21 Things God Never Said

Correcting Our Misconceptions About Evangelism

R. Larry Moyer

• Publisher: Kregel Publications
• Year: 2019
• Print ISBN: 9780825438813
• eBook ISBN: 9780825493300
• Topic: Theology & Religion
• Subtopic: Christian Ministry

A veteran evangelist frees Christians to share the gospel by tackling twenty-one erroneous concepts believers have about witnessing. R. Larry Moyer (Th.M., Dallas Theological Seminary) is the executive director of EvanTell, Inc., an evangelistic association in Dallas, Texas, and is a speaker at evangelistic outreaches, training seminars, and in classrooms across the country. His other books include Free and Clear, Larry Moyer's How-To Book on Personal Evangelism, Thirty-One Days with the Master Fisherman, and Welcome to the Family.

Misconception 1

“If you don’t know the date you were saved, then you’re not saved.”

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The fall breeze blowing through the windows of the Michigan farmhouse was refreshing. The conversation was warm. Sitting across the room from me, the husband talked about the day he was saved, the day an exciting transformation took place in his life. His wife, though, appeared uneasy. They were both clear on the only means of salvation—trusting Christ alone to save you. So why was one uneasy and the other so excited?

The thought struck me, Is she uncomfortable because she can’t tell me the exact date she met the Savior? So I volunteered, “The exciting thing is, as long as you’re trusting Christ alone, you’re saved—regardless of when you crossed the line. You don’t have to know the exact date it happened.”

Her eyes brightened. “That’s my problem,” she said. “I understand the salvation message and know I’ve trusted Christ, but I just can’t tell you what day it happened. I was so afraid you were going to ask the exact date I was saved. For me, it was more gradual until one day I realized that I could tell people that I was saved.”

As a spiritually searching teen, I too heard that mistaken emphasis on a date. I’m sad to say that it came from an evangelist. With an authoritative voice he warned, “If you don’t know the day you were saved, you’re not saved.” I now know that he didn’t mean you had to give the exact date, such as October 16. He meant there had to be an actual day in your mind—one you could look back to and say, “I vividly remember—on that day I was saved.”

At the time, though, I felt torn. Should I go through the motions of coming to Christ again? That seemed foolish when I’d already done so. Yet if I wasn’t sure of the date, would I get in trouble with God because He demands something I couldn’t give? I felt confused, frustrated, and scared.

How does the emphasis on a specific date hinder us in evangelism? First, doubt about salvation takes away the freedom and joy of speaking about Christ. How can we speak of the ecstasy of heaven if there’s any question we’ll be there ourselves? When I first trusted Christ, I wanted everyone to know heaven could be theirs. But I wondered, Can I tell them how to be saved if I can’t give the exact date of my salvation? I felt like my foot was on the brake and the gas pedal at the same time. I wanted to go forward but couldn’t.

Second, the emphasis on a date hinders our approach to certain people. What do we say to those who declare they’re saved yet can’t give an exact date when they “crossed the line”?

What do Scriptures emphasize?

What’s the problem with that statement the evangelist made when I was a teen? Scripture never makes such a statement.

The Gospel of John explains how to receive eternal life. Read the following passages and note the number of times they mention anything about knowing the date you were saved.

Whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:15)

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. (John 3:18)

He who believes in the Son has everlasting life; and he who does not believe the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him. (John 3:36)

Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life. (John 5:24)

And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.” (John 6:35)

And this is the will of Him who sent Me, that everyone who sees the Son and believes in Him may have everlasting life; and I will raise him up at the last day. (John 6:40)

Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me has everlasting life. (John 6:47)

I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this? (John 11:25–26)

But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that believing you may have life in His name. (John 20:31)

How many times did these verses mention knowing the date you were saved? If you said zero, you’re right. When Scripture gives assurance of salvation, it goes back to a fact, not a date. The real question is, “Who am I trusting in right now?” If we’re trusting Christ alone to save us, we’re saved regardless of when and where we crossed the line. Our salvation is established by Who we place our trust in, not when we trusted Him.

Did a particular day of salvation exist?

Is becoming a child of God something that happened at a point of time, or is it a process? Yes, there was that instant in which He “delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love” (Col. 1:13). But coming to understand the message of salvation may have occurred over days, weeks, months, or even years. Although the actual transition from Satan’s kingdom to God’s kingdom happened in a second, having to know the date that transition occurred is not taught in Scripture.

It’s true that in Scripture, some new converts spoke of the specific moment when they met the Savior. Paul’s conversion, for example, is found in Acts 9. He recounted that conversion in Acts 22 and again in Acts 26. The day he met the Savior was clear in his mind. Even the hour was clear—around noon. He spoke of the dramatic experience, highlighting details of a blinding light and thunderous voice from heaven, falling to the ground, and his own response to the Lord.

