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Chapter One
WHOâS PAINTING THE
PORTRAIT OF YOUR LIFE?
The Power of Intentional Living
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Every painter paints himself.
âCĂSIMO DEâ MEDICI, FLORENTINE STATESMAN
I was going to have cosmetic surgery until I noticed that the doctorâs office was full of portraits by Picasso.
âRITA RUDNER, COMEDIAN
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A great life doesnât happen by accident. My wife, Kathleen, and I are regular visitors to the Huntington Library, Gardens, and Art Collection in Pasadena, California. Founded by Henry and Arabella Huntington, it is housed in the large Beaux Arts mansion (designed by architect Myron Hunt) they built shortly after the turn of the twentieth century; the home was transformed into a museum after Henryâs death in 1927. At the age of sixty Henry retired from his extensive business interests in order to devote time to his book and art collections and the landscaping of his six hundredâacre ranch on which the mansion stands in San Marino, near Pasadena.
Among other outstanding collections, the museum boasts an incredible hall of portraits called the Thornton Portrait Gallery. As I walked through the halls looking at the political, artistic, social, and military leaders featured in the portraits, I was gripped by a distinct sense of âintentionâ in their faces. These were leaders from another century who lived strategically and with purpose. They didnât leave much to chance when it came to ambition and career goals.
Leaders of the nineteenth century were good at knowing their One Big Thing.
Walking through that gallery I realized that one of the key reasons these men and women were great was because they had discovered the power of focus. In todayâs culture it might seem restrictive to guide a young man or woman from childhood into a career in law, politics, the military, or music. Certainly in those days the options for a woman or member of a minority were far more limited than today.
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But in the vast majority of cases, their lives were âdesignedâ by their parents or their station in life. Few fought it, because at the time that was simply the way life was lived. They were all focused on One Big Thing. They had serious ambition, and lived lives of intentionality. As I studied the paintings of military generals, architects, writers and artists, business and government leaders, I wondered about the place of ambition in my own life. What would have happened had I lived my life more intentionally?
What could have happened if I had discovered my one thing sooner?
I wonder if today weâve become the victims of a desire to just live life as it comesâto assume that whatever works out is the best path. Especially if youâre a child of the â60s, living a random life sounds somewhat romantic, but real influence in the world doesnât come at random. It rarely happens by accident. My father was a preacher from the South and had little knowledge of applying strategy to the art of living. As a result, I was well into my adult life before I even considered career planning or anything close to it. And by then it was pretty late.
Plus, coming from the Christian tradition as I do, it was actually frowned upon to take charge of our own lives. âWait upon the Lordâ was a refrain I heard a million times in church. We were encouraged to âseek His will for our lives,â and see where He took us.
Today I look back and realize just how naĂŻve I was. While each of those phrases is true, theyâre not referring to avoiding the hard work of discovering our place in this world. Jesus was a strong advocate of understanding the signs of the times and building upon a strong foundation:
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Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash. (Matthew 7:24â27 NIV)
Without living strategically, our life could become a catastrophe. Walking through the Huntington Libraryâs portrait gallery these questions swirled around in my mind:
⢠What if from an early age, my parents had been looking for areas in which I excelled?
⢠What if they had focused my education to take advantage of those areas?
⢠What if my father had encouraged me to pursue a specific career?
⢠And even if I had picked it myself later, what if I had been more serious?
⢠What if I had pursued my goals with more conviction?
âThings may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.â Iâm told that quote is attributed to Abraham Lincoln, but hasnât been officially confirmed or denied by historians. (Did President Lincoln actually use the word hustle?) But either way, I like it. In many circles today, ambition is an ugly word. But the truth is, whatâs wrong with it? As long as itâs braced with humility, whatâs wrong with planning, thinking ahead, and the desire to achieve something significant with our time on earth?
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To influence todayâs culture, we need to have the experience, credentials, and relationships that only come by strategic living. Walking through that museum and staring up at those powerful portraits, I realized that great leaders of the past didnât just take life as it cameâthey understood how to make life happen.
WHATâS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A JOB AND A DREAM?
One of my closest friends from high school has never discovered his one thing, and lives a life of misery. He began college with great excitement, but dropped out because he eventually lost interest. At one point he thought he wanted to be an actor, so he came to Hollywood. After a few years of failure, he took a class and became a real estate agent, but didnât last long there. He married, but the stress of never finding the right job broke that relationship apart.
Today, in his mid-fifties, heâs working at a local coffee shop. Every day he reads the want ads, every day he scans the Internet for get-rich-quick ideas, and every day despairs of finding a dream he could call his own.
Heâs always worked hard, but the difference between a job and a dream has never been more clear than in the life of my friend.
What about you?
Is it time to discover the difference between a job and a dream?
Is it time to start living with purpose, intention, and ambition?
Whoâs painting the portrait of your life?
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Chapter Two
DO WE REALLY
HAVE A DESTINY?
Lifeâs Loaded Question
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You canât wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.
âJACK LONDON, NOVELIST
If you donât know where you are going, youâll end up some place else.
âYOGI BERRA, BASEBALL LEGEND
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The issue of destiny is a loaded question. Nearly everyone wants to believe in the concept. Atheists may believe that thereâs no God, no purpose, and no point to life, but itâs pretty tough living that philosophy out ...