Part I
Laying the Foundation for C.R.A.F.T. Conversations
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Chapter 1
The C.R.A.F.T. Conversation Difference
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Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.
āMargaret Wheatley, Turning to One Another (2002)
Inside this chapter:
- What Is a C.R.A.F.T. Conversation?
- The Four Cornerstones of C.R.A.F.T. Conversations
- Key Components of a C.R.A.F.T. Conversation
Conversations. How often do you stop and think about them? Can you recall conversations you have had with colleagues, some that were thought-provoking and engaging and others you simply wish you could forget? Can you visualize that one person who always seems to know the right thing to say, at just the right moment, and in just the right place? Meaningful conversations may come naturally to some, but for many people, it takes skill and thoughtful planning to frame conversations that count.
With everything that lies on the educational landscape today, from personalized online learning to professional learning communities (PLCs), there is no question that high-quality conversations are integral to school improvement and success. If you were to ask most school leaders about conversations in their school, they would probably say that conversations occur frequently and across every imaginable setting, from the front office to the bus lane. However, the real question leaders should be asking is this: how many of these conversations really count?
You might be wondering what exactly makes a conversation count. It would be awesome if we could provide you with a checklist of specific criteria, but that's simply not the nature of conversations. To determine whether or not a conversation counts, you must refer back to its intended purpose. What were you trying to achieve? The answer to this question will vary. The one constant is that when it comes to making conversations count, it all begins and ends with people.
The quality of a conversation centers around the people involved. Key conversations that literally changed history are prime examples that show us that some people are just not skilled at crafting successful conversations, whereas others could be deemed naturals. Think about the "smoking gun" conversations that ultimately led to the resignation of President Richard Nixon. He probably had no idea his taped Watergate conversations would lead to his political demise.
By contrast, think about President John F. Kennedy. He was definitely a natural when it came to effective conversations. Following the Soviet Union's launch of Sputnik in 1957, he initiated the "Race to the Moon" in 1961, proclaiming that the United States would be the first nation to put a man on the moon by the end of the decade. Many of his captivating speeches that followed were based on quality conversations he had had with other world leaders. Eight years later, in July of 1969, the Apollo 11 moon-walk mission took place. Imagine the types of conversations that had to occur to make his dream become a reality for the nation!
In the present age of digital communication, championed by such iconic figures as Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg, the nature of conversation has changed significantly. We find ourselves enthralled with abbreviated conversation in various forms: on-screen through e-mail, 280 characters in a tweet, a few hashtags on Instagram, or a Facebook post. Do these conversations count? Millennials and social media fans alike would say yes! However, when we consider today's schools, conversations that count must go deeper. They require a skill set that is people-centered, a mindset that values face-to-face discussion, and a willingness to commit to intentional and purposeful planning, reflection, and follow-up. In other words, conversations that count take quite a bit of craftsmanship.
The word craftsmanship might seem like an odd choice until you take a moment to think about the uncanny power of conversations. They can energize or deflate. They can empower or devalue. They can inspire or create dissension. Every conversation has an infinite amount of potential, and because of that, there is an art to maximizing the moment. As authors, we collectively have more than 80 years of experience working with teachers and school leaders, and if there's one thing we agree upon, it's that conversations matter, and it takes skill to craft conversations that count.
What Is a C.R.A.F.T. Conversation?
What is a C.R.A.F.T. conversation? As presented at the start of this chapter, our definition is simple:
A skillful formal or informal oral exchange to explore perspectives and ideas, uncover misconceptions, and collaboratively problem-solve in a clear, realistic, appropriate, flexible, and timely fashion; a conversation that does one or more of the following: builds capacity, invokes change, promotes collaboration, prioritizes celebration
When you think of the word craft or crafting, a conversation is most likely not the first thing that pops into your mind. You might picture a Pinterest board full of DIY projects or a store like Hobby Lobby or Michaels. You might even picture yourself cleaning up a mess from the kitchen table! To understand what a C.R.A.F.T. conversation is, we must start by defining the word craft and the word conversation.
