Mastering Rejections In One Sitting

How To Enjoy & Benefit From Rejections!

Trevor Hawkins

• Publisher: JNR Publishing
• Year: 2016
• eBook ISBN: 9789634281856
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

Everyone is afraid of pain/rejections--ok, ok, fair enough, but we shouldn't let that stop us from trying to reach for our dreams and reach our goals! We shouldnt let that fear intimidate and prevent us from being the best we can be! Rejections by itself also is a useful tool in teaching us life lessons that will allow us to grow spiritually, individually and professionally.That is the goal of this book. For the reader to remove any fears and apprehensions towards rejections, and possibly even learn to love it! Here is a preview of what you'll soon learn...
Handling Fear of Rejections
Managing Rejections
Getting Over Rejection
Handling Rejection Is The Key to Success
Anger And Rejections
Handling Psychological Pain
Alternatives to Feeling Hurt Much much more!

Handling Fear of Rejections

It can occasionally be challenging to get rid of the feelings of getting rejected and to try once more. Here is a list of strategies a person can use to overcome the feelings of not making it on the first or subsequent attempts.

When rejected, the secret is to profit from your blunders and to give it another crack. Doing anything in life needs practice and determination. Remember the time when you first learned how to ride a bike? The first couple of times, you kept falling off! With some more practice and a little time, you were able to ride your bike devoid of any difficulties. Everything we do is a learning experience -- so don't get dissuaded if you don't make it the first time.

Sometimes, our negative thinking gets the best of us, when we fail to get what we want. A technique that could be useful is to have a small notebook filled with positive statements that could make you feel awesome just when you need it! Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a pad, that you can carry in your pocket. Whenever you seriously feel hindered, open your little notepad and read those words!

If you have difficulties accomplishing a particular task? Envision yourself, first doing the task in your head. You and your team have to play in front of a huge crowd of people in the next few days? Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the perfect game. Envision that you're playing in front of a big audience, being cheered on by them. By playing the game in your mind, you will be much better prepared to perform for real when the time comes. Visualize yourself succeeding at your goals. This is further discussed in The Art of Virtual Practice. You are preparing your neurology and "muscle memory" as it were, to simulate and practice the oncoming events.

Managing Rejections

Rejections come in countless forms. Whatever the situation is, we frequently blame ourselves for being turned down, even if we know that it is the other person's issue and not ours. The way we deal with denial is really important in supporting our self-respect and self-esteem.

Considering that rejection occurs in several ways? There too exists several ways to manage rejections. From techniques to manage rejections from a friend or family member, how to handle rejection from spouses and lovers, how to handle rejections on dating and a lot more material written by several authors designed for different situations.

We cannot be protected from being rejected forever, still, we need to keep in mind that it can be more destructive if we avoid it all cost, and allow it to run our belief systems. It is vital to be geared up with knowledge on ways to cope with getting rejected; because it will help us face our fears, and accept ourselves should we falter. Aside from that, learning how to handle rejections can help us, quickly get rid of the feelings of losing, dwindling self-confidence, and our failure to build healthy relationships.

If you think about rejection as a curse? Then confidence from competence can heal it. This suggests that the more confident you are, the better you will be in managing rejections.

Make time to reflect and think with fresh perspectives and inner learnings. Keep in mind that if somebody rejects you? She herself has been refused/rejected before, and getting rid of you is simply a sort of defense reaction in many cases. It is also important to know yourself. Know your weak points and maintain your sense of humor, open mindedness and strong confidence.

Writers' Rejections

Writers are among those who always suffer the pain of rejection. But there are also techniques to handle rejection for authors. You can be a better, stronger and more reliable author if you equip yourself with the best ways to deal with rejection from an editor or similar individuals. Remember, the real reason why you write? If you do it because you need to say something or because you are enjoying it, and not because you just want to get published? Then rejection can't be a problem at all! The next step is to study your "turned down" manuscript in great detail. If it needs more time and work? Then supply your writing the scrutiny and polishing it demands.

You can likewise ask a trusted writer friend, or an editor to critique your manuscript to get useful criticisms. Modify your work if it needs it, and submit it to a different publisher. Be confident, and think about rejection as an opportunity to strengthen your work. Remember that editors have divergent requirements and tastes. You don't have to listen to everything they say. Also realize the great opportunity that exists in being self-published!

Because we all hate being rejected, studying proven methods to handle rejection in that particular field is a must! It takes away the feeling of wanting to crawl back into our shells and never come out!

Getting Over Rejection

The strength of the reaction an individual has to "rejection" is inversely proportional to the trust they have in their beliefs of a higher power. Let me explain...

Let's say an individual has little belief in anything above himself. He does not feel his connection to any kind of creator/source/deeper order of things/life purpose etc. He relies only upon his own thinking for guidance, and does not believe in any type of a bigger picture or plan, other than what he can perceive with his 5 senses? Then he will take rejections at face value, and hurt bad! What if that failure opens another door, that offers greater things and more rewards than the original?

For him, it would feel like everything went out of whack in his world. His life is a mess when the love of his life (or anything/anyone important) is lost! He desperately attempts to reason with her to convince her to stay, and that she is making a mistake because without her -- his life is over!

In reality, she might have just considered their unhappy relationship to be a common case of incompatibility of personalities. On the other hand, the man views this as a personal rejection! He feels as if there is something flawed with him -- which he has to take care and fix pronto! A powerless position, like there is something completely wrong with him. This belief will keep him from ever having what he wants, and not knowing how to repair it! This person will never be happy in life I'm afraid.

By contrast, someone who "gets it"? When his lover, does not feel the same type of potential for a healthy and growing relationship? His response takes place on a completely different level!

He may feel some temporary despair or sadness. But he does not perceive her opinion or rejection as a statement of judgment about "who he is" as a person! He does not feel desperate to woo her back in. He does not see himself as "broken", in desperate need to fix his defects. He accepts that his time with her was brief, and his trust in a higher power/fate/destiny or whatever, allows him to calm down and just be accepting of "what is". He is still thankful of the wonderful times shared, and the lear...

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