Coaching for Daily Miracles

Get more clients, help people, set the standard

Raimon Samsó

• Publisher: Ediciones Instituto Expertos
• Year: 2020
• Print ISBN: 9781076100917
• eBook ISBN: 9781386264774
• Edition: 1
• Topic: Business
• Subtopic: Business General
• Index: Business

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Part II

Offering Meaningful Help to Others

12

The 7 Voices of a Conscious Coach

I will recommend a book that taught me how to identify and modulate the 7 voices of a conscious coach. Know that every client is different, so you have to play different roles with each. Often a client needs you to play several roles at different times. I will reveal to you seven ways to deal with client issues.

Doug Silsbee is the author of the book The Mindful Coach: "Seven roles for facilitating leader development.” It is not published in Castilian for the moment. If you do not read English, I have summarised a part of his message, with his permission to take and quote citations from his great work.

Coaching focuses on developing awareness of the client’s attitudes and being, and is not as focused on achieving goals and results (which is an automatic consequence of personal change.) When working with people, apply more of the being than on the doing in order to obtain more comprehensive results.

When I became the person who could get whatever he wanted, it was very easy to do what had to be done.

According to Silsbee, the seven voices are:

1. The Master: "A Master has made his work by working within himself." "The Master is more than something to be done do, it is a way of being." "We consider the following six voices and operational roles of the teacher's voice." He remains conscious and is always present because a teacher has already done his own work.
2. The Partner: “The partner represents the commitment of the coach to client outcomes and takes responsibility for maintaining mutual trust and respect. He shares the responsibility for the coaching relationship with the client.
3. The Investigator: The Investigator asks questions and is the voice that many training programs for coaches emphasise. It discovers the real needs of the client.
4. The Reflector: “As the role of reflector, the coach serves as a mirror for the client, providing client feedback.” He provides and seeks feedback on the client’s self-awareness.
5. The Professor: "The voice of the teacher provides information and knowledge that the client is not able to get for himself." "The Professor provides ways of looking at things, models, and tools of interpretation." He provides a new vocabulary, awards, and client knowledge. It recommends books as bibliotherapy.
6. The Guide: "The Guide helps the client to perform practical actions. Your Guide includes recommended courses of action. " He provides the steps for taking action.
7. The Contractor: "The Contractor supports the client and translates the coaching work into concrete actions. He supports the client by providing new insights for action. He keeps track of what was agreed upon and keeps the client focused.

In my experience, I have found that coaching does not follow a preset pattern and that it resembles a jazz session where improvisation is essential. There are certain guidelines, agreed, but in the end you improvise based on what you feel at a given moment.

In coaching, intuition is everything.

Coaching then becomes a dance where the client and the coach dance together; the coach uses one or the other 7 mentioned voices depending on the needs of the moment. Knowing what is necessary at all times is a matter of absolute presence, active listening, and connecting with intuition.

Share your feelings with the client; do not repress or deny those feelings.

The success of coaching means being honest with those you have chosen to serve and putting aside your ego. Clients will benefit from their hidden resources and not from the coach’s resources. In addition to serving your client, use examples or testimonials, not words or intellectual discourse. This is a topic that we have discussed before.

13

Resistance to Change and How to Overcome It

One thing that always struck me is that some people resist change and improvement. It's like being afraid of success. At first I was worried when I experienced resistance to change and improvement, but after learning that it happened to Sigmund Freud, I calmed down.

"Oh”, I thought, “if that happened to the great psychologist, the teacher of teachers, why should not it happen to a simple coach?"

Freud defined "resistance" as the paradoxical phenomenon of patients who, despite paying for therapy, did not want - deep down - to get rid of their neuroses. Maybe they wanted to lessen the impact of their effects, yes, but they did not want to be cured because they thought there was some advantage.

A person’s level of achievement is equal to his potential minus his resistance level. I've known very talented people among my clients who go overboard and hence unravel themselves. I don’t think the problem is adding more, but subtracting less.

Returning to Freud, the great psychologist found how patients often sought "a change that in reality, was not a change." I also found that not all people want to learn what they need most to learn, and are more resistant to precisely what they need most to solve. Accepting this phenomenon is a gesture of "respect" for the client, who ultimately will always be affected by when and how he’s going to change.

When a client is angry it is because he encounters a resistance that must be eliminated for him to make progress.

In a Course in Miracles® we read: "The patient hopes to learn to achieve the changes he wants without significantly changing his sense of self. The changes that the ego seeks are not real changes." However he feels he must have a different sense of being in the world and be more aware and happy, otherwise he would not seek a specialist’s help.

It is as if there are two voices struggling inside him: one identifies with the ego or individual self, and the other identifies with love and the essential self. The patient is seeking therapy, but he’s also profoundly resisting change, expecting the world to make that change.

Often, the response to client problems is not to your liking. And you ignore it.

The ego, for its rigidity, is not interested in finding real solutions. Its strategy for staying in the "no solution" zone is to seek answers where it knows it won’t find it. The metaphor is that of someone who looks for his keys in the street – under the sun where there is light – instead of looking where the keys might be - at home.

Too many people do not solve the problems in their lives simply because they look for solutions in places where they do not exist. Is it that hard to realise?

When wanting to be good is not enough, you pay full price.

Human beings are contradictory creatures: they long to be happy but the strategies they adopt lead to unhappiness. The resistance of the client / patient projects the internal problem to be solved outside, looking in places where there are no solutions. As Freud concluded, there is no connection between the means and the ends.

The client wants to be good but also wants a way to continue with the pain he wants to remove. Pain is the glue that binds him to certain events of the past. He suffers but retains his past, and that seems to be the deal. The client has experienced a loss yet quietly feels the pain of that loss, and clinging to that pain is their way of "not losing everything." He thinks it's better to feel pain than feel nothing.

As he recreates himself in his loss, day in and day out, he is unable to free himself from the pain.

Pain is "love in reverse." It is reversed because it brings what you do not want through its absence, not through its presence. It's dark love.

We fantasise about achieving happiness with the crazy idea that: we're apart, we are individuals, and we are detached from the source of everything tha...

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Contents
• Dedication
• Introduction
• I. Get more clients, gain freedom, and lead a richer way of life
• II. Offering Meaningful Help to Others