1 Getting Acquainted with Neighbours on the Block
On a Sunday afternoon, 7 June 2009, 13 residents of the southern end of Good and Gold streets came together in a park that joined their two streets to discuss how they could get to know each other better and how together they might build a community on their streets that could better meet their needs. Seventeen days later, on the evening of 24 June 2009, 13 residents of Bertha Street convened at the nearby NG Kerk to discuss the same concerns.
The two meetings were the first fruits of a collaboration between University of Johannesburg organisers and Sophiatown residents. The initial meeting was organised by Judi Bennett and Clement Baai, residents of Good Street, and Dave Thelen and Tom Chapman, then coordinators of field work for the UJ Sophiatown Project. Judi and Clement distributed fliers inviting their neighbours to the Good and Gold streets meeting. Tom and Dave approached residents of Bertha Street as they arrived home from work in the evenings and invited them to the Bertha Street meeting. The organisers told residents that the conversations would centre on what people liked and disliked about life in Sophiatown, how they wanted to reshape that life and how they could get to know their neighbours better.
When the conversations began, few of the participants knew each other. Some had lived for decades in Sophiatown. Others had moved there quite recently. With Dave facilitating, the conversations revolved around concerns about getting to know neighbours better and making a difference in shaping the communityâs future. Residents took the conversations in several different directions. Some spoke of their intimate hopes and fears about staying here. Others referred to how personal experiences in the nation and Sophiatown had shaped their perspectives on life here. They brought up experiences and perspectives they shared as well as those they disagreed about. But by the end of both two-hour meetings, most participants said that they felt that the conversations had brought them closer together and they looked forward to carrying this further at future meetings.
Block Group Meeting
Good and Gold Streets
7 June 2009*
First meeting of Good and Gold streets block group
Elise and Clement in small group conversation
Dave Thelen: Youâve been talking with each other in small groups. Can you report now what you discussed in your group about what struck you as important when you were thinking about moving or leaving here, what you like about life here, what is less attractive?
Judi Bennett: Sarel, you and I have just about had the entire discussion without the microphone so we will have to start over again.
Sarel van der Berg: We moved in here about 1973. Itâs a beautiful place to stay in. You could go to the shops and leave your door open. We did leave it open and nothing happened. Triomf was Telkomâs area. Most of the blokes in Telkom stayed in Triomf. Other owners were the police and bus drivers.
Elise: Clement and I spoke about how long we both have lived here and what we would like to see in the area, like a community centre â a recreation place for kids, adults, a library, that type of thing â where you donât have to go out of the area to other areas to enjoy those facilities, but you can actually have it in the area.
Dave: And were there things you specifically liked here?
Clement Baai: We came from different areas. I said to Elise that my reasons for moving here were number one, affordability, number two, the place is very central. Itâs quite safe. Look, there are some incidents, we heard about a few incidents, but itâs quite safe. And then also the history of this place.
Dave: What do you mean by that?
Clement: Look, we know how Sophiatown happened. We know it was Sophiatown first, Triomf, then again Sophiatown. We know about the Miriam Makebas, the Desmond Tutus. We know that this was the area where all the races lived together. And I just found out a few years ago that my house was a photo studio. We never knew, you understand. I was saying that you guys are walking on holy ground here. We know that Meadowlands people are coming from here. A certain part of Westbury and Newclare was born out of Triomf/Sophiatown. So I was saying to Bashni that a gathering like this is good in a sense that one of my daughters is in her sonâs class. Weâve never formally introduced each other. Today weâve met, you understand. And then through this gathering, our children are going to benefit. When Iâm not here, if Auntie Bettie sees someone standing here in front of my gate, she should say, âHeya, what are you doing here? Clement is not here. Who are you?â I just found out the lady at the corner house passed away a month ago. I only found out a week after. When I went to go sympathise, the man said, âI didnât know who to tell in the street.â Which is so sad.
Dave: Does that sound familiar to others?
