The Myth Of The Nice Girl

Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate

Fran Hauser

• Publisher: Harper Business
• Year: 2018
• Print ISBN: 9781328592828
• eBook ISBN: 9781328832979
• Topic: Business
• Subtopic: Business Communication
• Index: Business

An Amazon Best Business Book of 2018

Selected by Audible as the Best Business Book of 2018

Named “Best New Book” by People Magazine and Refinery29

Named a Most Anticipated Title of April 2018 by Bustle and Levo

A Women@Forbes “Boss Moves Book Club” pick

A candid guide for ambitious women who want to succeed without losing themselves in the process
 
Fran Hauser deconstructs the negative perception of "niceness" that many women struggle with in the business world. If women are nice, they are seen as weak and ineffective, but if they are tough, they are labeled a bitch.

Hauser proves that women don’t have to sacrifice their values or hide their authentic personalities to be successful. Sharing a wealth of personal anecdotes and time-tested strategies, she shows women how to reclaim “nice” and sidestep regressive stereotypes about what a strong leader looks like. Her accessible advice and hard-won wisdom detail how to balance being empathetic with being decisive, how to rise above the double standards that can box you in, how to cultivate authentic confidence that projects throughout a room, and much more.

THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL is a refreshing dose of forward-looking feminism that will resonate with smart, professional women who know what they want and are looking for real advice to take their career to the next level without losing themselves in the process.

Index

A | B | C | D | E | F | G | H | I | J | K | L | M | N | O | P | Q | R | S | T | U | V | W | X | Y | Z

A

accountability buddies, 49

Advertising Women of New York, 142

A-hole tax, 122–24

airplane view, 162

Alicia (mentee), 135, 140, 141–42, 143, 147

ambition and likeability, 19–40

competence and status, 38–39

creating opportunities, 31–32

people pleasing, 32–38

stepping up, 26–31

taking credit, 22–26

for women vs. men, 19–21

amygdala, 72

Animal Planet, 16

Anna (mentee), 126–27

AOL, 6, 10, 27, 33–34, 36, 38, 57, 122–23, 129–30, 185

apologizing too much, 48–49

Art & Fear (Bayles and Orland), 101

“ask me anything” (Mogul feature), 188

assertiveness

communicating bad news and, 79

speaking up and, 42–45, 52

authenticity, 12–13, 14, 77

B

bad news, communicating, 79

BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement), 124–25

Bayles, David, 101

Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (BATNA), 124–25

The Big Life (Shoket), 188

Blakely, Sara, 103–4

board of directors, personal, 178

body language, 62–64, 76–77, 79

boundaries, 151–69

“the creep,” avoiding, 162–63

emotional, 59–60

Four Square Model, 154–58

“kind no,” 164–66

setting, in career square, 158–63

sweet spot between yes and no, 167–69

time sucks, getting rid of, 163–64

brain, female vs. male, 70–73

bullies. See nice girl vs. the bully

buy-in from colleagues, 3, 31–32

C

Caine, Paul, 139

camouflaging, 43, 47, 62–63, 64

Canavari, Susan, 180–81

Carlos (Layla’s colleague), 52–54

Carnegie Mellon University, 113

Carter, Chrissy, 99–100

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Table of contents

• Title Page
• Contents
• Copyright
• Dedication
• Author’s Note
• Nice Is Your Superpower
• Be Ambitious and Likeable
• Speak Up Assertively and Nicely
• Give Feedback Directly and Kindly
• Make Decisions Firmly and Collaboratively
• Negotiate with Strategy and Empathy
• Invest in Yourself and Be a Team Player
• Set Boundaries and Be Caring
• Multiply Your Superpower
• Acknowledgments
• Notes
• Index
• About the Author
• Connect with HMH