Intimacy After Infidelity

Teagno, Lorie, Solomon, Steven

• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
• Year: 1010
• eBook ISBN: 9781608829675

A Guide to Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy

It''s devastating to discover that the person you trust the most has betrayed you. You''ll be facing some hard questions after learning of your partner''s infidelity. You may choose to rebuild your relationship, or you may decide to move on. Whatever the right decision is for you, this book will help you figure out why your partner betrayed you and decide whether you can remain in your relationship. It will also show you new ways to relate that can help you and your partner become a lasting, loving, and committed couple.

You''ll start by taking a look at the phenomenon of infidelity and the three types of intimacy: self-intimacy, conflict intimacy, and affection intimacy. Then you''ll learn about the three kinds of infidelity—those of fear, of loneliness, and of anger—and what each reveals about your relationship. Then it''s on to practical exercises that can heal emotional wounds and enable you to recover your ability to trust. Even if you decide not to remain with your current partner, the book will help you make wise relationship choices to "affair-proof" your future relationship.

Table of contents

• Contents
• Acknowledgments
• Introduction
• Chapter 1: Now What Do I Do?
• Chapter 2: Companions on this Journey: Couples Who Have Been There
• Chapter 3: The Stages of Love: Why He Betrayed You When He Did
• Chapter 4: The Three Intimacies: The Building Blocks of a Relationship
• Chapter 5: Self-Intimacy: The Bedrock of the Relationship
• Chapter 6: Conflict Intimacy: The Cornerstone of Relationship Resiliency
• Chapter 7: Affection Intimacy: The Foundation of Your Relationship
• Chapter 8: The Three Infidelities: Understanding What Made Your Partner Stray
• Chapter 9: Infidelity of Fear: Running Away from Old Pain
• Chapter 10: Infidelity of Loneliness: Running Toward a Sense of Awakening
• Chapter 11: Infidelity of Anger: Running for Revenge
• Chapter 12: Healing Your Relationship: Instructions for Both of You
• Chapter 13: Loving with Security: Making Your Relationship Infidelity-Safe
• Appendix A: The Emotional Self-Awareness Exercise
• Appendix B: The Initiator-Inquirer Exercise Guidelines
• Appendix C: The I-to-I Maturity Goals Handouts
• Appendix D: A Brief List of Emotions
• Resources
• References