Stop Squatting with Your Spurs On

The Power to Read People, Get What You Want and Communicate without Pain

Angel Tucker

• Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
• Year: 2020
• Print ISBN: 9781600378461
• eBook ISBN: 9781600378478
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Personality in Psychology

Communication can be painful, to say the least, if you don't understand the person you are talking to. Want to solve this problem forever? Want to know how to read the personality of anyone in 60 seconds or less to create pain free communication? You will now have the power to do just that! Anything from getting that promotion at work to creating harmony at home is all within your reach! Learn the easy tips and tricks to having it all by understanding how we are each different and what pushes the "action" buttons in other people. Success can be yours and it isn't even hard. Take control of your relationships now and for good. Unleash the power of personality profiling.

CHAPTER 1

First Things First

Before you begin to read about the various personality types, I want you to know, first and foremost, that this book is not about putting you or anyone else in a box. And, I am not—and would never—claim that every person of the same personality type is exactly alike. In fact, we are all a combination of four personality types. “Yikes! Does that mean I have multiple personalities?” you may be asking. Sort of. Let me explain…

You are a blend

Eighty percent of the population is dominant in two of the four personality types. What does this mean? Simply put, as you go through this book you’ll see much more of yourself in two of the types than you’ll see in the other two. Usually one type may describe you a little more than the other, but sometimes they’re the same, and that’s perfectly okay. This is called your personality blend.

You may even see yourself equally in all four types. The point is, there is no right or wrong personality type or blend. Every personality has something to contribute. One is not better than the other—they’re simply different. I’ll talk more about blends near the end of the book.

Perceptions are well…perceptions

In each chapter that describes a personality type, I’ve included a section that shows how other personality types may perceive you. Understand that just because someone perceives you to be a certain way, doesn’t at all mean that you exhibit any of these traits.

Someone’s perception of you is their reality, not yours. Often times, we decide whether we like someone before we have ever met them face to face. Maybe we didn’t like the way they spoke to us on the phone, or how they walked into the room, or dressed, or sat in a chair. Our perceptions affect the way we interact with people.

About a year ago, I was driving down a street. I glanced in my rear view mirror and saw a woman driving the car behind me. She was quite a distance away, but it appeared that she was smoking a cigarette with her windows rolled up. Now normally, I would think, “Whatever. They’re her lungs not mine,” but I could tell children were in the car. I became irritated and thought, “Wow! Doesn’t she know that she’s hurting those kids? If she wants to smoke that’s her business, but she has no right endangering children.” So, before I even met her, I determined whether I would like her (or not).

I glanced in the mirror a second time and then became unsure if it was a cigarette or something else, such as a pen. “Yes,” I thought, “it’s a pen. Oh, good.” So my perception of her changed instantly to something nicer.

Except…once she was right behind me at a traffic light, I was able to see clearly that it was a cigarette. My perception of her went right back to my initial thoughts.

It’s important to understand that if you want to change someone’s reception of you, you may need to change their perception of you. So, in each chapter I will talk about potential misconceptions for your personality type.

You can’t BEWARE of something you are not first AWARE of.

Be careful how you interpret people

Lastly, don’t just take a description for a particular personality type and think that you know a person. For example, if you see a man having a great time and laughing, don’t automatically assume he is an I personality. Maybe he is normally a C but is happy because he just got a big fat unexpected paycheck. (You’ll understand what I’m talking about later.) The key is to recognize patterns of behavior and not jump to conclusions. You know what they say about assume…

If you get good, though, you can read almost anyone’s personality in just 60 seconds. Pretty cool, eh? Imagine the power of influence over relationships and communication you could have. So dive in and have fun learning how different we all are. And when you finish, it’s time to let your personality shine!

CHAPTER 2

Understanding the Basics

As I mentioned earlier, there are four basic personality types and that you are a blend of all four. They are:

• D (Dominant)

• I (Inspiring)

• S (Supportive)

• C (Cautious)

I’ve summarized the personalities in the table on the next page.

