Remembering Harry With Bill Ayres
âI remember reading this book some years ago where the author had this line that just knocked me over: âWe tell our stories to live.â ⌠Harry⌠said, âYeah. Thatâs right, absolutely right.â And the notion was that everyone has a story inside of them. And he recognized that.â
âBill Ayres
In 1991 I delivered a lecture on Harry Chapinâs life at Queensborough College. I was teaching a course on creative writing at night, and this two-hour presentation was about what we lost on that summer night ten years earlier, in 1981.
A priest I knew, Monsignor Tom Hartman, told me about Bill Ayres, the former priest who founded World Hunger Year with Harry Chapin. To prepare for my lecture about Chapinâs life, Father Tom helped me set up an interview with Ayres.
One fall afternoon, I headed up to the Garment District in Manhattan where the headquarters of World Hunger Year was located. James Chapin, Harryâs oldest brother, would join us for the interview. I brought along my exhaustive list of questions, and I was grateful for the patience that Ayres and James exhibited in their candid and honest answers. They left me with the impression that Harry Chapinâs talent, his beauty as a human being, was so rare that you had to include his weaknesses to fully understand him. Itâs been over 25 years since I conducted that interview, but itâs a fitting place to start a story about him. As Shakespeare said, âwhatâs past is prologue.â
PF: Bill, do you think that the relationship that Harry had with his stepfather, which was at times not always an easy one, inspired him to write some of the darker themes that showed up in his story songs?
BA: Yeah, but I think something else came through, and that is Harryâs identification with the underdog, Harryâs identification with the little guy, with the person that is struggling to make some sort of sense out of the craziness of their life. And finding some sort of meaning. Harry could get inside those experiences. He could find the experiences first of all, get inside them and make them magical, so that you entered into those experiences with him. They were stories and as you heard the story, a part of it was the story of your life. That was part of Harryâs magic. He was a wonderful storyteller.
PF: How did he avoid passing along to his own children the mean-spiritedness he experienced?
BA: He decided that he was going to break the cycle. If there was one thing that Harry Chapin was not, thatâs mean-spirited. He was not a violent person. He was a person who had been hurt. No doubt about that. And he had a great desire to help to heal. Thatâs why he did the music: To heal himself, first of all (laughs softly). And then to help heal other people. And thatâs why he got involved in hunger. Thatâs why he got involved in some of the causes that he felt so strongly about.
PF: A lot of his songs have a dark side to them. Is that one of the reasons that he didnât get on the air as much?
Harryâs older brother, James Chapin, walks into the room and Bill Ayres introduces me to him. James jumps in right away and takes the question.
JC: I remember his first album had this nine-minute song about a drug addict, and the second one had a ten-minute song about a sniper (laughs).
James goes on to talk about Claire MacIntyre, an old girlfriend of Harryâs who he called âSueâ in his song, âTaxi.â
JC: Harry had this violent relationship with Claire MacIntyre, the girl he wrote âTaxiâ for. One night, the two of them got so mad at each other that she screeched the car to a halt, and they both jumped out and started hollering at each other in front of a bar in the middle of Harlem. And she got so mad at him she stomped his foot with a high heel and broke some of the bones (laughing). And all the black guys in this bar came out and they were cheering them on. They thought that it was the greatest damn thing. They were hollering, âGo, go!â They thought it was funny seeing these two white, preppy types hollering at each other. He didnât even realize it until he got back in the car, but she had actually broken his middle toe by stomping on it with her spiked heel.
Harry found it very hard to get mad. And he was totally non-physically mad. I donât think that I ever saw him really, really mess up. I never saw him lose his temper basically in our whole relationship. So, he was not a very angry person that way. But he wrote about it a lot.
PF: It seems to me that some of the stuff that got into his songs was his version of a reworked Norman Rockwell image of life that he had in his head. He seemed optimistic.
BA: Yeah, but he was also interested in the dark side.
JC: Some of his songs were very glum. Especially his last album. I mean the first time our brother Tommy heard it he said, âIt was very glum.â And remember a lot of these things come from his autobiography, like âBurning Herselfâ and âThey Called Her Easy.â
Harry sometimes said that one of the ways that you can deal with dark things is to get it outside by writing about it. Remember that famous Twilight Zone episode on television when the monster is following the writer around and finally he says, âWeâre your private demonsâ? So you get it outside by writing about it.