The Ethiopian eunuch certainly could have given us details about the day he met the Savior. We can read the actual details in Acts 8:26–39, but it’s easy to imagine what he would have told his friends. “I was returning from worship in Jerusalem and reading from the prophet Isaiah, when all of a sudden …” No doubt he would have mentioned meeting Philip and coming to understand that Christ is, indeed, the Son of God. He probably would have been as specific about the day of his conversion as Paul was about his. Upon trusting Christ the Ethiopian was baptized and then saw Philip supernaturally vanish.

The appearance and then sudden disappearance of the one who led a person to the Savior would have etched that day in any person’s mind. How could anyone not clearly remember such an extraordinary day? But to say the day we crossed the line from darkness into light must be as vivid in our minds as it was in the mind of Paul or the Ethiopian, mishandles those accounts.

The Bible emphasizes that salvation is a personal decision that no one can make for us. It’s also clear that Christ is the only means to salvation. Equally clear is that there is a particular moment when we move from being children of darkness to children of light. We must know Whose we are and why we are His. We must know, too, that through personal trust in Christ alone to save us we have appropriated His death. But we are never told that we must know the precise moment that occurred.

Why the mistaken emphasis on a date?

When evangelizing, we haven’t always asked, “Is this what the Bible really teaches?” Too easily, we lay the Bible aside. Statements are made without being examined for biblical truth.

When evangelizing, we meet those who say, “I’ve always been a Christian.” In reality, that means, “I’ve never become a Christian.” We’re not born Christians; we’re born sinners. Sin originates from Adam, so the whole race stands guilty before God. Romans 5:12 tells us, “Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men, because all sinned.” Wanting to alarm, zealous evangelists have sometimes said, “If you don’t know the date you were saved, you’re not saved.” But it’s wrong to make claims that Scripture doesn’t, just to make people aware of their sinful condition.

A better approach is, (1) “Are you confident that if you were to die right now you’d go to heaven?” and (2) “If you were to stand before God and He were to ask, ‘Why should I let you into heaven?’ what would you tell Him?”

The night before my flight to an evangelistic outreach in Pennsylvania, I’d hardly slept. So when the jet engines started humming, my head nodded. Soon, the lull of the plane’s motion rocked me to sleep. Two hours later, I awoke and got into a conversation with the man to my right. He noticed that I had a book about spiritual matters and asked, “Are you a preacher?” I responded, “Yes, I am.” He unloaded his personal difficulties, and told me that his wife had just left him. He was devastated. We were about to land, so we couldn’t talk extensively, but I learned that he was returning to Dallas on Sunday (whereas I would be returning on Monday). I said, “Why don’t I give you a call and let’s get together to talk. I’d love to help.” We exchanged phone numbers and I gave him my copy of the “May I Ask You a Question?” tract (see Appendix).

When I returned to Dallas, I called him and we met for breakfast. It turns out that the man once played professional football with the NFL, which was confirmed by his husky, linebacker appearance. He shared why his wife of seven years was leaving him, and admitted they’d both made mistakes. I listened with compassion then said, “Your marriage may be over but your life isn’t. God still wants good things to happen, and He wants to use you.” I shared that everything begins with a personal relationship with Christ. So I asked, “Have you come to a point that, if you were to die, you know you’d go to heaven?” He answered, “Yes.”

At this point, some would have asked, “Exactly when did you come to Christ?” I know he couldn’t have told me, and I’d already determined that he didn’t understand the gospel. So I asked, “If you stood before God and He were to ask you, ‘Why should I let you into heaven?’ what would you tell him?” He explained that he’d tried to do what was right and lived a good life. I responded, “What would you say if I told you that God wouldn’t accept that answer?” He was surprised. I went through my Bad News/Good News presentation of the gospel (see Appendix), explaining that eternal life is a free gift. He was overwhelmed with what he was seeing in Scripture. Over pancakes and sausage, we prayed together, and he told God that he was trusting Christ to save him—and he told me how grateful he was that God had placed him next to me on the plane. We agreed to get together again so I could begin discipling him.

Some know the date, some don’t.

The reason many people do know the precise moment they were saved is because their conversion was dramatic. It may have been preceded by the loss of a mate or a job, or the sudden news of a terminal disease. It may have been in conjunction with a debilitating accident or addiction to a particular substance. Severe depression leading to thoughts of suicide may have shown some people their spiritual need.