What’s your blend?

Understanding your exact personality blend is very important. To determine your exact blend, I recommend that you take an online personality assessment, which is available on my Web site at www.personalityprofiles.org. Click on “Order Materials” and then the “Assessments” button. This assessment will give you a ton of great information about yourself. For now, making an educated guess will be sufficient for determining which two types you are most dominant in.

While you’re on the site, check out the great books and other resources that teach more about the different personalities. You’ll also find my children’s “Four Pals” book series, which teaches kids about our different personalities and helps them accept others for who they are.

Summary of Personality Types

As in:

Green	=	Money
Red	=	Woo hoo, you get a red star!
Blue	=	Like the morning sky
Yellow	=	Caution
!	=	Action, go!
ê	=	You’re the star of the show
+/-	=	Not much bothers them, for the most part
?	=	They question everything

As I mentioned earlier, 80 percent of you will fit comfortably in two of the four groups. The other 20 percent will either be high in just one, high in three of the four, or level. We’ll talk more about this later. Again, no type is better than the other; they’re simply different. It’s important that all of them exist. If they didn’t, life would be very different.

For example, if we were all D types, everyone would want to be the boss, but there would be no one to boss around. If we were all I types, the world would be a very fun place, but nothing would ever get done. It’s like baseball or football or any other sport; every position in the game is important. Everyone has something to contribute. Just think if there were no outfielders in baseball. The game would definitely change.

Do unto others

Learning about your personality type is going to help you understand why certain areas of your life come easy to you, yet other things are more of a struggle or take you outside your comfort zone.

For example, if you are in sales and you are a high D or high I personality, you prefer to do business differently than if you are a high S or a high C personality. D and I personalities prefer to do active marketing. In other words, they’re comfortable going after the business. S and C personalities prefer to do passive marketing. They think to themselves, “I’ll just mail them something and if they reject me, I’ll never have to know it.”

Can you see, already, how our personalities influence our lives? In fact, your personality has everything to do with your income, your future, and your relationships.

And learning about other people’s personality types helps you understand the most effective way to communicate with them and how they function the best. Why is this important? Because our natural tendency is to treat everyone the way you would want to be treated if it were you in their situation. You know the saying, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?” Many people refer to this as the “golden rule.” Well, it’s a great rule when it comes to morals and ethics, but not communication. The “golden rule” of communication is this: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” Do you see the difference?

Here’s an example. Let’s say that you are a personality type that likes lots of details and information. You are working with a client that is very bottom line. Your natural tendency is to give the client all the information because that’s what you would want if you were the client. In your mind, there is no way to make a good decision without knowing all the information. Unfortunately, your client does not feel the same way. In fact, if you attempt to give them all the information, you’ll probably lose them as a client. It’s a common occurrence.

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Table of contents

• Cover
• Title
• Copyright
• Contents
• Acknowledgements
• Preface
• Chapter 1: First Things First
• Chapter 2: Understanding the Basics
• Chapter 3: Getting to Know the Dominant D
• Chapter 4: The Challenging Side of the D
• Chapter 5: Getting to Know the Inspiring I
• Chapter 6: The Challenging Side of I
• Chapter 7: Getting to Know the Supportive S
• Chapter 8: The Challenging Side of S
• Chapter 9: Getting to Know the Cautious C
• Chapter 10: The Challenging Side of C
• Chapter 11: Getting Along with the Dominant D
• Chapter 12: Getting Along with the Inspiring I
• Chapter 13: Getting Along with the Supportive S
• Chapter 14: Getting Along with the Cautious C
• Chapter 15: Explaining the Personality Blends
• Chapter 16: Does My Personality Ever Change?
• Chapter 17: This Could Be You!
• Chapter 18: Putting it All Into Practice
• Recommended Reading
• About the Author