100 Ways to Love Your Wife

The Simple, Powerful Path to a Loving Marriage

Matt Jacobson

• Publisher: Revell
• Year: 2019
• eBook ISBN:
  9781493419487
• Topic: Theology & Religion

Couples with great marriages know one simple truth: the best marriages are made up of many everyday decisions that say "I love you" rather than those that say "I love me." When we put the other person first, even in little ways, we find true fulfillment.

This book offers husbands powerful, practical, hands-on advice to start applying immediately. Maybe you are just entering into marriage and want to start off on the right foot. Maybe you have made some mistakes along the way and are struggling to connect. Or maybe you want your marriage to go from good to great. Wherever you currently are in your relationship, let Matt Jacobson help you learn how to love your wife well.

Table of contents

• Cover
• Half Title Page
• Title Page
• Copyright Page
• Dedication
• Contents
• 100 Ways to Love Your Wife
• Introduction
• 1. She gave her heart to you. VALUE IT for the sacred treasure it is.
• 2. REACH for her often.
• 3. After a busy week, run a hot bath . . . just for her.
• 4. Ask about her thoughts and dreams.
• 5. Listen when she answers, not because you have to but because the person you cherish is sharing her HEART.
• 6. Romance her before, during, and after the wedding . . . especially after the wedding, after the honeymoon, after the kids start to come, and after they begin to head off to college.
• 7. Buy her the best chocolate you can afford and keep her stash well stocked!
• 8. Shower together every chance you get.
• 9. Tell her you really appreciate the dinner she made or that baking effort every time.
• 10. Kiss every day, but more importantly, kiss with passion—every time you kiss.
• 11. Send her away . . . because you love her!
• 12. Hold her close, until she feels the STRENGTH of your conviction.
• 13. She’s confusing you again, isn’t she?
• 14. You’ve removed your clothes, but have you removed the OBSTACLES?
• 15. Surprise her with a spontaneous mini-date.
• 16. Express thanks for the thankless jobs.
• 17. Let her know you see her STRENGTHS and unique gifts, and tell her you value them.
• 18. Make her your accountability partner.
• 19. Tell her often,“You are so beautiful.”
• 20. Take her on a “housekeeping date,” but don’t tell her.
• 21. When it comes to making love, gently ask her what she likes.
• 22. When it comes to making love, gently help her understand what you like.
• 23. When it comes to making love, hold nothing back.
• 24. Speak with gentleness.
• 25. ACCEPT that she thinks differently from you.
• 26. During moments of frustration, NEVER FORGET: what God has put together, let no man tear apart.
• 27. Seek her counsel.
• 28. Listen to her wisdom after you’ve sought her counsel.
• 29. When she returns from the salon, it’s time for you to start talking.
• 30. As a woman, she’s always pouring out, so remember that it’s your job to always pour in.
• 31. NOTICE that new outfit—she’s dressing for you.
• 32. Keep your relationship frisky from the honeymoon to year sixty and beyond!
• 33. The little engine that could needs a little rest.
• 34. From the time the kids are very young, TELL THEM how wonderful their mom is.
• 35. Praise her to parents, family, and friends.
• 36. NEVER make negative comments or inferences or give disapproving vibes about your wife to anyone.
• 37. NEVER put up with even slightly critical comments about your wife from anyone.
• 38. Admire her with your eyes.
• 39. Admire her with your words.
• 40. Banish sarcasm from your speech.
• 41. Plan a stay-at-home date.
• 42. Embrace the reality that the two of you make up one distinct entity.
• 43. You were made STRONG for a reason, so act like a man and shoulder your responsibilities.
• 44. Take the lead.
• 45. NEVER contradict your wife in public.
• 46. It’s movie night at home, but forget Rambo.
• 47. Your anniversary matters, even if she says it isn’t important.
• 48. Write a love note and leave it on her pillow to find later.
• 49. Hold hands.
• 50. Keep your heart at home, even when you travel.
• 51. Pray for her.
• 52. Ask her to pray for you often.
• 53. Your wife’s radiance—her countenance—in large measure is a reflection of how well she is loved by you.
• 54. You don’t own your body.
• 55. Let her satisfy your passion.
• 56. Choose contentment with her.
• 57. Surprise her with a picnic and a stroll afterward—and take care of all the details.
• 58. You’ve shown appreciation and that’s good. Even better to help with the work around the home.
• 59. Helping with the vacuuming isn’t a substitute for romance (for most women).
• 60. Tell her you need her.
• 61. Tell her when you need her.
• 62. NEVER, ever look (interestedly, longingly, lustfully) at another woman with your eyes—or indulge lustful thoughts.
• 63. Get away together.
• 64. Speak words of truth, delivered with gentleness, love, and support.
• 65. Be loyal.
• 66. Show approval by the way you look at her.
• 67. Recognize she’s the weaker vessel and don’t complain about it.
• 68. Make Valentine’s Day irrelevant with expressions of your love all year long.
• 69. Tell her you’ll be faithful forever.
• 70. Act and speak with kindness.
• 71. There is no shame in your “oneness”—be naked together.
• 72. Speak with grace, even (especially!) when she’s not showing grace to you.
• 73. Forgive with a whole heart.
• 74. NEVER mention today what was forgiven yesterday.
• 75. When you disagree, stick to the issue.
• 76. Choose unity—cling to each other in hard times.
• 77. Your responsibility and authority come from God, not from your personal power, so lead humbly.
• 78. BE EXCLUSIVE and don’t keep part of yourself in reserve.
• 79. You’re the conductor on this train.
• 80. Choose to be happy.
• 81. Love your wife by taking precautions to protect yourself.
• 82. Don’t take the bait. Let go of harsh words.
• 83. Be a generous giver of second chances.
• 84. Whatever you plant grows, so what are you planting?
• 85. You were made to initiate.
• 86. A woman doesn’t want to lock the door of her heart, but under the right (wrong!) circumstances, over time she will.
• 87. Stop making the little things important.
• 88. Schedule your weekly date night.
• 89. Don’t expect your wife to make the arrangements for dinner out.
• 90. Come up behind her and kiss her on the back of the neck.
• 91. RESIST the impulse to try to change her.
• 92. Remember your wife’s birthday.
• 93. Go on a cheap date.
• 94. Don’t overreact to her mistakes.
• 95. EVERY TIME you walk in the door, look into her eyes and greet her with a smile.
• 96. Tell her your schedule in advance.
• 97. Ask her if there is something you can do that would say “love” to her.
• 98. Love your wife by drawing near to God.
• 99. Keep the biblical standard and ideal in front of you at all times.
• 100. Make a decision to love.
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