Rules of the Game

Neil Strauss

• Publisher: It Books
• Year: 2012
• ISBN:
  9780062130105
• Topic: Sciences sociales
• Subtopic: Culture populaire

If you want to play the Game, you've got to know the Rules.

In his international bestseller The Game, Neil Strauss delved into the secret world of pick-up artists—men who have created a science out of the art of seduction. Not only did he reveal the techniques that they had developed, but he became a master of The Game, and the world's No. 1 PUA, as Style.

Now, in this bestselling companion, Strauss reduces three books of life-changing knowledge into a single-volume set. The first book, The Stylelife Challenge, breaks down the knowledge he learned and techniques he invented into simple step-by-step instructions that anyone can follow to meet and land the women of their dreams.

In the second book, Strauss takes readers into the dark side of The Game. The Style Diaries offers a series of tales of seduction and sexual (mis)adventure. From accidentally getting married during a drunken night in Reykjavik, to luring a famous musician's granddaughter into a threesome; to the stress and frustration of the torturous and highly unorthodox "30 Day Sex Experiment, " The Style Diaries takes you further into the seduction underworld than ever before. Finally, in the all-new, updated third volume, Strauss collects the greatest, most powerful, field-tested, word-for-word routines.

You don't need money, looks, or fame to succeed with women. All you need is an understanding of how attraction works—and this thirty-day workout program for your social skills, which has already guided countless men from frustration to fulfillment.

THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE

DEDICATION

THE TEMPTATION TO READ THIS BOOK COVER TO COVER
IN A FEW SITTINGS MAY BE STRONG.

THAT’S NORMALLY HOW BOOKS WORK.

NOT THIS ONE.

FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS ONE DAY AT A TIME.
STUDY THE ATTACHED BRIEFINGS.
PERFORM THE FIELD MISSIONS.

AND DO NOT SKIP AHEAD.

MISSING A SINGLE LESSON OR EXPERIENCE WILL AFFECT
YOUR RESULTS, YOUR GAME, YOUR LIFE.

YOU’VE BEEN WARNED.

FEEDBACK FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS IN THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE

“All I have to say about the Challenge is, ‘Wow.’ Before this month, I had never approached a woman or been on a date. I just had three dates in three days, and I have more numbers to follow up on.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: DIABOLICAL

“This Challenge has been the most inspirational month in my entire life. I feel like I’ve achieved so much! Taking into account that all of this happened in just thirty days makes it unbelievable!!! Seriously, this was the only area in my life that kept me from being absolutely at peace or absolutely happy: women!”

—CHALLENGER NAME: TONY23

“Since the Challenge, I’ve heard I am a winner, amazing, perfect, one of a kind, her soul mate, and unbelievable! Thanks, Neil, for the Challenge!”

—CHALLENGER NAME: GODROCK73

“This is one of the best things I have ever participated in… It has been lifechanging.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: MAIDENMAN

“I’ve gotten more great responses from girls this week than I’ve ever had in my whole life. People I know are already telling me I’m different and charismatic now.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: SAMX

“I already have a girlfriend, and I have no problems with girls. So why did I do the Challenge? Self-improvement. I must say, it has been an incredible boost, both to my self-confidence and to how others see me. I work as a waiter, and now customers are asking for me, girls are constantly approaching me, my tips are much bigger, and people want me to join their parties all the time. Everyone wants to be with me and in my inner circle, and everyone notices how good I feel about myself—and it wasn’t like this before.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: RACEHORSE

“She was French-kissing me and asking if she could see me when she gets back on Tuesday. I can’t wait. She’s not only beautiful but smart and kind. Were it not for Neil and the Stylelife Challenge, this never would have happened.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: APOLLO

“Neil Strauss has given me a gift of life. I can’t describe anything better. Just thanks.”

—CHALLENGERNAME: LIZARD

“Waking up each morning is a treat since I started the Challenge. I have a certain excitement about me, like a child on Christmas morning getting ready to open presents, as I march upstairs to my office to see what’s next for today. It’s really an experience I’ll never forget.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: REIGN STORM

“This has been one of the most incredible experiences I have had in my entire life. Thank you so much for literally changing my whole life.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: BOY

“This is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life! I am so far out of my comfort zone, words can’t describe it! And I’m having more and more fun!”

—CHALLENGER NAME: GRINDER73

“I have done a lot of what I would consider to be intense things in my life, but in a way, this beats just about anything I’ve done, because it is literally changing my own perception of reality and what is in the realm of possibility for me. I would like to live the Stylelife Challenge every month.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: LPIE

“Thank you, Neil… You’ll be remembered for this forever. This is not just another book or a seminar. This is a really big deal!! One day I’ll shake your hand and find a way to really thank you for changing my life!”

—CHALLENGER NAME: GRAND

“Neil, thanks a lot for this life-changing experience… Your efforts have had a great impact on my life. Not only will I use the information that I learned in my love life but also in all other aspects of my life.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: BYRON

“To be honest, I never thought Neil was going to pull this off. I mean, successfully breaking down the seduction game in thirty steps isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do. But Neil did an awesome job. Great material. Great people. Great results.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: VELOS

“I have read plenty of dating books and seduction manuals. I think the material presented in the Stylelife Challenge is simply the best of the lot. Kudos to Neil for offering the best.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: ALBINO

“I have to say, if you are serious about getting the dating aspect of your life handled, and you consciously don’t do, or even read, Neil’s Stylelife Challenge, then you need to really look at yourself and ask yourself what it is you truly want. Neil is giving us what no one in history has given.”

—CHALLENGER NAME: BIG SEND

THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE CONTENTS

DEDICATION

INTRODUCTION: WHY ARE WE HERE?

HOW TO PLAY THE GAME

THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE—DAILY MISSIONS

DAY 1

DAY 2

DAY 3

DAY 4

DAY 5

DAY 6

DAY 7

DAY 8

DAY 9

DAY 10

DAY 11

DAY 12

DAY 13

DAY 14

MIDPOINT COACHING SESSION

DAY 15

DAY 16

DAY 17

DAY 18

DAY 19

DAY 20

DAY 21

DAY 22

DAY 23

DAY 24

DAY 25

DAY 26

DAY 27

DAY 28

DAY 29

DAY 30

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

INTRODUCTION

Why Are We Here?

I didn’t want to write this book.

In fact, it’s something I thought I’d never do.

I am as embarrassed to write this as you may be to pick it up. And that’s fine. It means we’re in this together.

Let me tell you why I’m embarrassed. Then I’ll tell you why you’re embarrassed. And then we’ll agree to move on and recognize that we’re here on the same page for a reason.

I spent my teens and most of my twenties lonely, desperate, and woefully inexperienced, sitting mutely on the sidelines while women obsessed over guys whose appeal boggled me.

At the lowest point in my dating career, after a two-year dry spell, I actually started surfing mail-order bride catalogs on the internet—Russian, Latin, Asian—bookmarking the pages of girls I thought I could learn to live with. I believed there was now...