Chapter 1
Building a Gen-Gap Bridge
What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you shut the door of the Kingdom of Heaven in peopleās faces. You wonāt go in yourselves, and you donāt let others enter either.
āMatthew 23:13
Young people need models, not critics.
āJohn Wooden
A Church without Youth is a Church without a future. Moreover, Youth without a Church is Youth without a future.
āPope Shenouda III
Sociologists tell us that we see the world differently and behave differently because of several factors. One of those is when we were born. The era, the culture, and the context of the world we came into. I was born in the sixties but consider myself a seventies generation in style and culture. Why? Because as a child, I barely knew what was going on in my little neighborhood or at school. Outside of thatāzilch, zero, nada. Even at the mind-numbing, hormone-driven, self-absorbed age of thirteen something, I was barely scratching the surface of wars like Vietnam or scandals like Watergate. All Iām saying is that I didnāt tune into politics, education, business, or even religious culture until I hit high school.
Each generation comes with its own dreams, difficulties, and baggage. Iāve yet to hear of one generation that just loves the music, movies, clothing, furniture, or hairdos styles of their parents. None of us wanted to be āthemā until we had to become āthem.ā
So what does each generation bring to the discussion of the culture of the church in America? It turns out a lot!
The life expectancy in America has drastically changed everything from politics to business. In 1900, the life expectancy was 46.3 years for males and 48.3 for females (only a slight difference between gender). By 1950, those numbers skyrocketed with a life expectancy of 65.6 for males and 71.1 for females (a greater 5.5-year difference between gender). That is a eighteen-year jump in just fifty years. Although we have steadily seen the life expectancy number grow, it has not been as rapid as it was in those fifty years. What was it? Healthcare? The economy? Quality of food? Happiness? Iām sure there are a lot smarter people than me that can give you their theories. All I know is that Americaās culture in religion, along with socio-economic status, has gone through enormous transition.
The authority and power structures of our American society in politics, education, business, and religion have all had tremendous highs and devastating lows in terms of effectiveness and in the amount of trust the American people have in their leaders. Since 1950, we have increasingly distrusted those who lead, and we have seen both the personal and public erosion of that trust through media. I didnāt live in the ā30s, ā40s, or ā50s, but I can almost guarantee you that it wasnāt as innocent and pure as my older family and friends have suggested. I am hardly convinced that manipulation and corruption didnāt exist somewhere in government, education, business, and religion. Maybe times were so hard that just living well and leisure were luxuries, but I know the human heart is what itās always beenāevil. So how does all the generational and cultural changes affect the church today? I believe just the life expectancy alone is a good place to start.
Churches were smaller before 1955 when āexplosive growth [was] experienced by the megachurch congregation.ā And in the 1980s, these megachurches became more of the norm than the outlier. A megachurch was defined as a minimum weekly attendance of two thousand. It may even be said that although the term āmegachurchā didnāt exist, the concept of church attenders had reached over two thousand in quite a few churches throughout the United States. However, what can be stated is the leadership and pastoral style in megachurches was radically different than it was, say, in the 1950s.
Shockingly, Lyle Schaller, a prominent leader in the church growth era of the church, went on record and said, āThe emergence of the mega-church is the most important development of modern Christian history. You can be sentimental about the small congregation, like the small corner grocery store or small drugstore, but they simply canāt meet the expectations that people carry with them today.ā
I completely disagree with Schallerās statement. The biblical calling of being a pastor soon took on a far more broad definition of being a superstar. They were no longer expected to know how to parse Greek words and āhomileticizeā (the art of preaching) in every situation from birthday parties to city-wide facility dedications. The modern pastor is supposed to know everythingāliterally everything! The pastor is now supposed to be a leader, a visionary, an entrepreneur, crack-shot financial advisor, and auto mechanic or home-remodel expert. They should be able to speak eloquently, never step on toes, fix people and societal issuesāall in a single bound while wearing a cape instead of a skinny-jeaned Canadian tuxedo. Have pastoral styles and expectations changed? Absolutely! And itās out of control.
There are far too many church cultural changes from the 1950s up to today to discuss in detail the way those changes continued to lean toward and lend itself to propagating pharisaical teachings. The one change I wanted to highlight in this chapter is this: there are four distinct generational influences vying for authority and control over how the church should function and what it should look like in the future. Those generations are the greatest generation: traditionalists, 1930ā1945; the boomers, 1946ā1964; Gen X, 1965ā1981; and millennials, 1982ā2000.
Traditionalists
There are fewer pastors still leading churches who are seventy-plus years old. However, there are far more board members, elders, and influencers (financial and spiritual) in the church today. The traditionalists are still viable and very vocal in todayās older churches. They clearly make their needs, wants, and desires known in classes, meetings, and informal gatherings of the church. They are constantly known to site several moves of God, outpourings of the Spirit, blessings on the church, anointed music of their era, and I-still-miss-the-hymns style of church. They have not exhausted their disposable income because they were savers and spend thrifts to begin with. Many of them had pensions and company retirement plans that are still (somehow miraculously) paying out their income.
Boomers
I like to call them ābuildersā because this group really gets excited about buildings, building programs, expansion, opportunities to buy property, and āexpandā the church. This group is post world war, post Depression, and the beginnings of several cultural revolutions that have taken place in America. Their music is known worldwide, their entrepreneurial appetite is unending, and they believe that they were the first generation to really experience the American dream. Think about it, this is the generation who most benefitted from the previous generational sacrifice (physically and financially). This is the generation that is healthy enough and wealthy enough to not just think about leisure time, they can pay for it (or go into debt) to make it happen.
However, in the church, this group was the real beginning of reactionary steps to make the church not just spiritual, but successful! This is the generation who brought the quiet little church lady forward to become a nationally known speaker and marched Christian womenās rights to the forefront of American culture. This is the church group who taught women to get married, birth children, launch a career, and push to be elected for eldership in the church.
Generation X
This is the group who looked deeper at the programs of the church and the richness of relationships. It wasnāt just about the class or the event; it was about the connectivity of friendship and building family together. This group respected the hist...