When Your Daughter Has BPD

Lobel, Daniel S.

• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
• Year: 2017
• eBook ISBN: 9781626259584

In this groundbreaking book, psychologist Daniel Lobel offers essential skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you understand your daughter's disorder, define appropriate boundaries, put an end to daily emergencies, and rebuild the family's structure from the ground up.

If you have a daughter with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you may feel frustration, shame, and your family may be at the breaking point dealing with angry outbursts, threats, and constant emergencies. You may even feel guilty for not enjoying spending time with your child—but how can you when her behavior is abusive toward you and the rest of your family? You need solid skills you can use now to help your daughter and hold your family together.

In this important guide, you'll learn real solutions and strategies based in proven-effective DBT and CBT to help you weather the storm of BPD and restore a sense of normalcy and balance in your life. You'll find an overview of BPD so you can better understand the driving forces behind your daughter's difficult behavior. You'll discover how you can help your daughter get the help she needs while also setting boundaries that foster respect and self-care for you and others in your family. And, most importantly, you'll learn "emergency parenting techniques" to help you put a stop to abusive patterns and restore peace.

If your daughter has BPD and your family is struggling to make it through each day, this book offers essential skills to help you cope and recover a sense of stability.

Table of contents

• Cover
• Contents
• Introduction 1
• 1. Definitions and Development of BPD 9
• 2. Effects of BPD on the Family 27
• 3. A Primer of Parenting Skills 51
• 4. Step 1: Stop the Bleeding 67
• 5. Step 2: End Codependency and Enabling 83
• 6. Step 3: Healing and Forgiveness 103
• 7. The New Family Structure 121
• 8. What You Can Do to Help Your Daughter 137
• 9. What You Can’t Do to Help Your Daughter 153
• 10. Transgenerational Effects—When Your Child Becomes a Parent 171
• Acknowledgments 187
• References 189