The Attachment Equation

How Your Past Shapes the Love You Create

Lisa Griselda

• Publisher: Heritage Books
• Year: 2025
• eBook ISBN: 9784646464556
• Topic: Psychology
• Subtopic: Personality in Psychology
• Index: Psychology

Your patterns in love are never random. They are shaped by the moments that once protected you, the lessons you absorbed without realising it, and the stories your heart learned to tell long before adulthood. The Attachment Equation unpacks these hidden formulas with warmth, clarity, and compassion.

This book guides you through understanding why you love the way you do, why certain relationships feel familiar, and why some emotional reactions seem automatic. It blends human insight with relationship psychology to help you recognise the roots of your attachment style and, more importantly, how to gently rewrite it.

With honest reflection and practical steps, you'll learn how to create connection from a place of awareness instead of fear, choice instead of habit, and hope instead of old wounds.

Because once you understand your equation, you can finally create the kind of love that feels secure, steady, and truly yours.

 

Table of contents

• Title Page
• Copyright Page
• DISCLAIMER
• INTRODUCTION
• THE SCIENCE OF ATTACHMENT — WHY WE LOVE THE WAY WE DO
• THE ROOTS BENEATH THE PATTERN — CHILDHOOD, CARE, AND THE NERVOUS SYSTEM
• THE MIRROR EFFECT — HOW WE RECREATE THE FAMILIAR IN LOVE
• ANXIOUS HEARTS — THE FEAR OF LOSING CONNECTION
• THE WALLS WE BUILD — AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT AND THE FEAR OF BEING KNOWN
• WHEN LOVE FEELS UNSAFE — THE PUSH AND PULL OF DISORGANISED ATTACHMENT
• THE SECURE BASE — WHAT HEALTHY ATTACHMENT REALLY FEELS LIKE
• REWIRING ATTACHMENT — HEALING THROUGH AWARENESS AND PRACTICE
• SPEAKING ACROSS DIFFERENCES — BRIDGING EMOTIONAL, CULTURAL, AND PERSONALITY GAPS
• THE COURAGE TO STAY OPEN — VULNERABILITY AS THE LANGUAGE OF LASTING LOVE
• THE EQUATION OF CONSCIOUS LOVE — INTEGRATING PAST, PRESENT, AND POSSIBILITY