When we think and write about the use of dwelling, we find that we focus on the actions we undertake and not the object containing them. Dwelling is not an object we hold. It holds us. And, this allows us to look elsewhere. We do not focus on housing when we are using it. We do not spend our time observing and commenting on it, looking at the décor or comparing it with other dwellings. We use the fridge and washbasin and do not look at them as distinct objects every time we approach them. We focus on what matters to us while relying on the utility of the fridge and the washbasin. We can do this because this place and the things in it are just where we expect them to be. These things remain in place. So, when we focus on the use of housing, the last thing we consider is the brick box and certainly not the means we have for accessing it and paying for it. Dwelling only works when we can take all this for granted.
And, this means that when we write about dwelling as it is used, we should likewise expect it – the object – to disappear as we focus on the singularity of our use of what are subsidiary elements to fulfilling our interests. In attending to the use of our dwelling, we lose sight of it as the object that encloses this subjective experience. We stop looking at the dwelling and focus on what we do inside it. When we are using our dwelling, it becomes opaque to our consciousness. Housing is just the background. It is just as necessary – we cannot live without it – but we do not live for it.
We have to take very seriously the fact that the use of dwelling takes place behind closed doors and with the curtains drawn. It is not meant to be observed and reduced to calculation. It is private and only operates when it remains so. To open it up to public scrutiny is to destroy what makes dwelling work.
But how then can we think and write about it properly? Can we ever get to the subjective without destroying it? How can we describe what cannot be observed publicly? Perhaps we can never do it fully, and for some, this might mean we should not even try.
However, I want to suggest a way in which we can address the subjective appreciation of dwelling in a manner that retains its essential subjectivity. We can do it simply by focusing on how we – and I mean here the particular thinker and writer – use our dwelling. In other words, the way to properly appreciate the subjective use of dwelling is by describing and analysing how I use my own dwelling and what happens as a result of this use.1
1 I can imagine there will be an immediate response to this statement along the lines that this is a white middle-class male view. I want to deal briefly with that objection. Any such statement carries within it the assumptions that simply stating the view that the author belongs to a particular subset of society makes them representative of that group. The effect of this labelling then is to devalue or discredit their argument without having actually to engage with the detail of it. The author is simply guilty of whatever vices that particular subset is prey to. It is assumed that membership of this subset determines one’s thoughts and actions, so allowing identification of membership of that subset to determine the response needed to whatever argument they might put forward. But to hold these two assumptions about members of this sub-set is, of course, to fall foul of these assumptions oneself. How does the reader know the author is typical of this sub-set unless the reader is already carrying within them a set of deterministic presuppositions? Therefore, the proper response to those who insist on pigeonholing an author as representative of a particular set of views is to politely request that they first examine their own prejudices and, having cleared their minds of these, then get on with the business of reading what is there rather than what they presume to be present. The subjective, so to speak, is not merely within us: we are within it. We can never get outside of it or beyond it. We can either accept the subjective or continue with our delusions. But these delusions do not take us out of the subjective. The subjective focuses on what is meaningful to us rather than what is merely quantifiable. It relates to the specificity of things we use rather than what is general and standardised. It helps us focus on quality rather than merely concerning ourselves with what is measurable. As such, to deny the subjective is to empty the world of all that is meaningful to us. It takes away love, caring, solidarity, altruism, affection and emotion.
In emphasising the subjective, I do not wish to assert that there is no objective world independent of our experience of it. There is an objective world, but we can never experience it as purely objective. There is a tendency to see the subjective and objective as opposites that are mutually exclusive, where being objective means that we reject the subjective. But this is too simplistic. There is a place for a cold and value-free examination of the object world. But we do not want this always or even most of the time. Detached examination should be reserved for particular occasions that call for the disinterested observer. But most of the time, in our relations with others, in the setting of our personal goals and in our relations with things close to us, an entirely or even predominantly objective approach would be counter-productive and even harmful. It is the difference between falling in love with that one particular person and going in search of a mate.
Where the objective dominates, there is a tendency to downgrade those elements of our lives that really matter and carry the greatest weight. We put these at the periphery by focusing on what can be quantified as if the process by which we garner knowledge is more important than the knowledge itself. But in doing so, we tend to forget that subjectivity is the default position for most of us, most of the time. It is the objective gaze that is the aberration from the norm, the oddity. Real life, what we commonly call ‘lived experience’, is subjective. Reality is determined by the subjective. Real life is where we make no attempt to control the variable, perhaps where we do not even recognise that there are variables to control.
