Let All the Little Children Come to Me

Malesa Breeding, Jerry E. Whitworth, Dana Hood, Jerry Whitworth

• Publisher: David C Cook
• Year: 2013
• ISBN:
  9781434704528
• Topic: Théologie et religion
• Subtopic: Religion

It is said that everyone has a story to tell, a voice that deserves to be heard. There are many thousands of children with special needs who have long been ignored, rejected and excluded from our schools, our communities, and, sadly, from our Bible classes. We believe that these children are loved deeply and completely by our Lord and that they too are called to come unto Him.

This book speaks to the heart and to the head. Teachers and pastors will find inspiration and information, reminding them that God calls us to include all children, no matter the challenge. In addition, the book includes wonderfully practical elements with many ideas that can be easily integrated into any classroom. By combining philosophy and strategies, this book will equip the typical church volunteer teacher to meet the needs of all the children in her classroom.

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Salvation Belongs to Everyone

What is our responsibility to the child with a disability? These children don’t always fit into the structure that we have created for those who can sit in a chair, listen without interrupting, and participate appropriately. I grew up thinking that God loved “these people” and that because of His love for them, they were saved. I still believe that to be true to the extent that it is true for you and me. We are saved by the grace and love of God. I recognize that salvation and the unfolding of God’s plan for me has given my life extraordinary meaning. To believe that children with disabilities are simply saved by virtue of their disability robs these children of the richness that a relationship with Jesus brings. Furthermore, it gives us a great excuse to shirk our responsibility as a Christian to them. This chapter deals with the age-old confusion that we experience over salvation as it relates to people with disabilities and my personal journey that began with resisting the notion that children with severe disabilities could be taught about the concept of God.

A few days later, when Jesus again entered Capernaum, the people heard that he had come home. So many gathered that there was no room left, not even outside the door, and he preached the word to them. Some men came, bringing to him a paralytic, carried by four of them. Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus and, after digging through it, lowered the mat the paralyzed man was lying on. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”—Mark 2:1–5

The Bible story on the previous page is heavy with meaning. When Jesus saw the paralyzed man, He didn’t see his disability first. Instead Jesus saw in this man the same thing He sees in each of us. He saw a person for whom there was a plan of salvation. Jesus wanted this man to know that he was a child of God. His sins had been forgiven. Jesus looked into the man’s heart, not at his body. Jesus made no judgment about the man’s past. He didn’t even ask the man about his sins. Jesus simply forgave the man. Salvation belongs to everyone.

We’ve spent a lot of time with that concept lately. If salvation belongs to everyone, then what is our responsibility to those people who learn differently? What would Jesus say? Would He say that because children learn differently or because they have behavior problems that they are exempt from His plan of salvation? How do we become more like Jesus? How do we look past the distorted body, the bizarre behaviors, the empty language, and look straight into a child’s heart? Regardless of our expertise or experience working with people who have physical and mental disabilities, we all still struggle from time to time. But in those moments when we are compelled to look upon the heart of a child with a disability we’ll see a person who is a child of God—not because he or she has a disability—but because that child is a human being.

This mother has lost her mind! That was the thought that flooded me as I sat in the board meeting. I had received a call from a mother of a child with autism a few weeks prior to that meeting. She invited me to attend the first board meeting of a newly-forming family support ministry called King David’s Kids.

King David’s Kids was in its infancy. I had agreed that my students and I would work with the special needs children while the parents met for support. Without the guarantee that a group of volunteers would keep these children, the parents’ support group could not move forward. These volunteers couldn’t be just any volunteers: They had to understand the nature of developmental disabilities; they had to be willing to work with the children in a large group; and they had to be willing to come back the following week.

My students are graduate students in communication disorders. They could gain a lot from the experience of working with children with developmental disabilities. Yet in this board meeting I was having second thoughts about my decision to volunteer my students and myself. The same mother who had asked me to join the board was now presiding over the meeting. She boldly presented the ministry’s first mission statement: “To teach the love of Jesus Christ to children with special needs.”

I had met these special needs children. Most of the children had autism. Some had Down syndrome. Others had rare disorders such as DeGeorge syndrome and Pierre Robin syndrome. Two of the children had severe cerebral palsy and were medically fragile. These children had serious issues.

Had this mother lost her mind? Did she know anything at all about children with autism? Perhaps I could get her to read some articles on “Theory of Mind.” She needed to understand that children with autism can’t take someone else’s perspective. These children can’t have relationships with other human beings. How were my students and I supposed to teach them to have a relationship with Jesus?

“Had this mother lost her mind?”

Resistance to change takes many forms. My form of resistance was to intellectualize this new notion that was presented to me—the concept that children with autism (and other disorders) could have a relationship with Jesus. To have a relationship with a man who lived and died 2,000 years ago requires a great deal of abstract thinking—belief in the Spirit and faith in the unseen. I could cite articles and texts—many of which support the idea that children with autism could not be taught the abstraction of a spiritual relationship. These children are literal thinkers. They can’t deal with what they do not see and experience for themselves.

