The Fourth Degree of Prayer

Michael C. Voigts

• Publisher: Cascade Books
• Year: 2022
• Print ISBN: 9781532688799, 9781532688805
• eBook ISBN: 9781532688812
• Topic: Theology & Religion
• Subtopic: Religion

For many of us, prayer is something we know we should do, yet it's the one means of connecting with God most intimidating to us. In this book, Michael C. Voigts presents the ultimate expression of prayer not as something we do, but as part of our very nature. Prayer is more than merely praying. Communication with God involves our entire lives. This book follows a four-stage process which begins with love for God and culminates in life in God. Grounded in Scripture and the witness of those in historic Christianity, this ecumenical approach to prayer fuses theology and experience with conversational, accessible language and ideas.

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Do We Love God?

According to a 2019 Pew Research report, 65 percent of Americans consider themselves Christians. This is down twelve percent over similar studies a decade earlier.1 Similarly, a 2021 Gallup study revealed that for the first time in the organization’s history, membership of churches, synagogues, and mosques dropped in the United States below 50 percent of the population.2 Of course, religious identity is not the same as religious commitment. Greater still is the discrepancy between religious commitment and personal love for one’s deity. The concept of loving God seems simple enough, especially in light of proponents of prosperity gospels, who preach that God rewards faithful people with financial benefits, contentment, peace, and the like. However, when understood in its fullest sense, the idea of loving God becomes more complex than merely expressing positive affection towards God. A relationship with God based on fear, obedience, and/or responsibility can only get us so far in a substantive, intimate relationship with the Lord. Without a deep love for God, we may find it difficult to engage in formative, prayerful conversations with God. Therefore, before we can move forward in discussing the potential depths of prayer in our lives, we have to begin with a general examination of the depths to which we love God right now.

What is “Love”?

The word love has become somewhat meaningless today. We love movies, pizza, God, sports teams, families, a nation, and other meaningful aspects of our lives, yet these uses for “love” have become so highly nuanced that the word itself becomes meaningless to us. Movies make us emotional. Pizza fills our taste buds with pleasure. God brings us completeness. Sports teams help us feel connected with others. Families and nations give us a sense of identity. The one similarity in all these life aspects is that they are self-referenced. They begin with ourselves and return to ourselves. When our love for God and our love for pizza both bring pleasure to our lives (albeit in different aspects), we must ask the question: Do we really know how to love God?

In the Old Testament, the word ahavah, commonly translated as “love,” does not connote a feeling one has towards someone else. Instead, the direction is away from ourselves and into the life of someone else. It implies the idea of breathing for someone else. Ahavah is not a noun, but a verb. It is about giving of our time and efforts for someone else, forsaking how that might affect us. In Deuteronomy 6:5, we’re instructed to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your souls and with all your strength.” Jesus refers to this passage in Matthew 22:37. It’s clear that this use of the word love is not emotive, but active. This activity may begin with simple obedience, but by God’s grace, it transitions into an all-encompassing motivation of our lives.

A true, biblical understanding regarding love for God is certainly not a self-referenced phenomenon (as our love for pizza might be). Love for God is beyond ourselves, manifest in our capacity to be a light in a dark world (Matthew 5:14), and offers spiritual fruit to nourish others (Galatians 5:22-23). Given this definition, when I look at various societies in the world (both secular and Christian), it seems pretty clear to me that not only do many of us not love God, we do not know how to love God. As we examine a life of prayer, our capacity to pray is directly related to the depth of our love for God.

One Way of Measuring Our Love for God

Because prayer is acutely connected with one’s love for God, it may serve us to examine one person’s approach to understanding human capacity to love God. In the twelfth century, Frenchman Bernard of Clairvaux wrote a small treatise entitled On Loving God. Some have called this little work the definitive extra-biblical text on human love for the Trinitarian God. Bernard writes that there are four progressive stages, or degrees, in how we love God. Every person, regardless of her or his knowledge of God or relationship with God, falls into one of these stages. As the Holy Spirit develops our love for God, we move from one stage to another.

In the first degree of love for God, Bernard writes that we love ourselves for the sake of ourselves. In this stage, individuals are focused solely on themselves in order to better themselves in the world. This may involve vocational/professional pursuits, sensual pleasures, material goods, or even simple egoism. People in this stage may appear to care for others, but it is only for their own selfish desires. Modern church growth scholars have coined these people as “unchurched” or “pre-Christian,” although persons at this level may have been raised in the church but left it for the pursuit of their own accomplishments and desires. These people place themselves at the center of their world in order to accomplish that which will have the most benefit to themselves and their own life mission. In order to do this, people in this stage focus on self-improvement in any form: education, physical fitness, monetary security, family stability, entertainment, or other supposed ways to improve our standing, reputation, or happiness in the world.

