How To Turn Your I Can't Into I Believe Can

30 Excellent Strategies That Will Enable You To Achieve Your True Potential

Delroy Constantine-Simms

• Publisher: Think Doctor Publications
• Year: 2016
• eBook ISBN: 9781635879964
• Edition: 1
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Personal Success

"How To Turn Your I Can't Into I Believe I Can" inspired by my mentor Karl Wilson and motivational speaker Althea Grant is an excellent personal development book, which explains 30 excellent strategies, that can help readers focus on self-esteem; confidence; goal setting; success; motivation and inspiration.

More importantly, How To Turn Your I Can’t Into I Believe I Can provides an essential platform,that fosters personal and professional potential, supported by a combination of affirmations, motivational stories and easy to follow conceptual step by step guides.

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HOW TO TURN YOUR I CAN'T

INTO I BELIEVE I CAN

30 Excellent Strategies That Will Enable You

To Achieve Your True Potential

Copyright © 2015 D Constantine-Simms

Copyright © 2015 Think Doctor Publications

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ISBN: 978-1-63587-996-4

About The Editor

D. Constantine-Simms is an Occupational Psychologist and Counselling Psychologist and a qualified Therapeutic Career Coach, and regularly contributes to:

Introduction

This personal development book contains thirty actionable strategies based on six core principles which are self-esteem; confidence; goal setting; success; motivation and inspiration. This superb book encourages you to think positively, reflect and develop a mindset that will enable you to strategically plan how to move from where you are today, to where you really want to be tomorrow and the rest of your life. The value of this superb book can be appreciated by observing the behaviour of fleas in an open and sealed jar. You can train fleas by putting them in a jar with a top on it. Fleas jump, so they will jump up and hit the top repeatedly. As you watch them jump and hit the top, you will notice something interesting. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top. When you take the top off and though the fleas continue to jump, they won't jump out of the jar. I repeat, they won't jump out because they just can't. The reason is simple. The fleas have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Once they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high, that's all they can and will do. Just like the fleas, many of us fail to jump higher, than we think we can, thinking we are doing all we can due to internal and external programming which has led to engrained behaviours and self-expectations, which in many respects influences the visions we have of ourselves in terms of what we think we can or can’t achieve. There are numerous psychological studies, that tell us that nothing controls our lives more than our self- image. We live like the person we see in the mirror. We are what we think we are. If you don't think you'll be successful, you won't be successful. You can't be successful, if you can't see it inside yourself. Your life is limited to your vision. If you want to change your life, you must change your vision of your life. The importance of self-perception can be explained through the following story about the Chicken and the Eagle. Once upon a time, at a large mountain side there was an eagle nest with four large eagle eggs inside. One day, an earthquake rocked the mountain causing one of the eggs to roll down to a chicken farm, located in the valley below. The chickens knew that they must protect the eagle egg. Eventually, the eagle egg hatched and a beautiful eagle was born. Being chickens, the chickens raised the eagle to be a chicken. The eagle loved his home and family but it seemed his spirit cried out for more. One day, the eagle looked to the skies above and noticed a group of mighty eagles soaring. “Oh,” the eagle cried, “I wish I could soar like those birds.” The chickens roared with laughter, “You cannot soar like those. You are a chicken and chickens do not soar.” The eagle continued staring at his real family up above, dreaming that he could be like them. Each time the eagle talked about his dreams, he was told it couldn’t be done. That was what the eagle learned to believe. After time, the eagle stopped dreaming and continued to live his life as a chicken. Finally, after a long life as a chicken, the eagle passed away. You become what you believe you are. If you ever dream to become an eagle, follow your dreams, not the words of chickens. In contrast, Arnold Schwarzenegger was not that famous in 1976 when he met with a newspaper reporter. The reporter asked Schwarzenegger. “Now that you've retired from bodybuilding, what do you plan to do next?" Schwarzenegger answered very calmly and confidently: “I’m going to be the number one movie star in Hollywood." The reporter was shocked and amused at Schwarzenegger's plan. At that time, it was very hard to imagine how this muscle-bound body builder, who was not a professional actor and who spoke poor English with a strong Austrian accent, could ever hope to be Hollywood's number one movie star! So, the reporter asked Schwarzenegger how he planned to make his dream come true, Schwarzenegger said: “I" will do it the same way I became the number one body builder in the world. What I do was to create a vision of who I want to be, and then I start living like that person in my mind as if it were already true." Sounds almost childishly simple, doesn't it?

But it worked! Schwarzenegger “DID” become the number one highest paid movie star in Hollywood! Schwarzenegger also became the governor of California and could have been the President of the United States of America, if the legislation did not restrict foreign born national running for the Presidency. The fact of the matter is this. Schwarzenegger may have been a flee in a jar constantly hitting the top of the jar, but unlike the other fleas he took advantage of the open top and ensured that his self-belief and self- perception enabled him to see beyond the real and self-imposed restrictions to achieve his goals by turning the often self-imposed “Can’t of Life” into a “Yes I Can reality.