I decided to move forward with this project anyway. I decided that I didn’t have much to lose. Even if the children didn’t learn much about God, they would be loved and treated well while their parents met for support. Even if these children didn’t learn much about God, my graduate students would have had the opportunity to work with a population of children they wouldn’t have otherwise seen. The children and I embarked upon a journey that has become the mission of my heart.

Today, I watch as Jeffrey reads a portion of the story about Jonah. I smile when Maria requests her favorite song “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands.” A few weeks ago Maria went around the room with a Ken doll (who is dressed up like Jesus) and to each child in the room she said, “Jesus loves Harold, Jesus loves Jeffrey, and Jesus loves Maria.”

I believe God sent these children into my life and my students’ lives. These children have become our teachers. They have taught us about how normal they are in spite of their odd behaviors. They have taught us about their sense of humor (and about ours as well). They are not only capable of learning about God, but they are deserving of it by virtue of their birth.

Thank You, God, for the children of King David’s Kids. Their lives have been given purpose by You and they have been faithful to it. You sent me teachers in the form of children. I would have resisted all others. Amen.

The Experts Speak

The Special Needs Child and Spiritual Growth

Very little has been written about children with disabilities and their spiritual development. What has been written suggests that spirituality is not necessarily dependent upon intellect. Anna Giesenberg (2000) has suggested that spirituality may be an innate feature of the human condition.

All too often, we assume that a child must express his knowledge of our faith in order to have a spiritual relationship with God. Reciting the books of the Bible, reading Scripture, and memorizing songs are all examples of a child’s cognition (what a child knows). For many of us, the expectation is that children will demonstrate a certain level of cognition before we accept that their relationship with God is possible. But what about the child who can’t read? What about the child who can’t attend to the Bible story or the child who doesn’t speak or hear? Must these children demonstrate the same levels of cognition in order to have a relationship with God? Is it possible, in other words, for Angela to understand God’s love if she hasn’t memorized the books of the Bible? Yes. Does that mean that I shouldn’t expect Angela to ever learn the books of the Bible? No. It is important to remember that Angela may not learn the books of the Bible at the same time other children her age learn them—and that she doesn’t have to in order to grow in the love of the Lord.

A few months ago during our church service, we stood to recite the Lord’s Prayer, as is the custom for our congregation. I am always moved by the Lord’s Prayer, but this day I felt especially inspired as my own voice was overshadowed by a beautiful chorus of men’s voices from behind me. I was so taken by the sound of these voices lifting up the words we were taught to pray over 2,000 years ago that I became silent just so I could hear them. As we ended the prayer and took our seats, I looked over my shoulder. What I saw brought tears to my eyes. In the row behind me sat five men, all of whom are known to have developmental disabilities and reside in an assisted living home. They were blessing me!

There is a beautiful lesson in this for all of us. Spiritual development is a life-long process. If Angela can’t recite the books of the Bible today, take heart. It doesn’t mean she will never learn them. Nor does it mean that she can’t move forward in her spiritual growth.

“Families…need more than our prayers. They need to see us embrace their children.”

Families of Special Needs Children and the Church

Belva Collins (2001) and her colleagues have written that families who have religious ties tend to have better coping skills in dealing with the added stress that is often present when children have disabilities. Louise Jones (1997) is the mother of a child with a disability and the co-author of Extraordinary Kids. In this book she suggests that parents of disabled children are not likely to visit a church without an invitation or knowledge that a program exists for their kids. These families have endured too many disappointments to assume that anyone, even the church, will accept their children. Many have been hurt by someone in the church and are understandably skeptical. It isn’t likely that, if they have been rejected by one church, they will try another one next Sunday.

The experts suggest that the religious community has a responsibility to children with disabilities and their families. Special needs children must be taught strategies that will enable them to apply their religious practice into their daily lives, even if they fail to understand abstract concepts. Families of these children need more than our prayers. They need to see us embrace their children as we welcome them into Bible class. They need to know that their children will be safe and happy while they are there. Finally, these families need to know that we believe their children are deserving of the joy and hope that faithfulness brings.

How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? —Romans 10:14

Voices from the Classroom

It is one thing to speak philosophically about how children belong in our Bible classes. It is another thing to actually do it. Casey, Angela, Harry, and Anna have taught me a lot about how to teach children with developmental disabilities. Let’s examine each of their cases as voices from the classroom.

Casey

Casey enters the hallway from the outer door. He is screaming with his hands held over his ears. This is Casey’s usual entrance into King David’s Kids. His adult buddy escorts Casey into a small room nearby. In this room Casey’s buddy shows him a “social story” that says, “I will stop screaming. Now I am ready to play.” The words have pictures above them so that Casey can interpret the written message as it is read to him...