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- English
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About this book
Everyone values honest communication, yet few people possess the requisite skills in both their personal and professional lives. Susan Campbell provides simple yet practical awareness practices — culled from her thirty-five-year career as a relationship coach and corporate teamwork consultant — that require individuals to?let go? of the need to be right, safe, and certain. Such questions as?In what areas of my life do I feel the need to lie, sugarcoat, or pretend?? help guide the reader toward self-realization. Ten truth skills teach readers to let their real personalities shine through.
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Information
Publisher
New World LibraryYear
2010Print ISBN
9780915811922eBook ISBN
9781932073423INDEX
A
ambivalence, 15
See also emotions, sharing mixed
anger and resentment: ability to express, 115
fear of expressing, xv, 41-42, 169-70
angry people, belief that it is unsafe to talk back to, xv, 41-42
applause, taking one’s, 184-85
approach-avoidance. See contact-withdrawal exercise
asserting wants and don’t wants, 8-9, 105-8, 120-21
false beliefs about, 109-10
assertion: aim of, 111
allows use of imagination, 116-17
in dating, 111-14
leads to intimacy, 115-16
assertion styles, as control patterns, 118
assertiveness: unconsciously linked with discontentedness, 109-10
attachment to outcome/results, 189-90, 205
authenticity and authentic responses, 11
See also specific topics
B
being, xi
being real: ways of not, 1-2
See also specific topics
“belief gone mad”, 32-33
beliefs: filtering perceptions through strongly held, 83-84
how they happen, 30-32
impairing ability to see what is, 32-33
letting go of unconscious, 42-44
See also false beliefs
bioenergetics (yes-no) exercise, 117-18
blame, 134, 157
responding to, 131-34
See also projections
bodily sensations, observing, 39, 43
boundaries, personal, 116
marking one’s, 114-15
C
Campbell, Susan, xxii
From Chaos to Confidence: Survival Strategies for the New Workplace, 72
life history, xiii-xv
changing one’s mind, 10
child abuse, healing the wounds of, 186-88
children, sharing mixed emotions with, 173-74
choices, noticing one’s, 38
clearing rituals. See feedback rituals
resentments/appreciations (“R and A”) clearing practice
codependency, 134
communication: honest (see honesty)
true intent of, 87
unconscious static in, 80-81
communication guidelines for Getting Real, 213-...
Table of contents
- Cover
- Title
- Copyright
- Dedicaiton
- Contents
- ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
- FOREWORD
- INTRODUCTION
- ONE: How to Stop Being Right and Start Being Real
- TWO: Experiencing What Is: To Get Where You Need to Go, Be Where You Are
- THREE: Being Transparent: Freedom’s Just Another Word for Nothing Left to Hide
- FOUR: Noticing Your Intent: Is It to Relate or to Control?
- FIVE: Welcoming Feedback: It’s How We Learn
- SIX: Asserting What You Want and Don’t Want: Supporting Your Feelings with Action
- SEVEN: Taking Back Projections: Discovering Your Other Side
- EIGHT: Revising an Earlier Statement: It’s Okay to Go Out and Come In Again
- NINE: Holding Differences: Seeing Other Viewpoints Without Losing Your Own
- TEN: Sharing Mixed Emotions: You’re Not Crazy, You’re Complex
- ELEVEN: Embracing the Silence of Not Knowing: Entering the Fertile Void
- TWELVE: Serenity, Presence, and Compassion
- APPENDIX A: Resource Guide
- APPENDIX B: Communication Guidelines for Getting Real
- APPENDIX C: Description and Ordering Information for Card Games
- INDEX
- ABOUT THE AUTHOR