The
Rules
RULE ONE
DONâT MAKE RUSHED DECISIONS
If the issue is serious, never make a decision on the spot unless you absolutely have to. Think it over for a few minutes, an evening, or a weekend, and then go into the office with your answer. Give yourself the time you need to avoid the mistakes that often result from haste.
WHAT IT MEANS: Clearly, decisions can vary considerably in their urgency, importance, and complexityâand so no one rule of thumb fits allâbut you should never be pressured into giving a quick yes or no before youâve given yourself adequate time to think it through. At the end of the day, itâs much more about the quality of your decisions than the time it took to make them.
ACTION PLAN: Make it a point to never make an instant decision if there isnât a compelling reason to do so. Make sure you have the facts. And then go grab a cup of coffee or take a walk around the block or resolve to sleep on it. More often than not, you have the right to give yourself a little time to breatheâand think it over.
EVEN BETTER: Write it down! List the pros and cons of making your decision one way or another. Listing and evaluating the relevant considerations and potential consequences can be a very useful tool for helping you to think things through. And the very process itself can be a healthy brake on the tendency to make snap decisions.
RULE TWO
UNDERPROMISE AND OVERDELIVER
This is the one thing you can always do to improve business relationships and reinforce your reputation for reliability: Deliver what you promise. In fact, you should even take it one step further. If at all possible, strive to deliver a little more than promisedâor a day or two ahead of schedule. When it comes to being perceived as a reliable professional, there is no margin of error for keeping your word.
WHAT IT MEANS: Itâs all about managing expectations. Whenever you make a promise, you have stated your commitment to perform something. As a result, you have created a certain level of expectationâand by scaling down this expectation, you can more easily create a positive outcome. Remember, when you provide more than what was expected by your customer, you enhance any good feelings they already have about you.
ACTION PLAN: Before you make any sort of promise, carefully think through everything youâll need to do to deliver properly within the time frame youâve created. Avoid the natural tendency to say yes to everything. If you make ten promises and fail to deliver just once, people are not going to remember your nine successes.
EVEN BETTER: When you think youâre done, and that youâve kept your promise as well as you possibly can, donât stop. Try and think of what you can do to do even better. Perhaps youâll have some ideas that you hadnât thought of earlier. Developing a reputation as someone who exceeds expectations is invaluable.
RULE THREE
RELEARN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE
When youâre dealing with people in your industry or profession, there are certain buzzwords and jargon that everyone knows and understands, and thereâs no problem in using them. This puts you on the same page as everyone else, and it even helps reinforce relationships between industry insiders. After a while, however, everyone gets tired of jargon and buzzwords. It doesnât matter whether youâre an industry insider or not, there comes a point where you just get tired of it all and want to speak and be spoken to in plain, straightforward language.
WHAT IT MEANS: In business, youâve always got to know whom youâre talking to, and then use the right level of industry jargon. Not too much ⌠not too little. When speaking to industry outsiders, make sure youâre not talking over their heads. If you edit your written and spoken communications, you will have a better chance of establishing and maintaining a strong relationship.
ACTION PLAN: Use analogies or plain English translations. People often understand complex messages if they are wrapped in analogies; the more universal the analogy, the better. Relating a concept to a trip to the grocery store, the car dealership, or a lemonade stand may seem simplistic, but these are activities that everyone has experienced.
EVEN BETTER: Pay careful attention to nonverbal cues as they will give you clues on whatâs difficult to grasp and requires more explanation. If your speech patterns are sprinkled with technical words without any corresponding explanation, chances are your listenerâs eyes will eventually glaze over. Adjust the level of industry language that you are using, both to make it easier to understand and to prompt questions when necessary.
RULE FOUR
WHEN THE SEASON IS RIGHT, PLAY SANTA
Everyone likes getting gifts, even if theyâre too polite to say otherwise. Business gift giving is its own kind of art, but it is an art that you would do well to master. But remember: the best business gifts donât cost a lot, but they mean a lot.
Overly expensive and ostentatious gifts are never a good idea. Most companies have rules against that kind of thingâand even if they donât, such a gift will probably result in more discomfort and embarrassment than any genuine sense of appreciation.
WHAT IT MEANS: Donât give gifts too oftenâless is definitely more in this areaâbut the right gift, whether as a holiday-season thank-you or an unexpected little surprise is a great way to create more favorable impressions and more cordial relationships with clients and other key business contacts. So, give thoughtfully, appropriately, creatively, and personally.
ACTION PLAN: Whenever you read something that you think a business associate might benefit from, send a copy to that person with a short personal note. This may not be gift giving in the conventional sense at all, but it is certainly a thoughtful and effective token of appreciation.
EVEN BETTER: The very best gifts are generally gestures that acknowledge your appreciation of someone and your awareness of his or her interests. For example, a baseball souvenir for a true-blue Red Sox fan, or maybe some fine wool for an avid knitter. In a small but memorable way, these gifts say, âI was thinking about you, and I know you well enough to know that you would like this.â
RULE FIVE
THEY CALL IT MURPHYâS LAW FOR A REASON
If something can go wrong, it will. Thereâs a reason this axiom is called Murphyâs Law, not Murphyâs Reminder. So plan for the unexpected. Failing to plan realisticallyâoverestimating sales; underestimating costs and time to market; and then failing to plan for the inevitable twists, bumps, and craters along the wayâis the primary reason why most business start-ups fail. But even established companies tend to be far too rosy in their plans and forecasts and donât leave themselves a margin of error. If youâre not willing to ground your plans in reality to make things appear to be better than they are, youâre asking for trouble.