While speaking at a church in Illinois, I talked with one believer there and asked, “When did you come to know the Lord?” His face lit up. Beaming from ear to ear he responded, “March 16, 1991, 9:45 P.M.” When I heard the details of his conversion, I understood why the specific moment was so vivid to him.

On that date, the young man had been riding in a car with a fellow student. She was excited about her faith and wanted to share it. Since there was little traffic on the four-lane highway, the young woman engaged him in conversation. She said, “If you could ask God anything, what would you ask Him?” He shocked her by breaking down in tears, confessing he was far from God. Involved in a homosexual lifestyle, he thought God wouldn’t want anything to do with him. Explaining the gospel, she led him to Christ. Because the young man had wrecked his life, tears preceded his conversion. It’s doubtful that he’ll forget the day or circumstances.

Not all conversions, though, are as dramatic. Some people come to Christ from a liberal religious background. The only reason they weren’t saved is because no one had ever explained the gospel to them. Then they began attending a Bible-teaching church and learned that Christ saves sinners. As the gospel of grace was proclaimed, they trusted Christ and received eternal life. As they grew in Christ, they thought, Wait a minute. That means years ago, when I was attending that liberal church I wasn’t saved. When these people give their testimony, they are clear: “I was lost but now I’m found.” Sometimes they can’t tell you the precise day they were saved. They just know they’re saved.

A believer told me, “I can’t give you the specific date when I trusted Christ. It was sometime during my first months in college. But I do know Jesus Christ died and rose again for my sake.” Stressing that all people have to know the date they were saved ignores the varying backgrounds from which God saves people.

Again, there is a particular instant in which one’s eternal destiny is forever changed. But when Scripture gives assurance of salvation, it goes back to a fact, not a date. If you’re trusting Christ alone, you’re saved regardless of when the divine transaction took place.

Why a fact, not a date?

Why is the fact—not the date—important? First, Who saved us results in our security, not when. We’re saved because we are His regardless of when we became His. We must put the emphasis in the same place God does. Christ affirmed, “He who believes in Me has everlasting life” (John 6:47).

Second, as you give your testimony, when you were saved is of little help. No one can come to Christ when you did. That moment passed. Each person must come to Christ the way you did—as a sinner trusting Christ. If you know the date, feel free to mention it, but what helps most is relating how you were saved—by grace through faith.

A third reason why the fact and not the date is important is that many people, when they see Christ, will discover they only thought they knew the exact day of their salvation. The eternal transaction took place a week, or even months, later when they really understood the gospel.

I confess to possibly being one of those people. I came to understand the gospel through my own Bible study while growing up on my dad’s dairy farm in Lancaster, Pennsy...

Table of contents

• Cover Page
• Title Page
• Copyright
• Dedication
• Contents
• Introduction
• Misconception 1. “If you don’t know the date you were saved, then you’re not saved.”
• Misconception 2. “If you don’t tell others about Me, then you’re not a Christian.”
• Misconception 3. “You shouldn’t keep company with sinners.”
• Misconception 4. “If you want to be saved, just invite Jesus into your heart.”
• Misconception 5. “When you miss an opportunity to share Christ with someone, it’s your fault if that person goes to hell.”
• Misconception 6. “If you’re going to evangelize, you must know how to defend what you believe.”
• Misconception 7. “If evangelism scares you, you don’t have the gift of evangelism.”
• Misconception 8. “If you don’t shed tears for the lost, you won’t be effective in evangelism.”
• Misconception 9. “You’re saved even if you’re trusting something in addition to Christ for your eternal salvation.”
• Misconception 10. “If you doubt your salvation, then you’re not saved.”
• Misconception 11. “Living a Christlike life around non-Christians is enough. You really don’t need to use words.”
• Misconception 12. “Not all believers are expected to evangelize, just those gifted in evangelism.”
• Misconception 13. “Unless you’re willing to turn from your sins, you can’t be saved.”
• Misconception 14. “If you don’t love your brother or sister in Christ, then you’re not saved.”
• Misconception 15. “If you come to Me, I’ll make you both healthy and wealthy.”
• Misconception 16. “If you come to Me, I want either all of your life or none of it.”
• Misconception 17. “Since I, God, am sovereign and will save whomever I choose, I don’t need your help.”
• Misconception 18. “To reach a cultist, you have to know what the cult believes.”
• Misconception 19. “If you’re not willing to confess Me publicly, you can’t be saved.”
• Misconception 20. “You shouldn’t witness until your life is all it should be. You could do more harm than good.”
• Misconception 21. “I’m disappointed with your results in evangelism. You haven’t led many people to Me.”
• Appendix: “May I Ask You a Question?” Tract
• Endnotes