But we can go further. We cannot devise a statement on the importance of the objective without relating it to the subjective. Any such statement must ultimately rest on a subjective interpretation, belief or claim based on some thought that either we have had ourselves or taken in and then interpreted. There is simply no way in which we can assert that a belief or thought has been derived objectively. For example, we might suggest that logical positivism, which denies meaning to any question incapable of verification, is itself based on subjective assumptions about the nature of the world and its meaningfulness.
It is fair to say that no one goes so far as to deny the existence of the subjective. What tends to happen though is attempts to control it, limit it and bind it by objective criteria. The subjective can be studied by some externally verifiable means that open it up to measurement. But we might ask, is the decision to control the subjective and rely solely or mainly on objective criteria itself an objective decision? On what basis do we decide on the necessity of the objective? The limits of the objective are determined subjectively and this, of course, means that the limits of the subjective themselves are not objective. This is not to say that our mind is closed off to the external. The point is rather that we can only view the world through a subjective lens.
We presume that the objective is the same for everyone, but we know that facts are often disputed. We know that the apparently objective is not immune to conflict and differing interpretations. This is because we each perceive what we take to be objective very differently. In other words, we view it subjectively.
Indeed, subjectivity is not necessarily distinct from rationality. One can be rational and subjective. We should see rationality as a process – the means by which we determine what action it would be reasonable for us to take. But we start from a particular set of beliefs or reasons, which can be derived either objectively or subjectively. In this regard, rationality can be the tool of our subjectivity. Subjectivity need not be woolly and imprecise. There can be a rigour in self-examination and reflection. We can be hard on ourselves. Indeed, only we can be truly hard on ourselves. We cannot hide things from ourselves in the manner we can from other people.
The difficulty for any subjective approach is that there can be no unmediated external access to the subject. The subjective can only ever be known to that subject. What someone else thinks and feels and so takes as meaningful about their dwelling, or anything else, cannot be known directly by anyone else. This knowledge cannot be transferred without using language (or some other medium such as pictures) and the ability of the subject to articulate what is inside them accurately and correctly (and what possible way have we of determining accuracy and correctness here?). The external observer has to trust what the subject says about the state of their thoughts and feelings and be able to interpret them in a manner that has a high degree of commonality with the subject. We have to know that we both mean the same thing and we can never be sure of this.
Yet we also have to admit that we share the same mental equipment. Each of us is a thinking human subject. We have a self, a mind, a consciousness or whatever we might choose to call it. We are the same in terms of our biology, psychology and brain chemistry and general capacity to learn. In other words, we have similar hardware and software, even if it might operate more or less effectively in each of us. The fact that we can learn language, talk to and understand each other is absolutely fundamental here. We all have similar emotions and anxieties. We show anger, joy, lust and passion, which are all generated internally and which act on us distinctly. No one in this sense is unique and so there is every reason to suggest that we are using the same processes and going through the same operations as everyone else. Admittedly, we can only surmise this, but it is reasonable to do so.
This means that when I write about my subjective experience of dwelling, about what it means to live with those I choose to share my life with, in an enclosed space where all others are excluded, I can have a degree of confidence that it will resonate with others. They may not agree with some or all of my reasoning or my conclusions, but they will be able to recognise, in general terms, the place from which I am arguing. This is because they too occupy a similar subjective space with those they choose to include in their exclusive domain. We can then make comparisons based on this mutual familiarity with private space, even though each private space remains opaque to any external and supposedly objective gaze. This then provides us with the possibility of making statements about how we use dwelling and what it may mean to us. We will not be able to weigh or measure these statements. We can merely compare them with statements and descriptions made by others concerning their private dwelling. But the fact that we all share this common activity of private dwelling makes comparison not only possible but meaningful.
Having established an approach, I now turn to the substantive purpose of this essay. Much of the discussion here is on what I refer to as dwelling. It is an understanding of this concept which will help answer my initial question. But I wish to begin by considering what housing is not, with what I see as the fundamental problem that has to be dealt with before we can fully appreciate what housing is.