The Mom Friend Guide to Everyday Safety and Security

Tips from the Practical One in Your Squad

Cathy Pedrayes

• Publisher: S&S/Simon Element
• Year: 2022
• Print ISBN: 9781982185671
• eBook ISBN: 9781982185688

Prepare yourself for whatever life throws your way with these essential safety and security hacks you need to know to keep you and your family safe, from TikTok’s Mom Friend, Cathy Pedrayes.

Have you ever wished that you kept a first-aid kit in the car or berated yourself for not keeping a pair of flip-flops in your purse at all times? Ever wondered when it’s okay to geo-tag a social media post or when it’s best to lie to strangers? Just need some tips on how to feel safer and more prepared in today’s digital world? Well, Cathy Pedrayes has you covered.

Known as the Mom Friend of TikTok, Cathy posts practical, everyday safety and security tips that everyone should know and incorporate into their routine. The Mom Friend Guide to Everyday Safety and Security offers a shortcut to a lifetime of tips and hacks Cathy has learned from experience as well as her consultations with personal security experts.

You will find quick guides on:
-Securing your home
-Building a first-aid kit
-Items to take with you on the go
-Things to always pack when going on vacation
-How to read the red flags in everyday situations
-How to protect yourself online
-And more!

Practical and personable, The Mom Friend Guide to Everyday Safety and Security is a quick guide to all the safety tips you wish someone had told you sooner so you can be better prepared for whatever life throws your way.

CHAPTER 1 MOM FRIEND AT HOME

Our homes are our little oases. They’re where we feel safe. They’re where we make memories with our families and fur babies; they’re where we relax and enjoy life. But they’re also where we likely store most of our valuables. So despite the cozy feeling we get thinking about our home, it’s also a source of risk. I won’t get into all the data about the danger your home can harbor—ranging from home burglaries to injuries, fires, or assaults—but I will say that our homes are safest when we take a few steps to be prepared. Of course, nothing in this book is a fail-safe, but here’s a quick guide to things that will help you feel (and be) more prepared at home.

Things That’ll Help You Feel Safe, Inside and Out

Starting with the basics, here are a few items every home should have or avoid.

A carbon monoxide (CO) alarm: Carbon monoxide is a colorless, tasteless, odorless, and toxic gas that comes from anything that burns fuel, such as cars, fireplaces, gas stoves, water heaters, dryers, and more. It’s important we stay up-to-date on maintaining these items, but even so, equipment can malfunction. In order to keep our families safe, we need carbon monoxide alarms in our home (notice alarms is plural). Many experts recommend having one in every room so it can be heard, but in my home, I just have one on every floor. You can find them online and at hardware and big-box stores. If you have a security system, your service provider may sell some that are linked to emergency services. That said, make sure you have battery-operated ones as an additional precaution, or that there’s a backup battery in case there’s a power outage.

Smoke Alarms: You know the beep; we all know the beep. Sometimes they go off when the toaster smokes, but leave the batteries in because they’re your earliest warning sign of a possible fire. It’s best to have a smoke alarm in every sleeping room, in hallways, and on each floor of your home. It’s also best to check them at least twice a year, and, if possible, you might want to opt for alarms that are monitored by the fire department. Your alarm system provider may offer this service (more on this later).

Fire extinguishers, blankets, and escape ladders: Most home fires start in a kitchen, so that’s a great place to keep a fire extinguisher, but keep in mind that there are different types of fire extinguishers for different uses. Some are multipurpose, some are designed for electrical fires, some for regular household items, and some for grease fires. You may want a few different types in your home, and your local hardware store is a good place to find them. If you have a second story or accessible attic with a window, how about a window fire ladder? They’re small, portable, and incredibly useful in the case of an emergency, and the same is true of fire blankets. They’re a great way to smother a small fire caused by sources like cooking oil or fat. It’s important to remember that when dealing with a grease fire, don’t add water or flour; instead, smother it by covering it with a lid or baking sheet. Sand or baking soda are good for smothering a small grease fire (keyword “small”—unless you have a ton of baking soda or sand.)

Cameras: I’m a huge fan of cameras. I know that some of you may be concerned about Wi-Fi cameras being hacked, but my chapter on cyber threats will help you manage that risk, and in the worst-case scenario, you just unplug it. You can also take the precaution of not placing them in sensitive areas, like bedrooms. Instead, focus on placing them outside your home and add some indoors for when you’re away and need to keep a closer eye on things.

As an alternative, you can use a camera that doesn’t rely on Wi-Fi. These options are more limited and require professional installation, but they are harder to hack. That said, you may lose out on some of the benefits of a Wi-Fi camera, such as remote live footage, which is my favorite feature. Being able to see a live feed has a lot of benefits: it allows you to remotely monitor when loved ones get home, to see if an injury happens at your door in the moment, to be notified when packages are delivered, and, of course, to keep an eye on any suspicious activity.

But will you ever really need it? Almost definitely. Once, while on vacation, I was in a museum when I got an alert from my security system that a window had been broken at my home. I was several states away, but because of my cameras I was able to see that no one was inside. I also called police to check on my home and was able to see them and communicate with them via my exterior cameras to confirm that everything was okay. In this case, my cameras helped me have a sense of control rather than the panic I would’ve felt if I hadn’t had my virtual eyes and ears.

So at minimum, I recommend a camera at your front door, like a doorbell camera, and if you can expand coverage, I advocate for coverage of every entrance to your home, including the back door and any side doors, mudroom doors, and basement doors.