BA: Anything was grist for the mill for Harry. So it wasnât just that he was going inside of himself, but he would see something out there and he would connect with it. And then he would take it for a ride.
JC: He had this little notebook and he would write down every damn thing that happened in it. So if he had to write something, a lot of times what he would do is, he would flip it open and start looking through the book. And he had all these kind of odd snatches of life in there.
The Johnson OâConnor testing institute actually did a test of him once. That was when Claireâs father wanted him to take it. He said, âOkay, letâs see what heâs good at.â They did a full day of testing. And it wasnât just written testing. They did oral testing too.
They do tests about your tuning pitch. They do tests about your facility with putting things together. They have a very interesting idea at that institute, which is that people are defined not by their capacities but their incapacities. In other words, you canât be good at some things unless youâre not good at other things.
For example, I could not be, say, a historian if I really wanted to have a lot of physical exercise. You cannot be a good historian because you couldnât sit around all day. So, Iâm perfectly made to sit all day and read. In other words, God made me very happy to sit all day and read.
So Iâm defined by my incapacities as well as my capacities. When Harryâs came out they said, âYouâre the only type of person we canât help.â He tested well in everything. He was good in his writing skills, he was good in his mechanical skills, and he was good in his mathematical skills. And they said that the only other person that they tested that was higher than him in scores was an alcoholic dishwasher.
âA person like you,â they said, âwho is good in everything, will never be satisfied. There is nothing in life you can do that will ever satisfy you because thereâs nothing that uses all your powers.â
In his case they said, âThe only choice you have is to become Thomas Jefferson or an alcoholic dishwasher. You have to somehow find a career where you do a lot of things.â Stevie was a better musician, Tommy was a better athlete and I was smarter, so therefore, in effect, he was competing with each of us. And each of us was better in one area that he cared about. But the truth is that Harry was a very, very high quality human being who had a wide range of skills and abilities.
BA: He could have been anything he wanted to be: that was the problem. So thatâs why he lucked out when he fell into being a star. And then he could do different things.
But the reason he was never exactly settled in his life and the reason he never would have been settled or really happy was that no life he could have led would have satisfied all his skills, so therefore he was always going to be changing.
So if he had not died he would be doing twenty different things now. Thatâs one of the reasons he had that endless energy, which is one of his most profound characteristics.
PF: What sort of literature did he like to read? Can you think of any authors he liked?
JC: I donât think he read many novels.
BA: Oh, he read novels. He read a lot of literature.
PF: What about poetry?
BA: I donât know, but he wrote a lot of poetry.
JC: Thatâs an interesting question. What did Harry read? His reading had less in common with my reading than any of my other brothers. I know he liked the Becker books about denial of death.
BA: I gave him that. He was always reading stuff on planes. He read a lot of stuff you gave him too, Jim. He was reading Gary Wills at that point. He read so much because he traveled a lot.
JC: He would sleep sometimes, but basically he was the type who went 18 or 19 hours a day.
BA: The truth is he slept on airplanes a lot because he wasnât sleeping other places.
PF: Can you imagine what his dreams were like?
BA: Some of the stuff that he dreamed about Iâm sure was in his songs.
JC: Well, if you listen to, âa wild man wizard hiding in me illuminating my mindâ (laughs). Letâs face it, my whole family is on the border of schizophrenia. Several people have fallen over that border and I think Harry was pretty close to that border.
BA: The operative thing with Harry, the last major conversation I had with Harry... I always knew when Harry was in trouble. Jim and I both would know because he would avoid us. He would tend to avoid us when he was in trouble, when he was getting sort of in some place that wasnât good. So one day I corralled him. And I said to him, âWhat the hell is happening here?â And he said, âYou know, I had this experience when I was a teenager and when I started college.â He said it was for years. âI was depressed.â The worst six months of his life was when he came back from Cornell. It was around 1964 or â65. He was sort of hanging around, but he wasnât doing anything.
PF: He actually stayed in the house a lot, didnât he?
BA: Yeah, and even after when Sandy got to know him, it took a while, but she really helped him come out of his depression. Thatâs one of the reasons that they had a very stron...