WHAT IT MEANS: In the real world, projects take longer and cost more than expected for all sorts of reasons. People get sick or quit. Shipments of critical components arrive late due to a natural disaster. A key supplier goes out of business. A last-minute technical glitchâone you or your team never anticipatedâstops development dead in its tracks.
ACTION PLAN: Add some wiggle room to your budgets and project timelines. Chances are, youâre going to need it. And if not, you will have pulled off a minor managerial miracleâa project that did even better than planned!
EVEN BETTER: Set up regular meetings to evaluate all aspects of major projects youâre working on, and focus on what new developments have occurred. If you can use these meetings to forecast potential problems and keep them under control, you might be able to break Murphyâs Law more than youâd expect.
RULE SIX
MONEY BUYS EVERYTHING, EXCEPT RESPECT
World famous management guru Tom Peters says it well: âFarmer, senator, salesperson, engineer, janitor, CEO, you, me, and the kid who mows your lawnâeverybody loves being recognized, in any way, large or small.â
Conversely, when you discount the value of your coworkers or employees by ignoring them, taking them for granted, or giving the impression that they are expendable and readily replaceable, they begin to act accordingly and become less valuable. Itâs a self-fulfilling prophecy. People start to unplug.
WHAT IT MEANS: Appreciation, applause, approval, respectâthe fact is, people do not work for money alone. We appreciate being appreciated. And although a paycheck certainly is a tangible form of reward and recognition, the fact that it comes regularly often diminishes its motivational impact. Compared to the warmth of personal praise, paychecks are impersonalâand besides, everyone else is getting one! If youâre criticizing or admonishing more than youâre complimenting, you are heading down the wrong path.
ACTION PLAN: Smart managers know that the right words of praise or recognition at the right time can be worth their weight in gold. Actions that get rewarded, get repeated.
Try to catch people in the act of doing something right. And when you do, right then and there, tell them what youâre thinking. Make every person feel like he or she really matters.
EVEN BETTER: Whenever you know youâll be with a group of your business associates, make it a point to think about and prepare some positive thoughts about others in the groupâand then share them out loud. If thereâs anything people like more than praise, itâs praise in front of others. You donât have to âgetâ everybody ⌠thatâs a bit too obvious. But over a period of time, no one should be left out.
RULE SEVEN
HIRE PEOPLE WHO DISAGREE WITH YOU
Itâs only human nature to be firmly attached to your own opinions, but thatâs not always the best way to manage. In fact, it almost never is. The opinions and perspectives of your coworkers and others may be an invaluable resourceâyet it is often one that is undervalued and overlooked.
Diversity of thought wonât always make it easier for you to make decisions. In fact, by pointing out possible pitfalls and gray areas, others may complicate certain decisions that initially seemed like no-brainers. But this practice will absolutely have a real positive impact on morale because everyone appreciates it when their opinions are sought, listened to, and valued.
WHAT IT MEANS: As a manager, you can gain the benefit of soliciting multiple viewpoints only if you actively and regularly send the signals that you welcome such feedback. Otherwise, people will be understandably reluctant to disagree. Ask people directly what they think of a particular strategy or proposalâand be sensitive to the fact that your feedback is more likely to be frank and uninhibited if itâs sought in a one-on-one setting.
ACTION PLAN: Always make it a point to thank people who share their insights. And make it clear to everyone that they should always feel free to âweigh inâ on a pending project or business decision if they have something to add to the discussion.
EVEN BETTER: Seeking input from people outside your immediate workgroup will help you to make smarter decisions, so be especially aggressive in seeking it out. Contact people you donât deal with on a regular basis and get their thoughtsâgreat advice often comes from the most surprising places.
RULE EIGHT
IF TECHNOLOGYâS THE HARE, THEN EMPLOYEES ARE THE TORTOISE
Regardless of any new technology that you might be considering, keep in mind that the most important part of a successful business is a persuaded and prepared employee. There is always a human component to the adaptation of any new technologyâa component that many organizations do not consider as carefully as they should.
WHAT IT MEANS: New technology will do wonders for any organizationâbut you do need to give it time, and a little sensitivity and âhand holdingâ can make the transition easier and more effective. Itâs not just a question of learning which buttons to pushâitâs being aware of which âpeople buttonsâ not to push. Because we are all creatures of habit, there will always be resistance to new technologies, procedures, and processesâand even some fear and resentment.
ACTION PLAN: Breaking up training into more digestible chunks (instead of the typical and daunting marathon workshop) can help minimize the fear factor. Allow for practice, follow-up sessions, and individual instruction when needed. Accept the fact that thereâs a learning curve between being introduced to a new technology and becoming completely proficient.
EVEN BETTER: Donât be in a hurry to get a new system up and running ASAP. Make sure to give people enough time to fool around with it and get their feet wet. Allow a ânew users groupâ to meet regularly to share their concerns and tips. Make the training more of an extended group experience, with mutual support and practice...