It's Not Your Fault

The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop

Laura K. Connell

• Publisher: Health Communications Inc
• Year: 2023
• Edition: 0
• eBook ISBN:
  9780757324741
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Mental Health & Wellbeing

A guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back along with an exploration of the ways negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem. We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness and opportunities for personal and professional fulfillment. It's Not Your Fault helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. These blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. Rather than teaching tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, the book lovingly guides readers to explore the ways these events have impacted their lives and how this knowledge will help them access true transformation. Readers will be relieved to discover that it's not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead. Those who have been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques know that behavior modification doesn't work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help for the short term, but before long old patterns emerge. Once they decide to get serious about change, however, and stop tweaking habits in the hope it will result in lasting transformation, they can create a life by design instead of default. It takes work, an internal excavation, and Laura comes alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show them how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the life they desire.

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title Page
• Dedication
• Epigraph
• Acknowledgments
• Preface
• Introduction
• Chapter One: Blind Spots
• Chapter Two: Attachment Styles
• Chapter Three: Family Scapegoating
• Chapter Four: Boundaries
• Chapter Five: Dealing with Toxic People
• Chapter Six: Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
• Chapter Seven: Adopting Healthy Coping Mechanisms
• Chapter Eight: Learning to Relax
• Chapter Nine: Stopping Self-Imposed Isolation
• Chapter Ten: Healing Love Addiction
• Chapter Eleven: Letting Go of Escape Fantasies
• Chapter Twelve: Parenting Yourself
• Chapter Thirteen: Forgiving Yourself and Others
• Chapter Fourteen: Cleaning Out Your Closet
• About the Author
• Notes
• Copyright