Healing from Anxiety

Laurent Lacherez, Kouassi Koffi Jean-Paul Richard

• Publisher: FV éditions
• Year: 2018
• eBook ISBN: 9781547540525
• Topic: Développement personnel
• Subtopic: Santé mentale et bien-être

Laurent Lacherez, NLP therapist (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and author of the best-sellers L'anxiété, comment s'en sortir and L'Art de l'âcher prise, offers you now, Healing from Anxiety, to succeed in your life.
As soon as anxiety appears, you lose your full ability to act in the desired direction and you feed worry at the expense of intent.  In order to regain the upper hand on anxiety, I have developed this book to offer you reflections and solutions divided into three main themes:
1.  Get out of the vicious circle
Understanding how you are trapped in anxiety and how it works is the first step to getting out of this vicious circle.
2.  Counterattacking Anxiety
Learn to better manage your fears.  By giving less importance to your anxieties, you will develop more realistic ideas and a philosophy of life that will restore your confidence.
3.  From paralysis to action
Taking control of your life will make it easier for you to feel good about yourself and others.  You increase your confidence and take action more easily by adapting to situations.

PART ONE

The Vicious Circle Of Anxiety

1

Did you say anxious, me ?

Anxiety manifests itself in different forms, depending on the people and the way they experience it.

According to the Diagnostic Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-IV), symptoms related to anxiety are recurrent, often irrational concerns in the form of negative thoughts, difficult to concentrate and live in the present moment, agitation and excitement that is difficult to control, headaches, chest, stomach or throat pains, sweating or hot flushes, breathing that cuts itself off, difficult to sleep, a regular state of fatigue, etc.

I stop here, this non-exhaustive list because some of you may already feel their fears back... And yet, what if this is a possible solution ?

People suffering from anxiety tend to reject and flee this unpleasant state by exercising greater and greater control over it and at the same time, exhausting to better keep at bay this stranger who wants so much to harm them.

However every emotion, pleasant or unpleasant, has a reason for being, but which one ?

I will always remember a client who defined the way she experienced her anxiety as fear of fear and did everything in her power to keep her own anxieties away from her.

What a paradox ! To want to control what can't be. Not surprising to be so tired at the end of the day (if not already in the morning when you get up), when you are constantly struggling against yourself because your fears very often represent a part of you that manifests itself against your will in an irrational way. It's trying to make you understand something...

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How about you start getting to know this stranger that lives inside your body ? Perhaps by talking and listening to him, you will learn what his intentions are ?

Unless you've been discovering unsatisfied desires and dreams for years now ?

It is by becoming aware of the goals and messages that your fears are trying to reveal to you that you will be able to use them to change your behaviors and achieve the life you want!

On the other hand, if you have everything you need in your life - which may be different from what you want - your anxiety may well be answered elsewhere... in the past.

One of the two things:

Either you have experienced during your childhood and adolescence a series of events which, because of their emotional similarities, end up filling the vase with water until the day when it overflows, your tolerance limit having reached its limit. The flow of your anguish then pours out of all control and for no apparent reason.

Either, as the psychogenealogy reveals, you have inherited the fears of your parents or grandparents who have permeated you.

In both cases, if you wish to resolve your anxiety disorders, I can quickly help you deprogram this imprint and transform your anxieties into strengths. Between living in fear or freely, what do you choose ?

2

Mental Health : The ideas I have for myself

The mind is a real chatterbox. It works, so to speak, continuously and does not stop thinking, creating ideas that scroll through our head. We think about all sorts of things as we drink coffee in the morning, brush our teeth, eat, drive and so on. All these everyday activities, which have become banal and automatic, no longer really require our attention and then offer a great opportunity for the mind to wander.

If you've ever tried spying on him, you've probably noticed how his imagination is fertile, overflowing and sometimes so convincing that he can make us take bladders for lanterns! As a result, a completely invented scenario, based on certain fears and certain elements of our memories, can end up making us believe that something will happen, something bad, something unpleasant. To believe this without a magnifying glass is premature, insofar as the mind plays a trick on you, making you believe that your future will be the reproduction of your past. Becoming aware of this makes you realize how much this false logic implies that you surely believe you are a victim that you are suffering your condition and that something serious will indeed happen in your life. Some people do react in this way and believe the ideas they make in their heads so that they become reality. Others, on the other hand, confront these scenarios to better face them and choose to think what is most useful.

An anxiety crisis, just like an economic crisis or a crisis in the couple, invites us to reconsider our attitude in order to develop new behaviors, better adapted to the situation experienced in the present moment. It is therefore out of the question to believe that the future is the reproduction of certain past events and to let your mind wander in such elucubrations. It is time to wake up, to connect to what is happening right here and now; bringing your mind back into the present by observing what is happening and using your rational to validate the ideas formulated. Being aware of your attitude in a delicate moment offers a rich opportunity to assess the relevance of your thoughts, emotions and reactions while freeing them from possible links to past wounds. Reacting in conscience rather than according to past conditioning requires reconsideration of what you believe in and the utility that flows from it. You can turn a crisis into an opportunity for better mental health.

Let us recall that the World Mental Health Organization defines this term as follows:

"A person in good mental health is a person who is able to adapt to various situations of life, made of frustrations and joys, difficult times to go through or problems to solve. A person in good mental health is therefore someone who feels confident enough to adapt to a situation to which he or she cannot change anything or to work to change it if possible. This person lives his daily life free from fears or old wounds that could contaminate his present and disturb his vision of the world. In addition, someone in good mental health is able to experience pleasure in his or her relationships with others. In short, good mental health means achieving a balance between all aspects of one's life: physical, psychological, spiritual, social and economic. It's not something static, it's something that fluctuates across a continuum, like physical health.

According to this definition, mental health is therefore not simply something acquired, a gift at the birth of Mother Nature, but rather a state of mind and a philosophy of life offering the possibility of apprehending its existence in its many dimensions, in awareness and with the conviction that you have a certain power of action on your mental health.

3

Internal Conflicts

Shared by a multitude of desires, responsibilities, commitments, it is sometimes more and more difficult to remain attentive to our deep truths, and to hear what our little inner voice whispers in the hollow of our ear.

Whether it is a person who, in contradiction to his education, sees himself repressed by his homosexual tendency, an employee who struggles against himself to go daily to his job which he hates but with precious advantages, a young woman prey to the fear of jumping into the unknown and going abroad to perfect her English, a man wishing to change sex to better live his conviction of being a woman, all these people live an inner tear, a tension leading to a struggle with themselves generating anxiety and discomfort. How do you reconcile with yourself ?

It is certainly necessary to distinguish at least two types of conflict. There are those who act on us as a kind of tension between two polarities, one is harmful in the long term to our quality of life and for others as well. This form of disharmony, far from being paralysing, is an invitation to surpass oneself to improve. In other words, it suggests changing a behavior, a trend, a trait that harms us. It is in the discomfort of the feeling of duality in oneself that one can really become aware of one's power to attenuate parts of ourselves that displease us and are identified as elements harmful to one's happiness. In general, this manifests itself in the impression that we can do better, that we are capable of more, that it is not really us and that we can be a person of greater...

Table of contents

• Title Page
• Copyright
• Contents
• Before Proposals
• PART ONE
• PART TWO
• PART THREE
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