How Is Your Sense of Self Esteem?

People have low esteem for a variety of reasons. Some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance. Others have emotional issues that have caused their self-esteem to drop or feel themselves unworthy of any praise. For whatever reasons your self-esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem. Think of self-esteem like a house, if you build a stunning house on a poor foundation, the entire structure will crumble. However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is strong and capable of holding anything, the process may be slow, but your self-esteem will be built soundly.

Many individuals look for help for their low self-esteem in books or seminars. The number of available options on the market is phenomenal, and you are sure to find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues. Check out your local library or book store and explore their “self-help” section for a book that you may find helpful. It is quite unlikely you will find the answers to all your problems in a book, but you may find it helpful to know others are in your same boat and you are certainly not alone. Additionally, you may wish to seek professional help in your quest to boost your self-esteem. Often, speaking with a qualified individual can help you determine the root of your problem and the necessary path you should take for the rebuilding process. Perhaps your problems dates to childhood, or maybe it has recently developed. Whatever the case, a professional will be able to best determine your next step. A main factor in self-esteem is negativity. Negative thoughts can pervade your confidence and crumble your self-esteem. If you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to best remedy the problem. Often, individuals in an abusive relationship have their self-esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth. Similarly, a negative workplace environment can lower your self-esteem with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work. Maybe you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding him or her. Whatever the source, distancing yourself from the negativity will help you regain your self-esteem. Strive to surround yourself with positive people. If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you may wish to join a support group. Similarly, there are support groups available for individuals with self-image issues. These groups will allow you to meet other individuals like yourself and provide a forum for you to sound your hopes and achievements.

However, you choose to begin building your self-esteem, do so today! Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware it may take a while. You should not become impatient or despondent if you find yourself esteem slipping. Remember, you are an important and worthy person and should treat yourself as such. Self Esteem is the value of your own self or your self-worth. Loss of self-esteem can occur any time and causes more depression in your life. Low self-esteem can cause you to lose your life’s goals and interest in life in general. Gaining back your self-esteem is the first step to a happy and satisfied life. Rebuilding self-esteem helps by giving a boost to your self-confidence. Being confident will make others give you the respect you deserve.

The Key to Developing Your Self Esteem

Self-esteem is a state of mind. It can fill you with happiness, cheer, and confidence. It can also make you feel terrible about yourself. Self-esteem is like a battery. When the battery is charged, the individual is positive; when the battery is low, the individual is negative. Individuals with low self-esteem often do not do well in life. They will approach most situations with little confidence though they may be fully capable of accomplishing it. Self-belief is considered the foundation of self-esteem. It provides the extra confidence that one needs to know they can do anything. So how do you develop self-belief in yourself? Do not mistake self-belief as self-importance. They are not the same. It is more like conceit, spawn over confidence and egotism, which does not lead to personal success. The right answer is positive self-esteem. This means that you see yourself as good and capable as anyone else, no better or worse, you are proud of whom you are, and you approach everything with a positive outlook.

To do this you must learn to accept yourself unconditionally. You will have strengths and weaknesses, and you will have achievements and failures. You must learn to accept those realities. This is what self-esteem is all about – truth in yourself.

Those who always languish are never happy. Those who blame everyone else for their failures also never get ahead. They are consumed with negativity. It is important to not let your mistakes or failures overpower you, and ruin your happiness. You have to accept your mistakes and move on. Any time you do not acknowledge your mistakes, you lose some of your self-esteem. Most people gain a lot of happiness from their accomplishments. Their self-esteem rises; they feel like they can accomplish anything. However, the same self-esteem can fall when that person is rejected or makes a mistake. This can cause a person to feel unhappy and unwanted, and can eat away at his self-esteem until he is very unhappy. It will also impact other realms of his life. In order to improve your self-esteem, you need to be fair to yourself. Do not beat yourself up when something goes wrong. It can lead to depression and overwhelming guilt. A mistake or failure cannot be changed, but it can be learned from. Everyone should judge himself or herself fairly. Beating up on oneself leads to defeat, and destroys self-esteem.

The Relationship Between Self Esteem & Confidence

Whenever one is beset by a situation that he or she is unsure of facing someone admired, having to perform in front of an audience, or simply talking to others – he or she is facing a goodly amount of stress. Confident people are usually able to face these situations without blinking; but the rest of us will probably melt away and try to run away from the situation. For most people facing this kind of low self-esteem, these situations present an opportunity for them to make fools out of themselves. This is a very embarrassing prospect. If you are one of the millions of people that would like to stop fidgeting in front of others, trying to squirrel out of such situations, and being so unsure of yourself when facing presentations, here are a few tips to set you on yo...

Table of contents

• How Is Your Sense of Self Esteem?
• Epilogue