About this book
"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people''s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.
Wired for Love is a complete insider's guide to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book presents ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship.
Strengthen your relationship by:
ā¢Creating and maintaining a safe "couple bubble"
ā¢Using morning and evening rituals to stay connected
ā¢Learning to fight so that nobody loses
ā¢Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved
By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a "warring brain" mentality and toward a more cooperative "loving brain" understanding of the relationship. This book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.
While there's no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you can discover how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences to create a lasting intimate connection.
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Table of contents
- Acknowledgments
- Foreword by Harville Hendrix
- Introduction: Wired for Love
- The Couple Bubble: How You Can Keep Each Other Safe and Secure
- The Warring/Loving Brain: How You Can Keep the Love Alive
- Know Your Partner: How Does He or She Really Work?
- Becoming Experts on One Another: How to Please and Soothe Your Partner
- Launchings and Landings: How to Use Morning and Bedtime Rituals
- The Go-To People: How to Remain Available to One Another
- Protecting the Couple Bubble: How to Include Outsiders
- Fighting Well: How to Win by Letting Your Partner Win, Too
- Love Is Up Close: How to Rekindle Love Through Eye Contact
- Live a Happier, Healthier Life: How Your Partnership Can Heal You
- Postscript
- References