ânot uglyâ means âbeautiful,â and so on. Such is the human condition, the artificial âworld that results in the neglect of the world qua worldâ (Møllgaard, 2007, p.17). But in the indefinable and nameless universe, there are no dichotomies, and all contradictions coexist. âNot poorâ does not mean wealthy, ânot goodâ does not mean âbad.â In this universe, presence is absence and absence is presence. If presence disappears, absence does not take its place, but also disappears. Lao Zi emphasizes this basic principle of Nature and recommends that people surrender themselves to it. He states:
Chapter 5 WITHOUT INTENTION
Nature acts without intent,
so cannot be described
as acting with benevolence,
nor malevolence to any thing.
In this respect, the Tao is just the same,
though in reality it should be said
that nature follows the rule of Tao.
Therefore, even when he seems to act
in manner kind or benevolent,
the sage is not acting with such intent,
for in conscious matters such as these,
he is amoral and indifferent.
The sage retains tranquility,
and is not by speech or thought disturbed,
and even less by action which is contrived.
His actions are spontaneous,
as are his deeds towards his fellow men.
By this means he is empty of desire,
and his energy is not drained from him.
(Translated by Rosenthal, from National Taiwan University Library, 2018)
Lao Ziâs poetic description suggests that in the original idea of Taoism, surrender is neither to the third place between two entities nor to the ethical response to the other. Instead, surrender is to Nature, the nameless universe, or what Ghent calls emptiness.
For Ghent, what we surrender tois not the painful and meaningless emptiness people may imagine and, in order to proceed, the reader is asked to put aside some assumptions derived from standard psychoanalytic literature and practice, and encounter what is perhaps a very different and unfamiliar conception of emptiness. Taoismâs Nature, or Ghentâs emptiness is the moment without context, in which neither a sense of being, a living experience, nor a meeting of the other has yet emerged. It is the moment that is not defined by personal will or agency, or determined by human thought or artificial control. To borrow a convenient metaphor from physics, it is a black hole, to which everything is reduced and from which everything comes.
As an example of his notion of surrender, which aligns with an âEastern sensibility,â Ghent (1990) refers to Zen satori. Zen Buddhism derives from a different historical background than Taoism, yet satoriâawareness of the essence of the universeâis a closely related concept. The Heart Sutra, one of the central scriptures of Zen Buddhism, preaches that the essence of the universe is absolute emptiness, as well as its negation, encapsulated in the famous phrase, âForm is exactly emptiness, emptiness is exactly form.â This implies that all being in the universe is insubstantial and intangible. Also implied in this phrase is the suspension of all artificial categorizations, such as you/me, subject/object, and inside/outside.
Many Eastern philosophers (Watsuji, 1952; Nishida, 1958; Sagara, 1980, 1998b; Abe & Heine, 1992; Møllgaard, 2007) maintain that the concept of emptiness has strongly influenced many fields of East Asian culture and is inherent in peopleâs thoughts and habits. In this conception, all beings and entities in this world are seen as a part of an indefinable Nature, and there are no self/other differences. It should be noted that this is not like the âwe-selfâ quality that has been discussed by some Western theorists (Moore, 1983; Roland, 1996). There are not even differences between the individual and âwe.â
How is the therapeutic dyad altered in the face of this absolute emptiness? It is suggested that the therapist (and often the patient) go through a process of surrendering themselves. But how is this process of surrender to be understood?
Psychoanalysis often uses narrative to make sense of the therapeutic process (Searles, 1965), to put the ineffable into words and to find a way of telling stories that are waiting to be heard (Freeman, 2002, 2012; Frie, 2012a, 2016). A personal experience is organized through narration of a story. This personal experience is always already embedded in relational, cultural, and historical contexts, which can include elements that the narrator is not even aware of. Contemporary relational psychoanalytic and narrative thinkers (Cushman 1995, 2011; Freeman, 2002, 2012; Frie, 2012a, 2016) no longer limit narrative to the spoken revelation of personal stories and memories but conceptualize it to include untold and unthought stories as well. These narrative perspectives implicitly include elements that are closely related to surrender and emptiness.
Freeman (2012) advocates the idea of
the narrative unconscious in reference to those culturally rooted aspects of oneâs history that have not yet become part of oneâs story. They are hidden, not so much in the sense of that which has been buried through the forceful work of repression as that which remains unthought and is, therefore, not yet a part of the story I can tell.
(Freeman, 2012, p. 362)
These contributions expand the idea of narrative, but do not allow for the idea of emptiness in itself; they still conceptualize what is unspoken as an expression of something that has been disavowed, unformulated, or remains unorganized. Similarly, for relational theorists, dissociation presupposes that there is something that is sequestered (Bromberg, 2009), and unformulated experience presupposes that there is something to be formulated (Stern, 2010). Neither notion includes the existence of emptiness as Eastern philosophy characterizes it. It may be that the âsurrender to emptinessâ lies outside the use of narrative in relational psychoanalysis; in other words, we have to ask if it is always the case that there are stories, told or untold, in the analytic dialogue, or can we be open to our patientâs accounts without formulating stories about it? Might the analystâs preoccupation with formulating a narrative, in fact, limit his or her vision? In posing this question, my aim is not to displace an existing concept of surrender. Rather, I want employ my cultural background to expand the discussion with an alternative conception that may be unfamiliar to Western trained psychoanalystsâand I do not exclude myself, because my psychoanalytic training was also in the West.