If you’re renting an apartment, your building may allow you to put a battery-powered camera at your front door, particularly if they don’t already have surveillance in that area. The battery-powered cameras can be secured with a few screws, so they cause minimal damage, and since there’s no hardwiring, they’re easy to remove when you leave.

Home security system: A home security system can include an alarm, door sensors, window sensors, window-break sensors, motion sensors, temperature sensors, water-leak detectors, smoke detectors, and CO alarms. Ideally, you want a system that can communicate with emergency services directly if needed, and the newer systems also have smartphone apps, so you can remotely arm and disarm your home.

If you’re renting, you may not be allowed to have a home security system professionally installed, but there are do-it-yourself options. You can also buy window entry sensors online and install them yourself. Installation usually requires only a sticker or small screws, so you don’t need to be super handy.

Decoys: Whether you have an alarm or not, I recommend getting a security system sign or a Beware of Dog sign. The average home invader will think twice before targeting a dwelling with one of these signs. You can go as far as placing a large dog bowl in the yard or having one be visible from the window. No one wants to confront a scary dog, so having these decoys will not only scare away an amateur thief but can even send the pro burglar looking for an easier target.

You can try some other decoys as well. How about a toy police badge left on the kitchen counter? Or placing large, beat-up men’s work boots at the door so it doesn’t look like you live alone? Some security experts also suggest setting up burglar decoy smash-and-grab boxes. Because home invaders only spend about ten minutes inside, they probably don’t have the time to really inspect their loot, so I suggest placing a box of seemingly valuable items in an obvious place like a nightstand drawer, sock drawer, or in your closet. In the box you can put some crumpled cash and fake jewelry. In an effort to quickly get away, a burglar might grab it and run, only to later realize it wasn’t as valuable as they had hoped. It’s better to distract a burglar with a decoy box than let them linger to find the good stuff.

Another way to set up some decoys is with smart-home devices. You can play the sound of people talking, a dog barking, trigger lighting, or you can have a little fun with it: There was a viral TikTok video of a family who set up their Amazon Alexa to respond to the command “Alexa, intruder.” The Alexa immediately switched the lighting to dark red, started strobing it, and began a loud heavy metal song. In the presence of an intruder, I’d recommend running to safety over messing with Alexa, but if you can do it remotely, it’s definitely scary and might just send the bad guys running—plus it’s a good reminder to get creative!

Lighting: Believe it or not, lighting reduces crime, and it’s actually been studied. Evidence from a randomized experiment of street lighting in New York City revealed that when communities were given more lighting, there was a 36 percent reduction in crime, specifically at night.¹

The study may have been conducted in communities in New York City, but we can apply that same theory to our homes. I’ve never committed a crime, but if I had to put myself in the shoes of someone who did, I’d imagine the last thing someone would want is to get caught, and lighting increases the chances that you’d be seen, identified, and ultimately caught, so of course, a criminal avoids well-lit areas. This is why we’re told not to walk down dark alleys alone. Well, that includes your house. Make sure there aren’t any dark corners where someone can lurk. Pathways should be well lit, and you can opt for motion-sensing lights as well.

It’s not only about criminal activity but overall safety. You’re less likely to trip on a step if you can see it, and lighting will help you and anyone else be able to see those hazards and avoid getting hurt.

Landscaping: Similar to lighting, we don’t want to create good hiding spots by letting our yards grow wild. In high-traffic areas, such as near your door, garage, and driveway, make sure you can see around you—a full 360 degrees—and if that means keeping the hedges short, it’s worth it.

Landscaping can also be used as a deterrent. When I was growing up in Miami, my family constantly had people jumping the fences and walls into our yard. My mom came up with an easy solution—she planted cacti at the problem areas and it never happened again. Near my home, I’ve seen neighbors use these same tricks. They might plant thorny rosebushes, blackberries, acacia, firethorn, or agave near their front windows. You’ll want to consider any fire-escape plans when planting, so where you place your spiky flora may vary based on the configuration of your home and general risk.

Locking doors and windows: This should be obvious, but I’ve found that not enough people regularly do this. Too often cars are stolen because doors are unlocked or windows are left open. It may seem simplistic, but locking a door really is a deterrent. I’ve seen it time and time again where a criminal simply walks away because the door is locked and moves on to an easier target. Of course, if someone wants to get in, they can always break a window to get into your home or car, but the random criminal is usually deterred by a simple lock. At home, check to make sure all of your windows and doors are locked, and if strangers have been inside (if you’re having some construction done, for example), do a sweep after they leave to ensure all of the doors and windows are still locked. Also, if you have a door connecting your house to your garage, lock that door. Garages are easy to break into, even for the novice thief. That might be a problem if you have valuables in your garage, but it’s also an issue if your garage door connects to your home. Simply locking that door might be enough of a deterrent should someone decide to take advantage of your vulnerable garage entryway. In addition, there are extra locks that you can get for your home in order to better protect yourself.

If you have a sliding glass door to your backyard or balcony, invest in a security bar. Sliding glass doors are pretty vulnerable, particularly older versions. They’re generally easy to shimmy open or take off the track, and because they’re made of glass, they can easily be broken. So for a few dollars, get a little extra security on your sliding glass doors.

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Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Introduction
• Chapter 1: Mom Friend at Home
• Chapter 2: Personal Safety: Things to Carry with You
• Chapter 3: Cybersecurity: Things You Shouldn’t Post and Protecting Your Data
• Chapter 4: Mom Friend on the Go: Safety and Convenience Away from Home
• Chapter 5: Mom Friend Is Packed: Travel Smart
• Conclusion
• Acknowledgments
• About the Author
• Notes
• Index
• Copyright