While a focus on God does not play a role in this first degree, Bernard includes this as a degree of love for God due to his understanding of the nature of humanity: the imago Dei. When we love ourselves for the sake of ourselves, we make ourselves the god of our lives, for we become the center of our existence. We want other people to agree with us because we know better than they do. We strive to attain all this world has to offer, so we go into debt in order to have the latest material goods we believe will improve our lives. Deep down we know these products and electronic devices will not cure the emptiness of our hearts, but since our highest ideal is ourselves, we believe the lie.

When Steve Jobs introduced the first Apple iPad in 2010, he spent ninety minutes lauding how the iPad would change the lives of everyone who used it. He believed the iPad would positively affect the lives of everyone who owned one. He described it as “more intimate than a laptop, and so much more capable than a smartphone.”3 What Jobs didn’t share to the adoring crowd is that he wouldn’t allow his own children use one.4 Although Jobs and others in the tech world understand the myth of technology, they disingenuously praise the products they make, knowing that technology can never help us move beyond ourselves and our desire for self-actualization.

When advertising campaigns encourage us to extend our personalities into the products we own, we move ourselves away from our humanity. Because we falsely identify ourselves by merchandise brands, sports teams, or social status, we actually move away from God in our disregard for our actual identity as the imago Dei. Dare I mention, the same false identity occurs when we identify ourselves by a sports team, political party, or Christian denomination. Local churches who define themselves by their style, ideology, technology, or even their activities have a misunderstanding of sound ecclesiology, resulting in a false understanding of themselves as the body of Christ. Whether it regards an individual or a congregation, we love ourselves for the sake of ourselves because we don’t really understand ourselves. This makes a life of prayer virtually impossible.

Bernard of Clairvaux describes the second degree of love for God as loving God, but for our own sake. In this stage, we realize that God exists and we desire to have a relationship with God, but it is only to serve our own desires, including a fear of hell, self-fulfillment, or social appearances. Many of the people in this stage are actively involved in a local church and have a contagious Christian witness. What keeps us from moving out of this level of love for God is our concern for the sense of self-completion that a relationship with God brings to our lives.

Authors who encourage readers to find their purpose or mission in life can lead them no further than this degree of love for God, since finding one’s purpose is a self-fulfilling quest. The temptation of denominations is for new Christians to be formed in their own image and traditions rather than forming new disciples in the image of Christ. Unfortunately, many Christians in North America are under the false impression that loving God for our own sake is the pinnacle of the Christian life and love for God. Instead, according to Bernard of Clairvaux, it’s only half of the degree to which we’re able to love God. Loving God in order to get something in return from God is love, but it is a selfish love. This is nothing more than a phrase attributed to Augustine and quoted by Martin Luther: incurvatus in se, or a turning inward upon oneself. Luther identifies this inward focus as the result of original sin.5 A life transformed by Christ has a love for God that turns that person out of oneself, or incurvatus ex se. Until we allow the Holy Spirit into the deepest recesses of our lives, our love for God will be limited to egocentric love.

Since God is love (1 John 4:8), God’s being and activity are united in holy love towards us. Loving God unconditionally is the opposite of this second degree of love for God, in which we place expectations on our love for God. As a Cistercian monk once shared with me, “The moment we expect something from love, we’ve prostituted it.” When our motivation to pray, serve others, or share the gospel is to bring fulfillment to our lives as disciples of Jesus, we’ve read (but haven’t heard) Jesus’ words in Matthew 16:24 to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow him.

Without any doubt, God can use selfish service for God...

Table of contents

• Title Page
• Introduction
• Acknowledgments
• Chapter 1: Do We Love God?
• Chapter 2: The Joy of Self-Discovery (Prayer in the First Degree)
• Chapter 3: Conversation with God (Prayer in the Second Degree)
• Chapter 4: The Rhythm of Prayer (Prayer in the Third Degree)
• Chapter 5: Living Prayer (Prayer in the Fourth Degree)
• Chapter 6: Unintentional Prayer
• Chapter 7: Life in the Eternals
• Bibliography