Craft can be defined as an activity requiring skill or as skill in carrying out one's work. The key word here is skill. A conversation could be defined as an opportunity either between two people or among members of a small group that involves an oral exchange to explore perspectives and ideas, uncover misconceptions, and collaboratively problem-solve. The key phrase here is oral exchange. A C.R.A.F.T. conversation is on a totally different level than a casual conversation. In terms of skill, it's going to take some practice to get it right. In terms of oral exchange, it's time for some face-to-face discussionāand we don't mean FaceTime! As we begin describing the work of crafting conversations, the acronym C.R.A.F.T. illustrates the key points for leaders to focus on in cultivating their skills:
- C = Clear
- R = Realistic
- A = Appropriate
- F = Flexible
- T = Timely
Clear
It's important to present ideas, thoughts, or concerns clearly and concisely. In other words, do not be vague or evasive, and do not muddy the waters with extraneous information. C.R.A.F.T. conversations are always clear and to the point. Feedback within your conversations should be specific. Even though it's nice to hear "Great job," teachers want to know exactly what they did that was so great. Does a teacher need improvement? Let the teacher know what specifically needs to improve. Also, make sure your purpose is clearly set before beginning the conversation. It's hard to make a conversation count when you don't know why you are having it in the first place. When a conversation is clear, teachers and leaders can be fully present, and everyone leaves the conversation knowing exactly what needs to happen next.
Realistic
C.R.A.F.T. conversations are always realistic and should never paint a picture that is not accurate. In other words, be honest; be real. A popular misconception is that honesty and respect can't always go together, especially when the feedback is not going to be easy to hear. Wrong! Honesty doesn't have to be brutal, as the popular perception suggests. This book will show you how honesty and respect can go hand in handāand how they can play a critical role in teacher growth, your professional relationships, and outcomes for kids.
Be prepared to discuss concrete examples of what you have observed. You should also offer specific suggestions and discuss practical, realistic next steps, including some that your colleague can take right away. However, you must be sure to leave room for choice and for the teacher to have a voice. For instance, let's say you have a teacher with a classroom management issue. Give the teacher some options for next steps. Always ask yourself, "What is within this teacher's reach at this time?" If you have a teacher who is struggling to complete lesson plans from day to day, is it realistic to expect him to implement formative instructional practices right away? Think about each teacher as an individual and let that thought guide you. Goals and action steps should be individualized.
Appropriate
C.R.A.F.T. conversations are appropriate and tailored to the individual teacher. Consider the factors that may affect your conversation. Is this a first-year teacher you are preparing to converse with or is this a 20-year veteran? Is this teacher new to your school or has this teacher taught in the building for a long time? Expectations for each of these teachers would be different, and it is important to get to know the path each person has traveled to ensure your conversations are appropriate for each individual. Appropriateness also applies to the location of your conversation. Location is a key element that is often overlooked. Having the conversation in your office versus the teacher's classroom changes the mood and tone before anyone even speaks.
Flexible
When does a conversation occur? Make sure you consider the teacher's schedule and not just your own. When considering a time for conversations, make sure you never overlook the fact that a day in the life of a teacher is driven, in many cases, by a schedule you likely had a part in creating. If you gave the teacher one planning period to prepare three lessons, perhaps your conversations shouldn't take place during that planning period each time you meet.
When a teacher asks, "Do you have a minute?" take the time to listen if you can, or take the opportunity to schedule a meeting when your schedule allows you to give full attention to the teacher. It is important to be flexible during C.R.A.F.T. conversations. Sometimes your intended purpose is overshadowed by events beyond the control of the teacher, such as a sick child at home; or perhaps during the conversation you discover the teacher does not understand how to unpack a standard. It is perfectly fine to change the direction of a conversation, and in many instances, it is advantageous to do so on the spot.
Timely
C.R.A.F.T. conversations should always be current and timely. If you are having a conversation in April, you should not begin by discussing issues from December. It is important not to wait too long to have conversations with teachers. If you notice something on Monday, don't wait two months to discuss it.
Think about what you are trying to communicate to individual teachers. What is the most important and most urgent information to share? This consideration helps to ensure that your conversations are focused and not too lengthy. After all, one thing that teachers and leaders don't have is the luxury of being able to waste time.
Meeting the Challenge of the C.R.A.F.T. Criteria
Take a moment to reflect on one of the conversations you recently had with one of your teachers. Was it clear, realistic, appropriate, flexible, and timely? It can be challenging to ensure that your conversations meet all the criteria, but through careful planning and reflection, these criteria will become an inherent part of your leadership and communication style. Now that you are familiar with the acronym, it's time to further explore the meaning of C.R.A.F.T. conversations and how they can transform your interactions and communication with your staff.
The Four Cornerstones of C.R.A.F.T. Conversations
Many school leaders spend thousands of dollars on professional development each year because they know that the success of any school is heavily dependent on its teachers. Although trainings, workshops, and PLCs help teachers gather new information and develop their skills, conversations also can lead toward improved teacher quality and efficacy that can support...