Mervyn Naidoo: As Clement said we feel the same way. Weâve got kids in the same class and the same school, but we donât know each other. There is no communication. Nobody wants to take the time to get to know your neighbour. We are four years in this area. What we found is that a lot of the white folks in the area are unfriendly. When we greet them they donât greet back. Itâs sad.
Judi: Well, Sarel and Bettie were talking about the old days when this park was a place their children played, with the little cars and etc. and what I noticed here is you donât see that any longer. Inherently we are very similar and we would like to live our lives as they lived in Triomf and the areas I lived in. We have similar things in common. It seems that because we lived in different areas we have not found the common ground we have. I would also like to see the children play safely. I would like to see the children play in the street; and in the same way, I would like to see what Sarel saw in the past happen all over again, irrespective of the colour of the child. It just has to be the community that you want to see, the way you remember it.
Dave: How do you remember it? The same way?
Sarel and his wife, Malie Moodliar and Judi in small group conversation
Bettie Pretorius: The same way as it was. We lived here now 28 years in this house. To me itâs still the same except the children canât play outside. And now they canât play rugby in the field.
Mervyn: The kids are scared of the hooligans. I wouldnât allow our kids out of the gates if Iâm not here. They play with the bikes on the road and itâs safe, but if we see the hooligans on the road we take them back in.
Clement: I was just saying to Elise about three weeks ago I came past here and there was a group of 15 school children sitting here. Boys and girls and they were drinking. I chased them away. The thing is they are not even from this area. So our children canât come and play here. And then they have the audacity to say to me, âItâs my money. I bought the liquor with my money.â But the thing is, they wonât be allowed to go and buy. They get someone else to buy it for them. I believe that it is the car guards. These are the type of things that we must come up against. We canât allow people to come and sit here. Look at this thing. Someone was sitting there and drinking.
Mervyn: We see it all the time. My neighbour, the pastor, gets his boy and comes and cleans up and itâs not right.
Judi: Whose responsibility is that in a sense? Firstly itâs against the law to drink in public, so we could have called the police. We could have had people make sure this is a no-go area. This is a park and this is what is allowed in a park. I think sometimes we tend to see things but donât take responsibility. I want to stress the aspect, until we got to know each other, we didnât know who was going to do it. Now that we do know each other we need to take responsibility for our own area, be a bit more proactive. These things donât need to happen. I believe if those children know there is an area that those aunties and uncles are going to give you a hard time, they are going to avoid it. We take ownership of it. As adults we shouldnât neglect our responsibility to teach children that what you are doing is wrong. Whether they accept it or not we still have to try.
Mervyn: I have actually tried to do that once when they abused the swings and they told me, âItâs not yours, go away.â You donât want a confrontation because the parents can shoot you.
Judi: Now you mention something about someone going to take out a gun and shoot you; and we carry on living in this particular mindset. We also pass that on to our children. We become more and more drawn in, blocked in, and we are always afraid. Besides, if the guy came with a gun, ons moer and bliksem and donner. Take the gun away.
Mervyn: At the same time the neighbour doesnât want to take a chance either.
Judi: Thatâs why we need to get to know each other. Itâs not a matter of you just getting to know your neighbour. Itâs sometimes a matter of seeing another person in the same way that you would see yourself and treat each other in the same way that you would want to be treated. And you find the old fashioned clichĂ©, respect breeds respect. By knowing each other, we get to understand each other. Letâs go a little further.
Elise: Itâs safer not to get involved but then you are going to let things happen.
Judi: But if you teach that to your child weâre going to eventually live in communities where everything is bricked in. We are going to have to press our fingers to open the gate. We will be bricked in. You might as well close down the park area and weâre not going to do anything about it because weâre not getting involved.
Mervyn: But the thing is we canât do it alone.
Judi: No, I agree, and that is why we have to do it as a forum. He spoke about so many things that weâre not aware of. We didnât know there was a committee in this area. So ba...